KHFW:
Maybe this is not a forum that offer prayer and support.
Oh, now, don’t go getting like that.
I might call it “pouting” but I do not wish it to sound like I’m calling you “immature.”
You are a new poster to these forums. They are in fact a wonderful fountain of prayer and support. They are also a place where people think out loud, sort through issues raised by others, and try to help in many ways.
When I was new on these forums, I was disturbed that some people seemed quick to point out What Was Wrong With My Thinking. As it turned out, with very few exceptions, every single one of these posts were written by people who either had something they wanted to say about Catholicism and you gave them a platform, or they were honestly looking out for my best interest in the best way they knew how.
Considering your assertion that you are not immature, I never thought that you were immature at first, but now I do after seeing how you reacted to what I thought was mostly kind advice, I do have some concerns. The advice you didn’t like was likely offered in kindness and you are free to disregard it, but lashing back just makes it seem like you have more issues than what you let on. Coming on a forum and judging the whole thing as useless because of the reaction to one experience you have – and you have to admit it dealt with a pretty touchy issue – included other people’s personal opinions speaks of a quickness to judge. See, if you stick around a while we’ll extract all your problems for you.
Also, if you look at your first post on this thread, you might just see why there was speculation you were immature. First of all, a “crush” with no further explanation is the language of a very young, inexperienced lover. Second, your assertion that you were devastated because the priest was not to officiate was a huge red flag that brings to mind a number of questions, and automatically sets our little Catholic community on alert that there is something deeper that could prevent prayer from even working – therefore, the concerns expressed really were directly related to your request. How can we pray for you if it sounds like you might be unintentionally blocking them?
There are several cumulative hours of people you don’t know on this thread, responding to your terse initial post, trying to help you in any way they could, in addition to praying for you. To write them all off as “maybe this forum isn’t a place for prayers” quite frankly, I find a bit childish and personally insulting. If someone makes a wrong assumption on this forum and you correct it, with one exception I have never seen a person not back off. You may truly be saddened that you didn’t hear What You Wanted To Hear.
We do get a bit full of ourselves from time to time, and I personally tend to rattle on and open new cans of worms. That said, please understand that every minute and every hour people spent responding to your posts, were done with Your Best Interest in Mind. Occasionally people get mean, but usually they mellow out or get kicked out. If people have wrong impressions, correct them – you might be surprised at how well we can choke out an apology. When someone asks for prayers, but writes in a way that raises red flags, then we naturally gravitate toward that because you have to bind the strong man in a house before you can take it over.
Now, after offering all that for free, I’ll see if I can give you What You Asked For.
God, I pray, and I ask the agreement of others on this forum, that you bless KHFW and help her through this time of confusion for her, to help make her marriage prosper, and for the productive work of the priest involved. Please open her eyes to the goodness you have to offer, and keep her. I ask this through Christ Your Son, our Lord. Amen.
Peace, KHFW, to you. Please know that you are around good people who have only the best intentions toward you.
Alan
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