Sexual Intercourse with Unbelieving Wife

[HappyCatholic01]

cmgeo:

I would appreciate answers from married and below 40 year olds
Passing judgement is the easiest thing to do.
If you are not married then I dont think you can really offer any positive practical suggestions.
I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know
how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

Her answer is the right answer, regardless of age, marital status etc.

How does one not just give in to any desire they have when it hits them?

The answer is self-control We aren’t animals. it helps for both people to be on board, I daresay.

 

[OhioBob]

cmgeo:

I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

You aren’t really implying that once you turn 40 you cease to be active sexually, are you? If so, I think you need to get (name removed by moderator)ut from more folks over 40, not less.

But to your question - I have had experience with NFP before I was 40 (I can vaguely remember back that far). The fertile period during which a couple must abstain to postpone pregnancy is just a matter of days. Even the most testosterone-laden among us can abstain for that period. NFP teaches a respect for the wonderful cycles and mysteries of fertility, and out of that respect comes a certain self-awareness and a strengthened self-control.

That’s not to say that it isn’t sometimes a challenge, but at least with NFP you approach each act of intimacy in full awareness of the likelihood that that particular act might result in the blessing of a pregnancy. As a man, that awareness of what had been a total mystery and the openness NFP creates between husband and wife is empowering.

I echo the suggestions that you and she enroll in NFP class. It may provide the solution you both are looking for.

 

[deb1]

cmgeo:

I would appreciate answers from married and below 40 year olds
Passing judgement is the easiest thing to do.
If you are not married then I dont think you can really offer any positive practical suggestions.
I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know
how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

I am under forty, and happily married.

As a young woman I struggled,with a high libido. Being in the military my hubby is away sometimes. When I was younger, men knowing that my hubby was away, would occasionally come on to me. I didn’t cheat, not because I wasn’t tempted, but because I had respect for myself, my hubby and our marriage.

As far as passing judgment, I am not certain why you mentioned that. I certainly wasn’t passing any judgement on anyone.

 

[LovedOne]

cmgeo:

I would appreciate answers from married and below 40 year olds
Passing judgement is the easiest thing to do.
If you are not married then I dont think you can really offer any positive practical suggestions.
I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know
how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

Uh… just FYI - many married couples in their 40’s and beyond are more sexually active than they were in their younger married days!
And many are still very fertile.

 

[cmgeo]

There are a lot of people that I know are very Catholic and
religious and decided to practice NFP and had 2, 3 or 4 kids
before 35 yrs of age for woman and then they get a a late
pregnancy and immedietly after they sterilize
in order to avoid future unplanned pregnancies.
Does the Church have any directives in such cases?

Also there are cases where husbands are away due to work
and the partners come together once in a year
And I dont think its easy enough to practise NFP
when immedietly after they meet after one or more years

 

[Trelow]

cmgeo:

I would appreciate answers from married and below 40 year olds
Passing judgement is the easiest thing to do.
If you are not married then I dont think you can really offer any positive practical suggestions.
I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know
how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

I’m married and 25. NFP is great. It brings a bond that just isn’t there when contracepting, and the time apart only makes it that much greater when you do come together again. on average a woman is only fertile about 5 days a month anyways, that still leaves 25 days. :dancing:

 

[BlestOne]

cmgeo:

I would appreciate answers from married and below 40 year olds
Passing judgement is the easiest thing to do.
If you are not married then I dont think you can really offer any positive practical suggestions.
I am asking for some one below 40 because I want to know
how some one is active sexually can handle this scenario

hahaha this is too funny…
I very rarely had sex in my 20’s and 30’s(first husband). I just got married (second husband)at 42 and we are definitely in the honeymoon phase! I am a very satisfied woman…as far as NFP…yup, but to try to conceive!

 

[Catholic4aReasn]

cmgeo:

There are a lot of people that I know are very Catholic and
religious and decided to practice NFP and had 2, 3 or 4 kids
before 35 yrs of age for woman and then they get a a late
pregnancy and immedietly after they sterilize
in order to avoid future unplanned pregnancies.
Does the Church have any directives in such cases?

I would have to question just how “very Catholic and religious” these lots of people are that you know that they would go to so much trouble to do God’s will only to give up and fall into mortal sin in the end in order to do their own will.

In Christ,
Nancy