Should Catholic parents attend gay child's nuptials?

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MaryD7 said:
Another thread on this particular forum got me wondering about gay marriage.

Hypothetical: Your son or daughter wanted to marry their significant other in a state which allows such marriages. Would you attend? Why or why not?

Would it make a difference if by not attending the marriage ceremony it may put a strain your relationship with your child?
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My first thought, as this was hypothetical, was that it was at least something I’d have to think about, but I would probably go

But then I realized: I do not attend Baby Showers for unwed mothers, I do not attend Wedding Ceremonies for couples that (I know) have been living together… and these are all strangers.

If it were my own child? I would hope that they would know me well enough to not let me know it was happening, so that there would be no additional strain by me not attending.

If my child were to ask me to attend, to show support, it would mean that they would not know that I already loved them, unconditionally, or my beliefs based on what I had shared with them.

In that case, they couldn’t know me well enough for my attendance to matter.

I would stay home and watch a movie.
 
I would be heartbroken, and, let the child know it.

Of course, it would be publicly affirming intended acts of grievous matter for you to attend …

I’d tell them both that they would always be in my heart, and, that I loved them both dearly, But, no, my obedience to God comes before anything else in my life. Then I’d pray like the very devil that they got over it, stepped out of the bubble, and were graced with a dose of truth and reality.

Don’t you think it is awful to see someone dancing on the road to hell and do nothing about it? Just let them GO?! That isn’t love for your child. Someday your prayer will be answered. Perseverance! Offer your sorrow to Our Lady. She will help you.

Some things are only cured by “fasting and penance” Whew! That must be one of them. That’s a tough one! Sorry for you!
 
Publisher said:
Separating myself from a faith community isn’t the same as separating myself from God…the two are mutually exclusive…but to take your suggestion under consideration…hmmmm…I’ve thought about it…my response stays the same…I choose to obey the will of God…not someone’s take on what God wants for me…but His take on what God wants for me.
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I should have looked at your profile earlier. I did not realize you were not a Catholic.

I suppose my statement, which is always true, would not understood by someone who does not believe in objective morality.
 
A “gay” or “lesbian” identity is a false identity. So is “straight” for that matter. The only true sexual identities for human beings, according to traditional Christianity are MALE and FEMALE.

It is VERY important for Christians not to use the terms “gay” and “lesbian”. Doing so only ends up giving power to a movement based on lies. Read this article by a very solid priest who heads a local COURAGE ministry: home.pacbell.net/perozich/Proper_Language___SSA.html
 
spangler1982 said:
A “gay” or “lesbian” identity is a false identity. So is “straight” for that matter. The only true sexual identities for human beings, according to traditional Christianity are MALE and FEMALE.

It is VERY important for Christians not to use the terms “gay” and “lesbian”. Doing so only ends up giving power to a movement based on lies. Read this article by a very solid priest who heads a local COURAGE ministry: home.pacbell.net/perozich/Proper_Language___SSA.html
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You make very good points! 👍

Well said!
 
spangler1982 said:
A “gay” or “lesbian” identity is a false identity. So is “straight” for that matter. The only true sexual identities for human beings, according to traditional Christianity are MALE and FEMALE.

It is VERY important for Christians not to use the terms “gay” and “lesbian”. Doing so only ends up giving power to a movement based on lies. Read this article by a very solid priest who heads a local COURAGE ministry: home.pacbell.net/perozich/Proper_Language___SSA.html
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Well, if we put it that way, if two MALES or two FEMALES want to form a loving union in the privacy of their own home, they are within their ability to do so.

And when parents look at this, they just see SON or DAUGHTER and HAPPY, which is what most want to see anyways.
 
Love is peaceful, calm, and truthful.

Telling God’s truth to our children is planting a seed…even though at the moment they may not be inclined to listen.
 
NewUlm1976_2000 said:
Well, if we put it that way, if two MALES or two FEMALES want to form a loving union in the privacy of their own home, they are within their ability to do so.

And when parents look at this, they just see SON or DAUGHTER and HAPPY, which is what most want to see anyways.
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NewUlm1976_2000, your constant harping on this is absolutely against the teachings of the Catholic Church. Promoting this behavior and support this behavior is cooperating in a grave sin. Cooperating in grave sin is itself a grave sin. That appears to be what you are doing here.

If they truly loved one another, they would not put their immortal souls in danger.

Only a person who hated homosexuals would support such seriously sinful behavior.

As for parents desiring their children to be happy, I understand that Ted Bundy enjoyed his lifestyle too. Should his parents be accepting of that behavior? It is a fair comparison. Sodomy is one of the four sins that “cries to heaven for justice”, just like the murder of an innocent.
 
This thread couldn’t have been more timely, as Dr. Joe Nicolosi will be a guest on next Monday’s Catholic Answers Live show from 6-7 PM Eastern Time (3-4 Pacific). His topic is going to be “Homosexuality: Science or Political Activism?” If you want to call the show to ask Dr. Nicolosi a question, the number is 1-888-318-7884. The show will be achieved and available for free download as an audio file probably by the next day. www2.catholic.com/radio/calendar.php
 
rpp said:
I would say this is true about 90% of the time. Or was Christ not being loving when he cast out the money changers from the Temple with a whip?
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Jesus is love personified. All of his actions sprang from love.

Jesus loves us so much he wants to beat the “money-changers” (sin, compromise with the world), out of us. (We are the temples of God.)
 
NewUlm1976_2000 said:
I would attend without a second thought. There would be no conflict if they would end up in that style of relationship. As long as they are happy and find true love (with all the usual ups and downs).
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They still don’t have a “puking” smiley.
 
Publisher said:
I know His Voice when it speaks in some areas…I don’t pretend to use the Bible as a Ouija Board to find out what God wants…your view of “love” seems very narrow to me…to me your idea of “love” comes down to a bunch of “rules and regulations”…“love is kind, it is not rude, love does not demand it’s own way, it is patient…it bears all things…”…I know His Voice when He speaks…it is unmistakable!
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Fine, pick and choose. You know that God is a loving God and you back that up with Scripture, but you’ll overlook everything He says that doesn’t go with your personal opinion. He gave us His Word so it would be obeyed, and He gave us His Church so it’s interpretation wouldn’t be hacked the way you and many others like you have done it. You know His Voice? I’m sorry to inform you, it’s either yourself or the Devil. You opinion isn’t backed up by anyone except non Christians and Satan.
 
I cannot for the life of me see why some of you here would actually attend such a sacreligious and blasphemous event.

I myself was invited to two HETEROSEXUAL marriages. One was my brother, a Catholic, getting married via a justice of the peace for the sake of making his girlfriend then pregnant an honest woman. I did not attend because I know that the act committed before that judge was blasphemous and sacreligious- a mockery of the Sacrament of Matrimony and a denial of Church authority in the matter.

The second was my cousin’s wedding. My wife and I found out on the day of the wedding that my sister in law, a Baptist, who was the bride’s best friend, was to fill the position of lector at the nuptial Mass- something forbidden under Canon Law. At the last minute we did not attend- even though we all were dressed up real nice and ready to go- we said no way.

However in the issue of two of the same sex to profess wedding vows to each other- my God man- what on earth are Catholics thinking these days? The abomination that is happening there at that moment they profess such vows to each other. How angry God is at them for doing such thing. The abomination to happen afterwards in their bed. How DARE anyone here say it is ok to attend such a disgusting event.

Ken
 
Gal. 1:6, 7: I wonder that you are so soon removed from him that called you into the grace of Christ, unto another gospel. Which is not another: only there are some that trouble you and would pervert the gospel of Christ…let him be anathema.

This would be the same Apostle who wrote, through the inspiration of God, that writes “if you have not love…”

This is an issue about the salvation of the soul of one’s child. Do you love him/her enough to be rejected by him/her temporarily? Offer the banishment for his/her salvation. Some demons are expelled only through prayer and fasting.

My sister isn’t Catholic; in fact, she’s a New Age pagan, and she know that if she were ever to marry a woman she would expect me not to attend, and that if I ever insisted on it then I simply wouldn’t be invited, because she knows that goes against the will of “my” God. She personally doesn’t believe in sin, but she wouldn’t expect me to do it to “make her happy.”👍 It’s strange that she has her head on better than many “Christians” in the area of scandal.
 
Publisher said:
We can trade quips all day as to what is love and what is not…you and I disagree with what “love” means and how “love” is lived out in the daily of our lives it would seem.

You claim I “advocate damnation”, which of course is patenly false as I advocate no such thing…if I err I will err on the side of compassion, love, mercy…I will gladly err on that side…I do not claim absolute moral knowledge or authority on the subject…but I will obey the One who calls me and guides me in this matter…and He tells me to do differently than what you claim I should do…as for posting concerning “love or charity”…we will be on opposite sides there too as well.

For me, love has one demand…that I love my child by my actions…and if I must love them “sacraficially” to the point of ostracising myself from my household of faith…I will do so…with joy…for there is a Voice I have listened to and I will obey Him.
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***“One” has to wonder what “voice” you are listening to? Are you a satanist? :confused: How is it loving to go to a celebration that endangers the immortal soul of your child for the sake of making nicey-nice. You don’t have the moral stamina to live Truth…and as the Late Great Bishop Sheen would argue…hey, you have some moral (of the flesh??) sins you are clinging to yourself!! REPENT!! 😉 :eek: ***
 
kidderdoc said:
“One” has to wonder what “voice” you are listening to? Are you a satanist? :confused:
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Publisher is a Friend (Quaker), and one of the most Christlike people it has ever been my privilege to talk with.
How is it loving to go to a celebration that endangers the immortal soul of your child for the sake of making nicey-nice. You don’t have the moral stamina to live Truth…
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Not everybody believes it a danger to one’s immortal soul, and thus may consider it not deserving of being shunned. As for lack of moral stamina, I’d think twice before applying that particular slur to one of the Society of Friends.
and as the Late Great Bishop Sheen would argue…hey, you have some moral sins you are clinging to yourself!! REPENT!! 😉 :eek:
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That sword cuts both ways. Look to yourself 🙂
 
MaryD7 said:
Another thread on this particular forum got me wondering about gay marriage.

Hypothetical: Your son or daughter wanted to marry their significant other in a state which allows such marriages. Would you attend? Why or why not?

Would it make a difference if by not attending the marriage ceremony it may put a strain your relationship with your child?
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I wouldn’t touch it with a barge pole, they certainly wouldn’t be getting my blessing, or my presence.
 
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