I would tell them to read the following lives and times:
Francis of Assisi
Bonaventure
Dominic
Teresa of Avila
Ignatius of Loyola
John Vianney
Vincent de Paul
Mother Teresa
Padre Pio
Maximilian Kolbe
I would couch it like this. If you can show me that you can do better than these folks who lived in similar times of turmoil and change inside and around the Church, then I’ll follow you.
Not a single one of them ever made a comment about a pope, their bishop, their superior or the councils. St. Francis even banned Gregorian chant, communion rails, distinctions between ordained and non ordained friars, and founded the first real order for secular men and women to bridge the gap between the religious life and the secular life. He asked the pope to excommunicate his vicar general for disagreeing with him. The pope did it. No one claimed that the excommunication was invalid or unfair. The Vicar later recanted, agreed with Francis and eventually became the Minister General after Francis’ death. Francis was a lay friar and the vicar was a priest and theologian. Yet, the Church holds this man up as the most perfect Catholic, according to Pope Pius X, Pius XII called him the Mirror of Perfection. Pope Benedict said that he embodied the First Beatitude. And commanded the bishops of the Italian Conference of Bishops to read up on Francis and lean to obey as he did, without questions.
Mother Teresa lived long before Vatican II and long after Vatican II and she radiated the Gospel, the love of Christ and love for the Church without ever having to break obedience to the Church. Which of the SSPX clergy and members can stand next to her?
Teresa of Avila took the Carmelite Order back to its roots without ever denouncing the superiors of the order or the friars and sisters in the order. She was taken before the Inquisition and she did not refuse their authority. She simply answered their questions.
Padre Pio was told not to celebrate mass for the public or hear the confessions of the laity. His only answer was “Obedience, obedience, obedience.”
Dominic and Ignatius converted more heretics than any of the SSPX clergy. Both commanded their sons never to speak an uncharitable word or think an uncharitable thought about the heretics, never to engage in debates with them and to co-exist peacefully among them. They were to preach truth and practice kindness in thought, word and deed. Ignatius said that if you found a fault in another person, be kind to that person.
Francis defended the rights of the Muslims to live without being oppressed by Christians. Dominic defended the rights of the Jews to live in peace. Both won many allies among the Muslims and Jews. We have no idea how many souls they saved. But it may be quite a few. Their kindness and concern for the safety, physical welfare and human rights of the Muslims and Jews won them a place of respect among them.
Vincent de Paul saw the collapse of Catholic France. Instead of going on a preaching campaign, he founded two societies to care for the victims of that collapse. He said that the greatest thing that his sons and daughters could do for Christ and the Church was to take physical care of those who had suffered because of the loss of faith in France. He founded the Congregation of the Mission and the Society of Daughters of Charity. They were to heal, teach, feed, and clothe Christ regardless of the faith or lack of in that person.
Even someone who is still alive, Mother Angelica and Father Frank Pavone, have never broken with obedience. Mother took the example of her spiritual Mother and Father: Clare and Francis, she preached the Gospel, corrected errors, and complied when told to do so.
Father Frank has become the Apostle to the Unborn. Has taken advantage of the Church’s teachings on Ecumenism to bring Protestants, Jews, Muslims, Othodox and even non-beleivers together to proclaim the Gospel of Life in the largest and most influential pro-life ministry in the world.
Maybe you can teach those people who attack, which I hope are not the norm among the SSPX, maybe you can teach them to be saints by pointing them toward these great men and women who left the mark of the Gospel on the world, without having to attack anyone or disobey.
Maximilian became a casualty of the Shoah, not a denier of it. He gave his life to save a Jew.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF