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Charli
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We have a son who wanted to get married in a nondenominational setting. We told him that we would miss however we would attend the reception. The bride was not baptized. They decided to get married in the church. All was well
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tm30
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That’s wonderful. You would celebrate your children’s descent into hell?
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Penny_Plain
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Personally, I’d like to be able to say, “Father, I obeyed you and kept my family and friends. By doing so, I hope I was able to be a living example of Your light and lead them closer to You.”
But your way is a lot more … direct.
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fix
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Not attending is not losing one’s family or friends.
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Apryl
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This reminds me of people saying things like ‘you have to have a Baby Shower’.
Um… the baby will STILL get here. You can still support the parents. You will probably still love the baby.
How many folx have had weddings, showers, or any other moment of celebration and people they wanted to be there were not, for a litany of reasons. Yet, there is still happiness on the other side.
And how many people didn’t have the moment of celebration. Still, there is happiness on the other side.
I don’t get why any one HAS to attend something they don’t agree with. Catholic, or otherwise
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fix
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People want to make this an either/or situation. Meaning either you support my gravely immoral actions or you hate me. That is of course false. True charity includes willing others reach heaven. That may include showing disapproval for bad actions. Too often many take their cue from secularism rather than the teachings of Christ.
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latinmasslover
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Of course keeping family and friends would be a blessing; however, I meant that if it came down to obedience to God or staying on friendly terms, I’d like to say that I was willing to sacrifice the friendship in order to not offend God.
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Genesis315
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Yes, in fact, that was what Sunday’s Gospel dealt with. Jesus said He came to bring division, not because that was His literal intent, but because He knew that some people would be offended by the truth and those who were faithful to the truth would be rejected by others.
He also tells us to hate our family and friends. He doesn’t mean to literally hate them, but rather that we should be willing to follow God unconditionally, even if it means losing them and their love.
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DanB
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I think the original question provoked a Yes or No response, followed by a Why.
No! I love my children dearly, but that doesn’t mean I condone everything they do, especially those things that offend God. If it causes a rift, so be it!
No! I love my children dearly, but that doesn’t mean I condone everything they do, especially those things that offend God. If it causes a rift, so be it!
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crusader4life
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There’s already a strain on the relationship if the child is actively participating in homosexual activities… or in so far to even consider and plan marriage to his/her significant other.
I wouldn’t attend the wedding, but I would consider to have a visit afterwards, or I would send him/her a gift (crucifix, Bible, and a book about why God made marriage between man and woman) or a letter to let my kid know I love them. Like the Church, I love and accept my child for who they are, but I cannot tolerate or support sinful actions. Me being at the wedding means I accept and support the so-called marriage.
Hate the sin, love the sinner (Keeping in mind that I am one). We are to judge actions, not people… only God can do that.
I wouldn’t attend the wedding, but I would consider to have a visit afterwards, or I would send him/her a gift (crucifix, Bible, and a book about why God made marriage between man and woman) or a letter to let my kid know I love them. Like the Church, I love and accept my child for who they are, but I cannot tolerate or support sinful actions. Me being at the wedding means I accept and support the so-called marriage.
Hate the sin, love the sinner (Keeping in mind that I am one). We are to judge actions, not people… only God can do that.
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kidderdoc
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oh pukeI would attend my child’s wedding without question. I would attend a gay marriage of anyone who invited me. I have been to one gay wedding and I must admit, it was the most touching, beautiful ceremony I have ever been to. I’m not Catholic but I am Christian and I believe deep down that it is not my place to pass judgment. I’ll leave that up to God. There is enough hate in this world that I will gladly celebrate love anytime, by anyone. Peace.
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kidderdoc
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yep, sure does…that’s why I repent as frequently as I can…I actually have a fear of hell…now, I don’t care how nice your little friend is…sin is still sin and condoning it is also a sin!Publisher is a Friend (Quaker), and one of the most Christlike people it has ever been my privilege to talk with.
Not everybody believes it a danger to one’s immortal soul, and thus may consider it not deserving of being shunned. As for lack of moral stamina, I’d think twice before applying that particular slur to one of the Society of Friends.
That sword cuts both ways. Look to yourself
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Cyndy
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Thank you all for the responses. Our parents are plaanning on attending as they feel that it is there son and they need to show him that they love him and accept him under all cicumstances. Mom says that if she is wrong, she’ll find out when she gets to the gates of heaven. I ask for all of you to pray for our family. One brother and his wife are attending with our parents and they are bringing their 14, 12 and 10 year old boys with them to the ceremony and reception. This is a marriage between two men and it will be performed by a Unitarian minister in a Unitarian church. My husband and his sister and our families will not be attending. Please pray for us all! Thank you!!
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NewUlm1976_2000
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Glad we could help. Enjoy the ceremony and congratulations to all involved from me. I hope there are many good, loving years ahead.
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Publisher
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Bless you…I haven’t been called “little” in about 25 years.yep, sure does…that’s why I repent as frequently as I can…I actually have a fear of hell…now, I don’t care how nice your little friend is…sin is still sin and condoning it is also a sin!
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kidderdoc
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Nothing is up for debate on moral issues in the Church…so you have got that wrong! Catholic Theological circles? Oh, you mean the dissenters?
That’s just another term for protest-ant 
And to compare a physical malady with a moral disease is just plain crazy! :yup: 
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Publisher
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I will hold all of you in the Light.
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kidderdoc
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Yeah…yeah…William Penn…I think Sean Penn is a direct descendant…and I recall in history class that story of how one day William Penn received an invitation to a gay wedding and he threw up his arms and shouted, “Enough of this caca de vaca” and then he moved to Maryland!! :coffeeread:Sigh. Perhaps it hasn’t occurred to some of you that Jesus associated with, ate dinners with, and generally hung out with thieves, prostitutes, and sinners – because he truly liked them, and loved them, generously and convivially.
That doesn’t mean condoning anything, but if you believe you are to be judged before the most high, which of these failings would you rather plead to? ‘I didn’t express my joyful love of my fellow humans, and my children enough’ or ‘I didn’t rebuke and condemn others enough’ ?
If you answer the latter, and truly think it more acceptable to your Lord, then I am more sorrowful then I can say. Life is so short, and I would have thought that those who claim to be followers of the Moralist of Galilee would be particularly aware of that.
‘A little research’ is right! Like Mormons? Hahaha - WHAT? Way, way off. The SoF are often referred to as the Quakers (you know, like the guy on the oatmeal box). Like many of the founding fathers of the USA, they were and are Deists, with strong views about the freedom, dignity and equality of all humankind, the importance of education. William Penn was a Quaker, and the colony of Pennsylvania was founded as a haven for the Friends, like Maryland was for Catholics, and indeed the two states had close ties.
Tsk, look this stuff up yourself. I don’t know where you did your ‘research’ but I suggest if your source also says the sky is blue, check your window just in case…
By the way, neither Mirdath nor I are either Protestant or Catholic. But were we to become Christians, we would most likely want to be Quakers.
As for the rest of your fallacious nonsense, we have addressed the ethical issues of consent with other posters here, ad nauseam, in other threads. Maybe we’ll get back to you after breakfast, but really I’d rather go for a walk on the beach right now!
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latinmasslover
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Bless you for standing by our God. I myself missed the immoral “marriage” ("marriageS, actually) of my best friend of 12 years recently and it was very, VERY difficult. I will pray for you and your family to keep the Faith, that your nephews not be scandelized, and that your brother realizes that God has forbidden it for his own good and come around. Don’t lose faith-a friend of my Dad’s is gay, and although he used to practice, he’s against it now and fights it as though it were any other addiction.
Keep praying and never lose hope-God does not refuse the prayers of those who love and obey Him. My advice, have Masses offered for him and call as many monasteries as you can to him put onto their prayer list.
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