Shock: Writer Wishes Her Mother Had Had an Abortion

[juliee]

Shock: Writer Wishes Her Mother Had Had an Abortion

London, England – English writer Lynn Beisner is drawing gaps from readers across the world today over a column she wrote in the London Guardian saying she wishes her mother had had an abortion, because it would have supposedly made her mother’s life better.

lifenews.com/2012/08/15/shock-writer-wishes-her-mother-had-had-an-abortion/

 

[FaithBuild18]

I’m really running out of motivation to even try to talk to these kind of people. I just ignore them. Is that bad?

 

[jmjconder]

Shock: Writer Wishes Her Mother Had Had an Abortion

London, England – English writer Lynn Beisner is drawing gaps from readers across the world today over a column she wrote in the London Guardian saying she wishes her mother had had an abortion, because it would have supposedly made her mother’s life better.

lifenews.com/2012/08/15/shock-writer-wishes-her-mother-had-had-an-abortion/

I think this article says much more about Lynn Beisner as a daughter than her mother.

 

[ProdglArchitect]

So, she wishes that her mother had become a murderer so that she could have avoided hardship…

 

[Marc_Anthony]

I think this article says much more about Lynn Beisner as a daughter than her mother.

Yes.

This is not unselfish or noble. This is sick.

 

[mountee]

@FaithBuild 18, what a great response.

 

[april32010]

An abortion would have absolutely been better for my mother. An abortion would have made it more likely that she would finish high school and get a college education. At college in the late 1960s, it seems likely she would have found feminism or psychology or something that would have helped her overcome her childhood trauma and pick better partners. She would have been better prepared when she had children. If nothing else, getting an abortion would have saved her from plunging into poverty. She likely would have stayed in the same socioeconomic strata as her parents and grandparents who were professors. I wish she had aborted me because I love her and want what is best for her.

did her grandparents kick her mom out ? that seems the only explanation for not staying in the same "socioeconomic strata " as parents and grandparents.there is a lot more to this unbelievably tragic story. this family is in my prayers

 

[SgtSchultz]

If Beisner is to follow her distorted logic to its conclusion, shouldn’t she kill herself? Society will have one less “burden”, no? Isn’t that what people like her believe?

Or is it possible this woman really has a death wish?

…] it seems likely she would have found feminism or psychology or something that would have helped her overcome her childhood trauma and pick better partners.

Riiiiiight. Now I know the woman’s unhinged.

Everything aside though, it’s sad how people, even supposed “progressive” and “enlightened” people like this woman, equate money with happiness.

 

[Nelka]

Shock: Writer Wishes Her Mother Had Had an Abortion

Unfortunately it is not a shock.

In this day and age people talking like this seems to be the norm.

 

[Lochias]

“Mom, I really love you, you’re the best, but you really should never have been a mother in the first place.”



This is no way to show support of one’s mother. This kind of writing can only hurt, never heal. She should be utterly ashamed of herself.

 

[jmjconder]

“Mom, I really love you, you’re the best, but you really should never have been a mother in the first place.”



This is no way to show support of one’s mother. This kind of writing can only hurt, never heal. She should be utterly ashamed of herself.

**Wonder if Lynn Beisner has any children? **

 

[SgtSchultz]

Wonder if Lynn Beisner has any children?

That she didn’t abort? Something tells me people with attitudes like hers don’t care too much for children.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

My brother and I have actually had this exact same conversation, and while we all love each other and our lives we agree that it would have been far better for my mom to have had an abortion when she got pregnant with him. She got pregnant at 20 by an extremely abusive man. Her divorce left her a single mom to an infant and living in poverty. As a single mom in the '70s she was unable to get job training or an education. She ended up meeting another abuser, this one an alcoholic. She clung to him for support and ended up marrying him and having me. After she divorced him we had to move in with my grandma. When she died my mom still couldn’t make enough of a living to support us on her own. So once again it was in to the arms of another abuser, that she still lives with. Had she aborted my brother she would have been able to finish college, perhaps start a career, and been able to hold out for a man that was good to her. Of course, I wouldn’t exist either, but that’s ok. Neither my brother or I would know what we are missing, and my mother probably would have had children with a good man eventually.

Of course there is much more to this decades long story, but that’s the general outline.

 

[Lochias]

My brother and I have actually had this exact same conversation, and while we all love each other and our lives we agree that it would have been far better for my mom to have had an abortion when she got pregnant with him. She got pregnant at 20 by an extremely abusive man. Her divorce left her a single mom to an infant and living in poverty. As a single mom in the '70s she was unable to get job training or an education. She ended up meeting another abuser, this one an alcoholic. She clung to him for support and ended up marrying him and having me. After she divorced him we had to move in with my grandma. When she died my mom still couldn’t make enough of a living to support us on her own. So once again it was in to the arms of another abuser, that she still lives with. Had she aborted my brother she would have been able to finish college, perhaps start a career, and been able to hold out for a man that was good to her. Of course, I wouldn’t exist either, but that’s ok. Neither my brother or I would know what we are missing, and my mother probably would have had children with a good man eventually.

Of course there is much more to this decades long story, but that’s the general outline.

This is an utterly alien mindset to me. I can only hope that none of my siblings secretly think that Mom would have been better off if she aborted me, like her doctor pressured her to do.

I also think, personally speaking, that to wish my Mom would have aborted me would be the same thing as denying her ability to love and nurture me in any circumstance.

I am sorry your mom has gone through, and continues to go through abuse, but I feel relatively certain she is glad that your brother is around.

And, really, despite what you and your brother said, just think about it for a minute…“yeah, Mom would have been better off if I’d been aborted.”

I do not see how that statement could not be damaging or hurtful to your brother for one single instant, whether you or he says it. It depresses me just to think about it.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

This is an utterly alien mindset to me. I can only hope that none of my siblings secretly think that Mom would have been better off if she aborted me, like her doctor pressured her to do.

I also think, personally speaking, that to wish my Mom would have aborted me would be the same thing as denying her ability to love and nurture me in any circumstance.

I am sorry your mom has gone through, and continues to go through abuse, but I feel relatively certain she is glad that your brother is around.

And, really, despite what you and your brother said, just think about it for a minute…“yeah, Mom would have been better off if I’d been aborted.”

I do not see how that statement could not be damaging or hurtful to your brother for one single instant, whether you or he says it. It depresses me just to think about it.

He isn’t egocentric. We both know that our mother loves us very much and is grateful for us. But we also know that if he hadn’t been born she would have had a better shot at a happier, healthier, and safer life. And like I said, if he hadn’t been born, I probably wouldn’t have been either.

And for the record I didn’t look at him one day and just tell him that he should have been aborted. We were talking about his teen daughters and how he hopes that if any of them get pregnant that young they choose abortion, because he wants better for them than what our mom had. That led in to a long, philosophical, and pretty interesting discussion over a good bottle of wine at 2 in the morning.

 

[Lochias]

He isn’t egocentric. We both know that our mother loves us very much and is grateful for us. ** But we also know that if he hadn’t been born she would have had a better shot at a happier, healthier, and safer life.** And like I said, if he hadn’t been born, I probably wouldn’t have been either.

And for the record I didn’t look at him one day and just tell him that he should have been aborted. We were talking about his teen daughters and how he hopes that if any of them get pregnant that young they choose abortion, because he wants better for them than what our mom had. That led in to a long, philosophical, and pretty interesting discussion over a good bottle of wine at 2 in the morning.

And she could have stepped off the curb after her abortion and been hit by a bus, too. What’s here is here, and it’s good to remind ourselves of the good that HAS come, and that we can continue to give to others, thanks to the love we were raised with.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

And she could have stepped off the curb after her abortion and been hit by a bus, too. What’s here is here, and it’s good to remind ourselves of the good that HAS come, and that we can continue to give to others, thanks to the love we were raised with.

Of course now that we’re alive we don’t want to give that up, and we are a happy family with a lot of love. But just because we aren’t self-loathing suicidal maniacs doesn’t mean that we can’t acknowledge that chances are life would have been better for our mother if she didn’t get pregnant at 20 by an abusive man while she had no money, job skills, or education.

 

[LilyM]

Of course now that we’re alive we don’t want to give that up, and we are a happy family with a lot of love. But just because we aren’t self-loathing suicidal maniacs doesn’t mean that we can’t acknowledge that chances are life would have been better for our mother if she didn’t get pregnant at 20 by an abusive man while she had no money, job skills, or education.

I’m sorry - but how can someone who wishes they’d never existed, for any reason, NOT be anything other than a self-loathing person? Maybe not suicidal, and maybe not maniacal, maybe depressive or something instead. But definitely self-loathing.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

I’m sorry - but how can someone who wishes they’d never existed, for any reason, NOT be anything other than a self-loathing person? Maybe not suicidal, and maybe not maniacal, maybe depressive or something instead. But definitely self-loathing.

Because had I never existed I would have never existed. I wouldn’t know what I’m missing, nothing would be taken from me, I just wouldn’t exist.

And I don’t wish that I’d never existed, I like existing, and I’m sure my brother feels the same way. But just because we are happy being alive doesn’t mean we can’t acknowledge that our mom’s life would have been objectively better if we hadn’t.

 

[SgtSchultz]

But just because we are happy being alive doesn’t mean we can’t acknowledge that our mom’s life would have been objectively better if we hadn’t.

This makes no sense. Who is to say your mum’s life, or the life of anyone in a similar situation, would have been objectively better with an abortion? Who’s to say she wouldn’t have made the same bad decisions regarding abusive relationships? I find such a claim to be absurd. For all you know, if she aborted she could have fallen into a deep depression and become suicidal. Or she could have died from a botched procedure, something not uncommon today. As it turns out, she now has a family that can provide her emotional and financial support. She may have been all alone otherwise.