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St_Francis
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Since I was also discussing this issue on this thread, I am posting this here as well.
Thanks, Mongo, for reminding me of this, as it gave me the last piece of the puzzle to put this all together, which I will share.
Now, imagine you are in the olden days… People had to confess to the whole church and perform a looooong penance before being able to receive the Eucharist again. Suddenly, confessions become private and anonymous! What!!! What about your friend who was unable to confess his sin because of the pain it would cause his family, who has since died? What about your cousin, who died before his penance was completed? What does this all mean? Why is it happening?
That’s how I felt about AL. I’m still not happy about it, but accept that that is just my own personal feeling rather than an objective reaction. Objectively, well, it’s not up to me, right?
So, how does this work?
Say that Joe, a non-practicing, non-catechized Catholic, marries Jane but their marriage fails because it was built on sand rather than on a rock (a reason which would allow for a decree of nullify if proven). They had married in the Church because their mothers both thought it was so beautiful. The priest was the sort of person who tended to be a little too accommodating and went along with all this.
Their marriage fails, and some years later, Joe meets Kim, and eventually they decide to marry. Joe is still not practicing or knowledgeable about the Faith, a new priest has come in who refuses to accommodate his mother, and they marry in Kim’s Protestant church.
As the children come along, Kim starts practicing her faith more, and Joe begins to feel a pull to Catholicism. Joe then finds he is unable to get an annulment because (it all happened in another country, all the witnesses have died, or some other reason).
I suggested that Group A had received a fair punishment, which she was willing to concede. I then suggested that we consider the parable of the workers who came in at different times of the day but received the same pay at the end of the day. Obviously neither of us wanted to be like the workers who complained!
For many decades, too many people in the Church hierarchy (in the West, at least) have not encouraged vigorous catechesis and the result is that all too many Catholics are really ignorant of many aspects of the Faith. In the US, our cultural passing-down of the Faith was interrupted by many factors. The Church is a bit of a mess.
I would like to see certain changes, and this is not one of them (the reasons for which I will not go into here
) but this is the one we are getting. I hope that this explanation of my change of heart on this issue will help others.
PS: to all who were negative and dismissive of people who expressed their concerns about this change, it was through my discussions with others on this board which allowed me to come to understand how to think about this. I am really grateful to all those who commented in a helpful way on my thoughts and the thoughts of others who were/are confused about this issue as this all contributed to increased understanding on my part.
Additionally, I believe that people used to have to confess in public.In the past they were far more serious than we are now. **The fathers would give people public penances that lasted years before they were readmitted to communion. **They didn’t see it as ‘complicated’. It was simple, even if it was difficult.
Thanks, Mongo, for reminding me of this, as it gave me the last piece of the puzzle to put this all together, which I will share.
Now, imagine you are in the olden days… People had to confess to the whole church and perform a looooong penance before being able to receive the Eucharist again. Suddenly, confessions become private and anonymous! What!!! What about your friend who was unable to confess his sin because of the pain it would cause his family, who has since died? What about your cousin, who died before his penance was completed? What does this all mean? Why is it happening?
That’s how I felt about AL. I’m still not happy about it, but accept that that is just my own personal feeling rather than an objective reaction. Objectively, well, it’s not up to me, right?
So, how does this work?
Say that Joe, a non-practicing, non-catechized Catholic, marries Jane but their marriage fails because it was built on sand rather than on a rock (a reason which would allow for a decree of nullify if proven). They had married in the Church because their mothers both thought it was so beautiful. The priest was the sort of person who tended to be a little too accommodating and went along with all this.
Their marriage fails, and some years later, Joe meets Kim, and eventually they decide to marry. Joe is still not practicing or knowledgeable about the Faith, a new priest has come in who refuses to accommodate his mother, and they marry in Kim’s Protestant church.
As the children come along, Kim starts practicing her faith more, and Joe begins to feel a pull to Catholicism. Joe then finds he is unable to get an annulment because (it all happened in another country, all the witnesses have died, or some other reason).
- Now, the first marriage is either sacramental or not sacramental: *this reality is unaffected by any work the Tribunal does. *The Tribunal is to *discover an already-existing truth, *not to create a truth.
- The ministers of a marriage are the two who are marrying each other. The priest is merely a witness. When marriages take place under Catholic auspices, the Church is sort of approving them rather than conducting them. And this allows the Church to make rules: if your marriage has not been approved by the Church, you are not permitted to receive the Eucharist.
- So, if it is a truth that Joe’s first attempt at marriage was a failure at that time, then he is free to marry. Since there is no *actual *necessity (this is only a discipline) for a priest to be present, then there is no blockage to their marrying sacramentally.
- So Joe and Kim’s marriage would exist in reality as a sacramental marriage, although this reality is unknown to the Church.
I suggested that Group A had received a fair punishment, which she was willing to concede. I then suggested that we consider the parable of the workers who came in at different times of the day but received the same pay at the end of the day. Obviously neither of us wanted to be like the workers who complained!
For many decades, too many people in the Church hierarchy (in the West, at least) have not encouraged vigorous catechesis and the result is that all too many Catholics are really ignorant of many aspects of the Faith. In the US, our cultural passing-down of the Faith was interrupted by many factors. The Church is a bit of a mess.
I would like to see certain changes, and this is not one of them (the reasons for which I will not go into here
PS: to all who were negative and dismissive of people who expressed their concerns about this change, it was through my discussions with others on this board which allowed me to come to understand how to think about this. I am really grateful to all those who commented in a helpful way on my thoughts and the thoughts of others who were/are confused about this issue as this all contributed to increased understanding on my part.