San Diego bishop calls for a practical ‘apology’ to L.G.B.T. Catholics

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I understand now what you are saying. You agree with the Pope even though plenty of Church documents suggest the Church teaching supports the belief Baptism is necessary to remove original sin, and it is through baptism we become adopted children of God. It is the Churches teaching you disagree with, and you say that apparently the Pope does also.
Close enough. I would say that I am not sure that the Church mandates a belief that only Christians are children of God. To the extent the Church does mandate such a belief, I disagree. I do disagree with the Church on a few things, and I try to be intellectually honest and admit where my beliefs diverge from the Church’s, rather than simply argue that the Church believes as I do. I think too many people do that.
As I said before you may be misunderstanding what the Pope said, if so, maybe you should not base your beliefs on a misunderstanding. Going against the teachings of the Church is your choice, but I felt it necessary to help you understand why I think it is wrong to go against what has been taught to Christians and Catholics for 2000 years. Either they were wrong and you are right, or it is the other way around.
I would say there is some very small chance that I am misunderstanding the Pope, but frankly it is very small. If you google Pope Francis and children of God you will find many quotes of his that are pretty clear. I don’t see how he could misspeak so clearly so many times.

I understand what you are saying, but I have to believe what I think is right, after inquiry and reflection. As for the difference between my belief and that of the Church for these many years, I don’t see it as the stark dichotomy that you do, but even if the break were that sharp, I am also comfortable with that.
 
Close enough. I would say that I am not sure that the Church mandates a belief that only Christians are children of God. To the extent the Church does mandate such a belief, I disagree. I do disagree with the Church on a few things, and I try to be intellectually honest and admit where my beliefs diverge from the Church’s, rather than simply argue that the Church believes as I do. I think too many people do that.

I would say there is some very small chance that I am misunderstanding the Pope, but frankly it is very small. If you google Pope Francis and children of God you will find many quotes of his that are pretty clear. I don’t see how he could misspeak so clearly so many times.

I understand what you are saying, but I have to believe what I think is right, after inquiry and reflection. As for the difference between my belief and that of the Church for these many years, I don’t see it as the stark dichotomy that you do, but even if the break were that sharp, I am also comfortable with that.
Thank you for that clarity. I apologize if I was a bit strong on my answers, but you see I believe it is very important that we do not overlook why the Son of God was born into this world. All the Christmas carols sing about this, remember “long, lay the world in sin and error, till He appeared and the soul felt it’s worth” from O Holy Night? Through centuries people have understood the significance of Jesus Christ being born into this world to save us from our sins. He taught the apostles to go preach the Good News and baptize them, for then we are children of God. It is so clear to me, but not to you, so we will have to agree to disagree again. 🙂
 
My question: How are LGBT Catholics excluded from the life of the Church?

There is no Catholic Church with a person who asks for your sexual orientation before you go in. And a practical observation: there is no way to tell if someone is gay or lesbian. None.

Everyone is welcome at Mass. Everyone.

God bless,
Ed
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Absolutely right, everyone is welcome. We must welcome all, but we cannot condone living lifestyles that are contrary to Church teachings.
 
Thank you for that clarity. I apologize if I was a bit strong on my answers, but you see I believe it is very important that we do not overlook why the Son of God was born into this world. All the Christmas carols sing about this, remember “long, lay the world in sin and error, till He appeared and the soul felt it’s worth” from O Holy Night? Through centuries people have understood the significance of Jesus Christ being born into this world to save us from our sins. He taught the apostles to go preach the Good News and baptize them, for then we are children of God. It is so clear to me, but not to you, so we will have to agree to disagree again. 🙂
I appreciate that we both feel strongly about our faith, and that we are able to discuss it. Strong beliefs sometimes lead to strong word; I am as guilty of that as anyone else. We don’t agree on everything, in fact we probably disagree on a lot of things. But we both believe in Christ, so we are closer than we probably think.
 
That is how I read scripture and how I understand God’s relationship to humankind.
But in scripture, the lost are never referred to as God’s children. In fact, Eph 2:3 tells us that before coming to faith, we were “by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind”. Ro 9:8 says that “it is not the natural children who are God’s children, but it is the children of the promise who are regarded as Abraham’s offspring.”

So there you have it. Scripture clearly states that there are those who are NOT God’s children.
I don’t have a proof text to offer you because my understanding is not based on a single passage, but on a lifetime of prayer and reflection. I am not saying that should convince you, but the fact that the Pope (and, I believe, many others) agree with me gives me comfort that my position is at least consistent with Catholicism.
Your position is only consistent with Catholicism if you understand the proper distinction made between children of God in the natural sense of being God’s creation - created in his image and likeness and children of God in the supernatural sense through adoption and God’s covenant faithfulness. And I’m sure that the pope understands this distinction.
 
But in scripture, the lost are never referred to as God’s children. In fact, Eph 2:3 tells us that before coming to faith, we were “by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind”. Ro 9:8 says that “it is not the natural children who are God’s children, but it is the children of the promise who are regarded as Abraham’s offspring.”

So there you have it. Scripture clearly states that there are those who are NOT God’s children.

Your position is only consistent with Catholicism if you understand the proper distinction made between children of God in the natural sense of being God’s creation - created in his image and likeness and children of God in the supernatural sense through adoption and God’s covenant faithfulness. And I’m sure that the pope understands this distinction.
I’m not going to endlessly debate this. My position is certainly consistent with the Pope’s position. I think it is also consistent with Catholicism. Even if it were not, I am comfortable with it.
 
I’m not going to endlessly debate this. My position is certainly consistent with the Pope’s position. I think it is also consistent with Catholicism. Even if it were not, I am comfortable with it.
I would suppose that the pope speaks of ‘all’ being the children of God because he is typically addressing those he presumes to be baptized believers. One exception to this is when he was addressing his prayer intentions and was speaking of all those of various world religions joining in solidarity for the common good of the human family, which as has been stated, is meant differently than when referring to believers.

The pope clearly understands the difference. Here are a few examples:

During one of his General Audiences: “By pronouncing these words, we affirm our true identity as children of God,” the Pope said. “In a certain sense, Baptism is the identification card of the children of God, his certificate of birth, it is the birth certificate of the Church.”
In his encyclical Lumen Fidei:
“In this way, through immersion in water, baptism speaks to us of the incarnational structure of faith. Christ’s work penetrates the depths of our being and transforms us radically, making us adopted children of God and sharers in the divine nature. It thus modifies all our relationships, our place in this world and in the universe, and opens them to God’s own life of communion.” (6/29/13, Lumen Fidei no. 42)
Below, Pope Francis clearly makes a distinction between the believer and the rest of the human race:
The encounter between communication and mercy will be fruitful to the degree that it generates a closeness which cares, comforts, heals, accompanies and celebrates. In a broken, fragmented and polarized world, to communicate with mercy means to help create a healthy, free and fraternal closeness between the children of God and all our brothers and sisters in the one human family. (1/24/16, Communications)

But I suppose, as you have stated more than once, even if it is clearly demonstrated to you that this is what the Church teaches (whether I suppose as witnessed by scripture, sacred tradition, the Catechism, or the pope himself), you would simply disagree. So the next question would be why would you not submit to the obedience of faith in this regard?
 
I think the Church needs to make clear that this is a top down issue. The treatment of gays wasn’t initiated from the laymen. Talk to any gay Catholic over the age of 55. They’ll most likely tell you that they felt rejected by Church, not necessarily their family. Laymen are not, mostly, responsible for these types of things, just as with child abuse cases.
I would argue that the reason why they feel “rejected” is because they disagree with the Church’s constant teaching on the issue of homosexuality. They want the church to say that homosexual acts are no longer a sin and that they can now do as they please. 🤷
 
I guess I’m curious to know upon what basis do you make the assertion that all people are children of God? And what distinction do you make then regarding Christians being considered children of God?
We are all children of God since humanity is made in God’s image.
 
We are all children of God since humanity is made in God’s image.
And does being created by God in His image automatically make one part of God’s family, as his children? If so then what happens at Baptism?
Why then do we become adopted as God’s children if we already His children as a result of our creation?
 
We are all children of God since humanity is made in God’s image.
If simply being created by God is the only standard for being a child of God, then satan and his demons are “children of God” because God created them as well. But I don’t believe anyone claims they are “children of God”, do they?
 
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:hmmm: The Bishop called … and I missed it.

He’s San Diego’s Bishop and I live in OC … but I shouldn’t just presume the call is not for me.

THEN I find out the call is really a relay call from the POPE!

Somebody or other is supposed to apologize to LGBT Catholics! Or practically apologize.

Usually when I apologize, I’ve done something wrong. And offhand I can’t right away think of how I’ve wronged any “LGBT Catholics”.

Glad they’re Catholics though. THAT lifestyle will get you into heaven if you do it right.

And when I consider what the alphabetical initials in the other lifestyles stand for … it’s rather nice that they have progressed to being down to just those initials. In fact, if memory serves, there used to be a Q in there … and now there’s not. Perhaps that represents a progression into the Catholic altogether?

So far this is not much of an apology. So I will ramp up with whatever I can think of until I progress to the appropriately responsive level the Catholic hierarchy may be hinting at.
]“I’m sorry L’s. In my youth I may have been inadvertantly competing with you for the affections of attractive single women from time to time. 🤷
Sorry G’s … I’ve never been attracted to any of you (romantically or sexually anyhow … and I don’t even think about that, ever).
B’s? I halfway don’t understand you … and while I must admit that Jesus’ command to love our neighbors (even enemies!) is very far reaching … I’m sorry … I still feel like even THAT virtue can be taken too far and you may have found that way (when I consider some implied details of that lifestyle).
T’s? Well. Some of you were created by God with an abundance of body parts that would seem to justify your getting medical help to fit in with a basically two sex society. I have not thought much about your predicament … and may not again … but I wish you well and hope you get to heaven (and I probably haven’t said so before).
To those of you considering “sexual reassignment” surgeries when your initial assignment was to a specific sex per body parts … I’m sorry … my counsel would be to trust in the original assigner – rather than the fashionable medical innovators who don’t have your complete well being in mind as much.
:confused: OR could it be that I should apologize for not including all the above groups in my prayer requests? THAT I’m “guilty” of … though it’s a sin of omission. And sometimes I don’t pray at ALL!

Warming up now. I must admit that when other people revealed their contempt for folks with these problems (like the one boy who always tried to recruit people to throw rocks at people coming out of the local gay bar - < - without success I might add, we ALL wondered what** his**** problem was, and ignored him) I didn’t DEFEND you much other than that. And if pressed I would admit to disapproving of your lifestyle vs. approving of it.

For those of you who sincerely are coming to Church hoping for support in our COMMON struggle to overcome sin(s) … I’M SINCERELY sorry for perhaps being aloof, cold, skeptical, or not much help to you. Or perhaps falling to a spiritual superiority complex like the Pharisee that chirped to God of his own virtues in a fit of self-congratulation … while vibing and detesting the humble, repentant publican (tax collector) in one of Jesus’ parables.

I DO note too that other Bishops and the Pope have said other things and made other “calls” that perhaps qualify the first impressions readers might get when reading the cryptic headlines to articles like this. And drawing false conclusions.

washingtontimes.com/news/2016/may/16/catholic-bishops-slam-obamas-disturbing-transgende/

Catholic bishops slam Obama’s ‘disturbing’ transgender bathroom order

Having dwelt on the sins of others’ lifestyles, I will consider my own shortcomings and seek graces from Our Lord. He wants us all. He does warn us about things … but for now … let’s consider his encouragements and invitation to do better and progress in holy
unity.
John 6:37 – Everything that the Father gives me will come to me, and I will not reject anyone who comes to me,
**2 Peter 3:9 – **The Lord does not delay his promise, as some regard “delay,” but he is patient with you, not wishing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
**Isaiah 1:18 – *Come now, let us set things right, says the LORD:
Though your sins be like scarlet, they may become white as snow;
Though they be red like crimson, they may become white as wool.
 
There’s no shortage of Catholics that aren’t shy about saying that they will destroy the family and are damaging our society with their marriages. Are all priests welcoming of gay people? They tend to get fired from Catholic schools. You have people like the Lepanto Institute on a witch hunt to expose all the gay people working for Catholic orgs. That’s what persecution looks like.
So it is persecution to say that behaviors, the more widespread they become, will affect society? The open acceptance and normalization of homosexuality has harmed society. Homosexuality itself is harmful to the individual, morally, emotionally, and physically.

Now if saying so is persecution, then we also owe apologies to smokers, heavy drinkers, and the obese.

The word ‘welcoming’ has become meaningless. I would venture that almost every priest accepts any gay person just as they do anyone else. But if by ‘welcoming,’ we mean the modern ‘condone, approve, and celebrate,’ then no. And they should not be, any more than they should condone, approve, or celebrate cohabitation or masturbation.

Anyone who works for any group while living in stark opposition to its beliefs will be fired. How many pro-lifers are allowed to work the front desk at Planned Parenthood? Is a Ku Klux Klan member allowed to become a pastor at a black Baptist church? Will a soccer coach retain his job if he insists on teaching the kids to play football instead of soccer?

A Catholic school exists to teach the faith, along with education. How can it teach the faith when the very teachers are living are living in stark defiance of the faith? These teachers are undermining a major purpose of the school. This is not ‘persecution,’ it’s what every business and organization does and has a right to do–promote its own goals.
Indeed, “because of the bond which unites us to one another in the Mystical Body, all of us, though not personally responsible and without encroaching on the judgement of God who alone knows every heart, bear the burden of the errors and faults of those who have gone before us” (Incarnationis mysterium, n. 11).
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I am more intrigued by the closing statement of the Bishop.
He said all members of the Catholic community who will be struggling with the idea of apology and welcoming gay and lesbian Catholics will similarly require accompaniment and reflection.
As a priest, I am most interested to know his particular insights on how those with the *cura animarum *should seek to re-orient the thoughts of anyone who would hesitate to comply with what is being directed by the Successor of Peter and the Successors of the Apostles.

What I’m not seeing throughout this thread is what those ‘errors and faults of those who have gone before us’ are. Teaching what the Bible says? Teaching what every major world religion has taught for thousands of years?

And frankly, I find even the words ‘those who would hesitate to comply’ to be rather Orwellian and creepy.

Also, I’d like to know when anyone is going to start talking about Muslims perhaps apologizing for gays actually being thrown off rooftops and murdered. Or when is anyone going to start talking about some of the vicious, ugly things I see some gays saying about people like me? What about the gay supporters at a gay rally who beat two men severely for merely standing there?

I’d like to hear a discussion about the groups that have been attacking Catholic Churches in South America, and sexually and physically assaulting the men who stand prayerfully around those churches arm in arm, trying to protect the House of God–including fondling these men’s privates, shoving women’s underwear in their faces, and spraying them with pepper spray and paint, aiming for the eyes.

On a personal note, I recently had a friend jump to a number of conclusions and decide he would try to harm my livelihood, my very ability to feed and house my children. I find it just a bit hypocritical that someone would tell me to apologize, refuse to specify what exactly it is I have done, and ignore the fact that the so-called persecuted people are so very often the ones actually assaulting others, verbally, physically, and striking at their livelihood. And for what? For not approving of their sexual actions.
 
So it is persecution to say that behaviors, the more widespread they become, will affect society? The open acceptance and normalization of homosexuality has harmed society. Homosexuality itself is harmful to the individual, morally, emotionally, and physically.

Now if saying so is persecution, then we also owe apologies to smokers, heavy drinkers, and the obese.

The word ‘welcoming’ has become meaningless. I would venture that almost every priest accepts any gay person just as they do anyone else. But if by ‘welcoming,’ we mean the modern ‘condone, approve, and celebrate,’ then no. And they should not be, any more than they should condone, approve, or celebrate cohabitation or masturbation.

Anyone who works for any group while living in stark opposition to its beliefs will be fired. How many pro-lifers are allowed to work the front desk at Planned Parenthood? Is a Ku Klux Klan member allowed to become a pastor at a black Baptist church? Will a soccer coach retain his job if he insists on teaching the kids to play football instead of soccer?

A Catholic school exists to teach the faith, along with education. How can it teach the faith when the very teachers are living are living in stark defiance of the faith? These teachers are undermining a major purpose of the school. This is not ‘persecution,’ it’s what every business and organization does and has a right to do–promote its own goals.

What I’m not seeing throughout this thread is what those ‘errors and faults of those who have gone before us’ are. Teaching what the Bible says? Teaching what every major world religion has taught for thousands of years?

And frankly, I find even the words ‘those who would hesitate to comply’ to be rather Orwellian and creepy.

Also, I’d like to know when anyone is going to start talking about Muslims perhaps apologizing for gays actually being thrown off rooftops and murdered. Or when is anyone going to start talking about some of the vicious, ugly things I see some gays saying about people like me? What about the gay supporters at a gay rally who beat two men severely for merely standing there?

I’d like to hear a discussion about the groups that have been attacking Catholic Churches in South America, and sexually and physically assaulting the men who stand prayerfully around those churches arm in arm, trying to protect the House of God–including fondling these men’s privates, shoving women’s underwear in their faces, and spraying them with pepper spray and paint, aiming for the eyes.

On a personal note, I recently had a friend jump to a number of conclusions and decide he would try to harm my livelihood, my very ability to feed and house my children. I find it just a bit hypocritical that someone would tell me to apologize, refuse to specify what exactly it is I have done, and ignore the fact that the so-called persecuted people are so very often the ones actually assaulting others, verbally, physically, and striking at their livelihood. And for what? For not approving of their sexual actions.
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''Another relatively easy step for most dioceses to take by way of institutional apology would be “to seek to collaborate with those in society who are working to banish discrimination and violence leveled against people because of their sexual orientation.”

From a Catholic perspective, that is problematic in my opinion. Per the Catechism, homosexuality is gravely disordered. ‘‘Those who are working to banish discrimination’’, we call those people ‘‘militants’’. And I have yet to meet, hear or hear about a militant for the LGBT community who does not conflate discrimination with lack of total acceptance of the sexual lifestyles of those who are part of that community. Somehow, the people in the Church (clerics and laity) need to be as welcoming as can be with people from the LGBT community, while at the same be unequivocal about the fact that sexuality, in God’s design, is between a woman and a man, in a consecrated union blessed by God, and is meant to be open to life. And that chastity is the only real Christian alternative. And I wonder if the Catholic people (priests, bishop, even the current pope) who try to build bridges with the people who may not feel welcome in the Church always keep in mind that they are the sheperds of these people, and as such, they are at least responsible to tell them the truth. 2Timothy 4:2
 
These artificial sexual issues are trivial in the extreme and are only given prominence due to media money and powerful promoters. We should stop talking about it and ignore it completely.
It’s only used to control people and persecute anyone who “dissent” by criticizing it specifically. Time to make it the absurd irrelevance it is by forgetting all about it. Also there are far worse sexual sins committed by the majority that need our attention and have been ignored for many years now. Focus on adultery for one and the decline of the family as a priority.
 
The pope’s call for Christians to offer an apology to gay and lesbian people was also carefully welcomed this week by Bishop Robert McElroy of San Diego. “I think it opens up a very helpful pathway to dialogue and hopefully healing,” he said. Pope Francis, Bishop McElroy said, brings to this dialogue with L.G.B.T. Catholics who feel marginalized by or alienated from the church a “renewed and deepened focus on the questions of accompaniment and the mercy of God for all of us.”

“We all walk together in a life of virtue and discipleship,” Bishop McElroy said, “and all of us fail at times.”

He adds: “We have to begin to incorporate that mercy into the depths of our hearts and souls in ways that are going to be uncomfortable for us…. We all need to be shown mercy; it is something that binds us together, not differentiates us.”

“What we need to project in the life of the church is ‘You are part of us and we are part of you.’ [L.G.B.T. Catholics] are part of our families.”

That is not going to be an easy process, he acknowledged. It is one that will require preparation and “a lot of discussion and accompaniment and reflection in the church.” Bishop McElroy emphasized that he does not mean that reflection and accompaniment should be limited to L.G.B.T. Catholics. He said all members of the Catholic community who will be struggling with the idea of apology and welcoming gay and lesbian Catholics will similarly require accompaniment and reflection.

americamagazine.org/content/dispatches/digging-deep-mercy-we-all-need
Salutations in Christ,
MY brother was bisexual. Possibly a pediphile. One night, as he was living w us he went into the bathroom and was going to start something with my 12yo son. When he realized what he was going to do to his nephew, he stopped and came downstairs, locked himself in bathroom and tried to commit suicide.I grabbed my Bible and just started reading first thing I came to. Would you believe I know the Bible but I was so upset I begat him to stop. Bible shaking and me a lunatic,trying to get the knife from him. My husband was behind him and told him he’d help him do it right, if he really wanted to do it. He just arrived when Bobby stabbed himself in the leg by accident while I was straining to keep him away from his wrists. I didn’t find out about the shower incident till my son was 35yo and his Uncle’s
Name came up. If he had completed the shower situation, suicide wouldn’t be a concern. Homocide would have taken care of everything.
As I have it, those w different life choices or physical, hormonal and electrical brain rewiring are to love God as the 12th commandment says and read the Bible and be celibate. Body mutilation surgery is not accepted.
Gays have been using the bathrooms ad infinatim.
Transgender and Transvestites have been using the ladies room as well. No law was needed. What we didn’t know didn’t hurt us.
Our concerns is for the heterosexual pervert who will use this bill to violate the privacy of women and young girls.
Men no matter how they are dressed have Strange bowel movements. They leave toilets disgusting. We all have odors we are embarrassed about.But what is it w men, the odors from spouse and sons,etc. Could be made into WMD’s.
God loves every child of His. I don’t agree w these deviations. In nursing school in 1967, homosexuality was a perversion.
Back to God loves all of us BUT NOT OUR SIN. Read the Bible for God’s instructions in that area.
Since the first child abduction=Adam Walsh, no one let’s a child go to the bathroom alone.
Privacy, cleanliness and safety are issues.
Jeremiah 29 / 11. I have a plan for you. It is a good plan. It has no evil. It has a future and a promise.
I had gays and Transgender individuals in my home.
As a nurse for 44yrs= retired now. I don’t know why the treatment isn’t geared for the individual to get his psyche, hormones and brain circuits aligned w the body that God gave him. If you are loved at all, that is the greatest treasure next to our relationship with Jesus.
in Christ’s love
Tweedlealice
 
… I don’t know why the treatment isn’t geared for the individual to get his psyche, hormones and brain circuits aligned w the body that God gave him. If you are loved at all, that is the greatest treasure next to our relationship with Jesus.
in Christ’s love
Tweedlealice
Treatment isn’t geared that way because active homosexuals, especially professionals and “experts” in the clergy, religious and laity, don’t want to be cured. They don’t want to be cured because they convince and support each other, via secular and “Catholic” institutions and groups, that God made them that way; that homosexuality is a gift from God and any attempt to cure them is outrageous and homophobic. Clergy who know the score and attempt to offer real help are pilloried.

Therefore, Christians like you and Courage International who know how to treat the problem are called homophobic and bigots by Catholic and secular homosexuals, politically corrupt politicians, the media and some teachers and professors. Now comes the Holy Father, (because he literally suffers with and for his disordered people, people in irregular marriages, the poor, refugees, etc.) saying in yet another off-the-cuff remark to reporters that Christians should apologize to gays and everyone else who has been discriminated against.

Is it any wonder why, Tweedlealice, that the scales are tipped away from effective treatment?
 
Treatment isn’t geared that way because active homosexuals, especially professionals and “experts” in the clergy, religious and laity, don’t want to be cured. They don’t want to be cured because they convince and support each other, via secular and “Catholic” institutions and groups, that God made them that way; that homosexuality is a gift from God and any attempt to cure them is outrageous and homophobic. Clergy who know the score and attempt to offer real help are pilloried.

Therefore, Christians like you and Courage International who know how to treat the problem are called homophobic and bigots by Catholic and secular homosexuals, politically corrupt politicians, the media and some teachers and professors. Now comes the Holy Father, (because he literally suffers with and for his disordered people, people in irregular marriages, the poor, refugees, etc.) saying in yet another off-the-cuff remark to reporters that Christians should apologize to gays and everyone else who has been discriminated against.

Is it any wonder why, Tweedlealice, that the scales are tipped away from effective treatment?
There never was any effective treatment for us to move away from, only stuff that ranged from useless to outright torture.
 
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