Sex and newlyweds!

[StratusRose]

We waited. On our wedding night we kept saying over and over again “I’m so glad we waited.” The honeymoon was great too, but in the middle we had to start abstaining because I am in Phase II. Now we’re waiting again…but won’t have to wait as long as we used to. Our first time wasn’t very awkward, actually. It flowed well. (No pun intended.)

 

[His_Ruby]

Stratus Rose – I remember looking at your meter before I joined and was just floating around forums, we were married the same day, May 5 Congrats to you!

First time was not awkward. It’s all been amazing, not awkward as much as just realizing like Paul said that not every time will bring down the house, but every time is unitive and procreative So very well put!!

I think a bit of it also has to do with the fact that we’ve been having to be restrictive and selective on the “when” given our use of NFP to currently postpone pregnancy. So we haven’t entered into what they call the “honeymoon phase” after my peak when we can be quite spontaneous and less… “restricted,” so to speak, in our week and a half of marriage. Not that I’m complaining… we love NFP for so many reasons.

A million thanks for all your replies!

 

[StratusRose]

Stratus Rose – I remember looking at your meter before I joined and was just floating around forums, we were married the same day, May 5 Congrats to you!

Cool! Did it rain where you were, also?

Congrats to you as well!!

 

[masondoggy]

ahem…practice makes perfect.

 

[His_Ruby]

Cool! Did it rain where you were, also?

Congrats to you as well!!

Actually it didn’t – it was an absolutely gorgeous day. Sunny, clear, about 70 degrees.

Did it rain where you were? I hope it didn’t have you in a frenzy!! I had made up my mind ahead of time that I wasn’t even going to care or think about the weather report, and in fact I didn’t even look at it. My MIL kept checking and telling me it was going to be beautiful. I was a very laid back bride… I said “Even if my cake toppled over I’d just laugh… we’re still going to be married!”

I wish I could live that day over again But in reality, I was so nervous, I probably will have a better time watching the videos I had to pee so badly right before we were going to walk down the aisle and didn’t want to be uncomfy during the mass… but I didn’t want to walk through the back of the church and have people arriving see me… so I waited until right before and the music was playing and people were standing in the pews and waiting for the bride, who was in the potty struggling with all the crinoline and skirts

 

[EsclavoDeCristo]

We waited - and our wedding night was a comedic disaster…two exhausted and emotionally wiped-out people…:blushing: but nature prevailed…
BUT

We didn’t let it get us down and committed ourselves to practice, practice, practice … 20 years & a couple of kids later we’re still practicing…& getting better all the time .

I am afraid that is what will happen to my fiance and I on our wedding night. Hopefully we will be able to have a good sense of humor about it.

 

[StratusRose]

Actually it didn’t – it was an absolutely gorgeous day. Sunny, clear, about 70 degrees.

Did it rain where you were? I hope it didn’t have you in a frenzy!! I had made up my mind ahead of time that I wasn’t even going to care or think about the weather report, and in fact I didn’t even look at it. My MIL kept checking and telling me it was going to be beautiful. I was a very laid back bride… I said “Even if my cake toppled over I’d just laugh… we’re still going to be married!”

I wish I could live that day over again But in reality, I was so nervous, I probably will have a better time watching the videos I had to pee so badly right before we were going to walk down the aisle and didn’t want to be uncomfy during the mass… but I didn’t want to walk through the back of the church and have people arriving see me… so I waited until right before and the music was playing and people were standing in the pews and waiting for the bride, who was in the potty struggling with all the crinoline and skirts

I don’t trust weathermen anymore. All week they said it would be sunny and in the 70s. Then the day of the wedding they said rain in the evening in the Western suburbs. Guess what. It rained in the afternoon in the south. Dead wrong. Luckily, we had a tent but my guests were still cold because it dropped to about 60 degrees.

We all still had a good time regardless.

 

[japhy]

I am afraid that is what will happen to my fiance and I on our wedding night. Hopefully we will be able to have a good sense of humor about it.

See, my fiancee and I are getting married at 10am, and the reception ends at 5pm. I would hope we’re not totally wiped out; we’ll have time to rest.

 

[StratusRose]

See, my fiancee and I are getting married at 10am, and the reception ends at 5pm. I would hope we’re not totally wiped out; we’ll have time to rest.

That’s what we did. Wedding at 11AM, reception over by 6PM. Left lotsa time for lovin’.

 

[EsclavoDeCristo]

See, my fiancee and I are getting married at 10am, and the reception ends at 5pm. I would hope we’re not totally wiped out; we’ll have time to rest.

Our wedding is at 11am too. We hope to be out by 4pm… we need the extra time.

 

[RachelB]

Yes, we did not know what we were doing on our wedding night - so glad I “learned” with my mate for life rather than someone who wasn’t commited to me.

6.5 years later WONDERFUL NOT overrated!!!

 

[mrs_abbott]

How did you find the experience of making love as newlyweds, if you waited until you were married to do so, or even if you didn’t?

My hubby and I just got married this month and I think I’m a little surprised at the realities of sex after our honeymoon Every time is of course sacred and unitive, but did you find in the beginnings of your sexual experiences with your new spouse that at times it felt awkward and… well, I guess, not quite as “wonderful” as other times? I don’t want this to come out wrong but it’s hard to explain! I feel every time is sacred, but this is all very new and we are learning!

Any insights or care to share anything?

After my first time, I thought “man, what’s all the hype about? it wasn’t that great.”
Practice makes perfect. Now we’re pros!!!

 

[CatholicSamurai]

Hahaha! I can relate!

It felt real wierd… not what I thought it to be. It was both our first time so that made things even more difficult and awkward.

But we got through it and now my wife is 4 months pregnant!

 

[MommyZ]

I wish that someone would’ve warned me that it wasn’t going to be as good as I’d imagined the first time to be. I guess movies make it seem like it’s going to be something out of this world, when actually it takes a while to get the rhythm and to figure out what each other enjoys. Practice, practice, practice. At least it’s not hard to practice. Going on 4 years here!

 

[mamacita]

Been married 5 years and can say from our experience it gets better the longer you have been married. The joy from it is sweeter each time as well. That’s my opinion.

 

[shannyk]

**Like the piano teacher always says…

Practice practice practice!!

Funny but true! We all have grand expectations about the first time and the first few ‘honneymoon’ years, but the reality is, it takes getting to know yourself and your spouse awhile before you will get better at it. Too many people think that because it’s ‘natural’ it’s also natural to be good at it. Well, the it would be equally natural to be bad at it; and many people are. If you and hubby can be open with each other, which in itself can take quite awhile, things will improve and in time, you can count on home runs every game (or almost every game…). There is nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy sex and have your spouse enjoy it equally as much. It can be quite a relationship builder to know that your honey is the only one what can make you feel that way and vice versa. That’s one reason why taking sex outside of marriage can really screw things up. Like a fine wine, you both will only get better with age **

 

[farmfresh]

and just wait till your about 7 1/2 months pregnant! things really throw you for a loop. during the last part of 1st trimester and most of 2nd trimester, i was loving it! had the bigger boobs, which (of course) made me feel a little more sexy and i was wanting ‘it’ every time dh turned around. suddenly, it stopped. just as quick as it all started. now, i worry about squishing the baby. or im absolutely too tired to even think about it. and as for the boobs, yeah they are still bigger, but the belly kind of outdoes them, for some reason!

but yes, it does take some time to figure outs each other likes/wants and for you to feel comfortable also. dont worry, im sure hes as nervous/freaked as you are. keep talking, and when something weird happens, just laugh it off.

 

[Bobby_Jim]

We waited until the wedding night. First time was awkward, but it got better from there.

One bit of advice for couples in this position… ask your mom, or your doctor, or older sister, or somebody to explain about bladder infections. It can save some misery on the honeymoon!

 

[rayne89]

We waited until the wedding night. First time was awkward, but it got better from there.

One bit of advice for couples in this position… ask your mom, or your doctor, or older sister, or somebody to explain about bladder infections. It can save some misery on the honeymoon!

Ahh yes, I am very bladder infection prone. I’m not sure what explaining could prevent it other don’t have sex too much .

Really, when this first started having them I had a very mature male military nurse laugh when I said I’m getting these from sex. Listen buddy my husband is gone for months at a time. When he’s here I get them, when he’s gone I don’t. Doesn’t take a rocket scientest to make the connection. Same appointment had a perverted doctor ask me all kinds of bizzare questions about my sex life -pretty shocked at 19, didn’t do much for my view of the military medical establishment.

Prevention? -drinking lots of water & cranberry juice helps and try not to break a world record of imtimacy encounters on your honey moon . Not all women have this problem, but it is pretty common.

I still get them and I’ve been married 16 years. Actually the last few years I have a preventive antibiotic (1 pill) I take after each encounter. That prevents them most of the time.

 

[Margita]

I hear male hygiene (or the lack of it) has just as much to do with UTI as your proneness to it. Just another issue worth looking into.