I think what you and your wife are doing is great. I have three sisters and a MIL who have experienced divorced. One sister experienced it about 19 years ago, another 6 years ago and the last one year ago. My MIL was a year ago as well. The only one not adjusting well is my MIL who is much older in her 60’s and was married to a much younger man in his 40’s. She still loves him and is waiting for his return despite the fact that he got remarried this year. My second sister was that way too for about a year or so. I have seen each of these women suffer so much and I am sure the men did too, but in each of these cases they ran off with another woman, so my sisters and my MIL suffered more. Most of all the children suffered. The sad thing is that the people who go to these support group may not be the ones who really need to go to it, but their ex’s are the one who need it the most and won’t go to it. At least, that is my experience from my sisters. They won’t even go for the sake of the children.
I will pray for your new life and your new vocation. I pray that the Lord will bless you both in words and inspiration in how to help each person in each different situation. God Bless.
PS: I am going to tell one of my sisters, of course after she gets her annulment for she is the one who was hoping for her ex to return but no more, that there is hope in finding a good Catholic man out there for you found yourself a good Catholic woman. That will give her hope. She has two small children that need a good man godly man figure in there life instead of a dad who has moved in with two to three different women already and put her above their needs. This is something they have noted themselves and expressed to their father and to my sister and even their therapist. It is sad. I just hope my sister will move on her annulment so that she can find the love of her life to treat her like a queen and so that she won’t have to live so poorly for she is barely making it. Single mom’s work very . I admire them so much doing the job of both father and mother.