Should Catholics date Non-Catholics, or should you date someone outside of your race?

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The issue is different between religions and races. Races are neither inferior to one another, nor obliged anyhow to live apart. Racism is wrong, as is apartheid.

Religion… well, we’re normally supposed to stick with Catholics, but so long as you can satisfy the obligation to raise your children Catholic and avoid dangers to your faith, it will depend on the person. Sometimes a specific non-Catholic will be preferable to a specific non-Catholic.
 
Although I prefer that practicing Catholics date/marry other practicing Catholics, I have found in life that some protestants make better Catholics than some of the Catholics I have met.
 
Yeah. And sometimes one has more in common with some professed agnosticists or atheists than with some Catholics. The trouble is the latter are closer to those graces which come through the Church and sacraments, so you never know. Oh my, at this moment I just want a practicing Catholic and I’m done with non-practicing ones, agnosticists, atheists and whatnot. Not talking about Protestants or Orthodox since I’ve met about three native Protestants in this country in my whole life (personally know only one) and no one Orthodox.
 
You date someone because of the whole person…not necessarily the color of their skin…or the church they attend.
Kathy
 
Agreed, but sometimes you skip the person because of such factors or you limit your scope of interest in potential partners, or an impediment arises. 😉
 
Katie1723 said:
You date someone because of the whole person…not necessarily the color of their skin…or the church they attend.
Kathy
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:amen: to that! If I didn’t…I’d be unhappily married to one of the several catholic men I did talk to. 😦
 
It’s not that I’m prejudiced against non-Catholics, but when you are a devout Catholic married to a nonCatholic, married life is a lot harder. The expression of your Catholic family life is much suppressed. It’s true that a lukewarm Catholic might have the same effect–though I think at least the kids have more unity in their parents. They don’t have to wonder if the Church is the one true faith, how come dad isn’t in it?

I would say that my nonCatholic husband is a lot more Catholic in practice than the majority of Catholics.
 
Katie1723 said:
You date someone because of the whole person…not necessarily the color of their skin…or the church they attend.
Kathy
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Yes, you need to look at the whole person, but we need to set our priorities. As Catholic Christians, if issues of faith and morality are not at the top of our priority list, I think there is something wrong with our priorities, or else we are setting ourselves up for occasions of sin, especially in the areas of sexual morality (and don’t forget the scandal and pain created when good Catholics are rejected in favor of hedonistic pagans).
 
Norseman82 said:
Yes, you need to look at the whole person, but we need to set our priorities. As Catholic Christians, if issues of faith and morality are not at the top of our priority list, I think there is something wrong with our priorities, or else we are setting ourselves up for occasions of sin, especially in the areas of sexual morality (and don’t forget the scandal and pain created when good Catholics are rejected in favor of hedonistic pagans).
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OK…my husband is SO not a hedonistic pagan. :mad: He is a christian too, just not a catholic. Did I used to be a hedonistic pagan eight years ago just because I didn’t know the fullness of faith yet?

You are not being very eccuminical and I think Pope John Paul the II is probably not happy right now. :nope:
 
Yes.

My mother dated and married a non-Catholic, and I am pretty thankful for it. 🙂 My dad did convert.

I dated a non-Catholic, and my DH converted before we married. :extrahappy:

As for race, I am not touching this discussion.:nope:
 
Convert_in_99 said:
OK…my husband is SO not a hedonistic pagan. :mad: He is a christian too, just not a catholic. Did I used to be a hedonistic pagan eight years ago just because I didn’t know the fullness of faith yet?

You are not being very eccuminical and I think Pope John Paul the II is probably not happy right now. :nope:
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Did you read what I posted previously or are you just trolling to find offense where none exists? Because if you had read one of my prior posts you would have seen my comment “I have found in life that some protestants make better Catholics than some of the Catholics I have met”.
 
Norseman82 said:
Did you read what I posted previously or are you just trolling to find offense where none exists? Because if you had read one of my prior posts you would have seen my comment “I have found in life that some protestants make better Catholics than some of the Catholics I have met”.
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A big chill pill?..

I would have probably been considered by you to be one of those hedonistic pagans.
(and don’t forget the scandal and pain created when good Catholics are rejected in favor of hedonistic pagans).
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And while non-believers present their own sets of challenges, Love is what changes a heart.

I was nothing but a party boy. Divorced. I fell in love with a beautiful Catholic girl. She enabled me to see what life with God was all about. To casually toss someone into a bucket because they don’t currently see things the way you do is not doing God’s work. Love and Truth are patient.

I understand as I read through these threads that there is much pain and heartache due to Catholic, or non-Catholic, unbelief in th e Truth. That is where love (sometimes tough) and prayer have to come into play. And I would agree that you should know about a person’s heart and his/her religion (or lack of) before marriage. But not to look at all?

And in your opinion, what makes a “better Catholic”? I’ve always been told the Church is patient. I guess She can afford to be. Aren’t we supposed to be too?
 
newbetx said:
A big chill pill?..

I would have probably been considered by you to be one of those hedonistic pagans. And while non-believers present their own sets of challenges, Love is what changes a heart.

I was nothing but a party boy. Divorced. I fell in love with a beautiful Catholic girl. She enabled me to see what life with God was all about. To casually toss someone into a bucket because they don’t currently see things the way you do is not doing God’s work. Love and Truth are patient.

I understand as I read through these threads that there is much pain and heartache due to Catholic, or non-Catholic, unbelief in th e Truth. That is where love (sometimes tough) and prayer have to come into play. And I would agree that you should know about a person’s heart and his/her religion (or lack of) before marriage. But not to look at all?

And in your opinion, what makes a “better Catholic”? I’ve always been told the Church is patient. I guess She can afford to be. Aren’t we supposed to be too?
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:yup: What he said! 👍
 
Norseman82 said:
Yes, you need to look at the whole person, but we need to set our priorities. As Catholic Christians, if issues of faith and morality are not at the top of our priority list, I think there is something wrong with our priorities, or else we are setting ourselves up for occasions of sin, especially in the areas of sexual morality (and don’t forget the scandal and pain created when good Catholics are rejected in favor of hedonistic pagans).
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As a normally very happy and easy going person i’ll retain my dignity in my response, but otherwise id be straight to the point and tell you to jump!

How very dare you create such an elitist aire of our Faith at the expense of other children of God! My current fiancee is a Salvationist and i wouldn’t trade her for someone based on Faith alone - as i see it, i have warmed her opinions of the Catholic Faith and she has agreed already before marriage to have a Catholic ceremony and allow our children to be raised in the church. She has followed a very christian moral upbringing and has not subjected themselves to “sin and sexual mortality” as you so very ignorantly and bluntly put it.

Having lived in the UK, i have seen the trouble religious bigottry and sectarian division can create - it leads to wars, murders, riots and areas which are non-passable for certain members of the “other” side - it can very much lead to life and death situations in this country and it’s narrow minded comments such as the one you’ve made which lead to that! Some “Catholics” sicken me! We’re supposed to show love and forgivness to fellow man, but some people of this Faith seem to take this “pseudo-moralist” approach and think they can tell others how to live their life - im sure God would support and empower your very elitist and narrow minded comments! We’re supposed to promote our faith to the outside world, not close it off by shutting non-catholics out! :mad:

I pray you can see the error in what you’re shouting off.
 
Scott_M said:
As a normally very happy and easy going person i’ll retain my dignity in my response, but otherwise id be straight to the point and tell you to jump!

How very dare you create such an elitist aire of our Faith at the expense of other children of God! My current fiancee is a Salvationist and i wouldn’t trade her for someone based on Faith alone - as i see it, i have warmed her opinions of the Catholic Faith and she has agreed already before marriage to have a Catholic ceremony and allow our children to be raised in the church. She has followed a very christian moral upbringing and has not subjected themselves to “sin and sexual mortality” as you so very ignorantly and bluntly put it.

Having lived in the UK, i have seen the trouble religious bigottry and sectarian division can create - it leads to wars, murders, riots and areas which are non-passable for certain members of the “other” side - it can very much lead to life and death situations in this country and it’s narrow minded comments such as the one you’ve made which lead to that! Some “Catholics” sicken me! We’re supposed to show love and forgivness to fellow man, but some people of this Faith seem to take this “pseudo-moralist” approach and think they can tell others how to live their life - im sure God would support and empower your very elitist and narrow minded comments! We’re supposed to promote our faith to the outside world, not close it off by shutting non-catholics out!

I pray you can see the error in what you’re shouting off.
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Scott, very well stated! :clapping:
 
I’ve edited the original as it was a tad viscious and unecessary in places.
 
Scott_M said:
As a normally very happy and easy going person i’ll retain my dignity in my response, but otherwise id be straight to the point and tell you to jump!

How very dare you create such an elitist aire of our Faith at the expense of other children of God! My current fiancee is a Salvationist and i wouldn’t trade her for someone based on Faith alone - as i see it, i have warmed her opinions of the Catholic Faith and she has agreed already before marriage to have a Catholic ceremony and allow our children to be raised in the church. She has followed a very christian moral upbringing and has not subjected themselves to “sin and sexual mortality” as you so very ignorantly and bluntly put it.

Having lived in the UK, i have seen the trouble religious bigottry and sectarian division can create - it leads to wars, murders, riots and areas which are non-passable for certain members of the “other” side - it can very much lead to life and death situations in this country and it’s narrow minded comments such as the one you’ve made which lead to that! Some “Catholics” sicken me! We’re supposed to show love and forgivness to fellow man, but some people of this Faith seem to take this “pseudo-moralist” approach and think they can tell others how to live their life - im sure God would support and empower your very elitist and narrow minded comments! We’re supposed to promote our faith to the outside world, not close it off by shutting non-catholics out! :mad:

I pray you can see the error in what you’re shouting off.
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Yet ANOTHER person who didn’t read my previous post regarding “I have found in life that some protestants make better Catholics than some of the Catholics I have met”! Is there something in the water today?
 
Your title question and the poll options are not very clear. Race and religion are two different things. While it is best to share religious beliefs with a partner, what does someone’s race have anything to do with it?
 
Well, one issue that does come up between Catholics and nonCatholics is the use of contraceptives. Often, here on CAF, people post the difficulties that occur when a nonCatholic spouse insists on contraceptives.

Before marriage, a Catholic marrying a nonCatholic (or a Catholic, for that matter) should make sure that his fiance is in agreement with Catholic sexual teaching (no contraceptions or sterilization, no extra vaginal ejaculations), willing to baptise babies, willing to attend Mass weekly (this is important for children), and in agreement not to criticize or undermind Catholic doctrine. And, the fiance must be aware that divorce is not an option.

There are differences between Catholic and Protestant theology. It’s not a matter of being unecumenical. It’s having one heart in a marriage. 🙂
 
As a Catholic with a Non-Christian spouse, I would recommend only dating Catholics. I have a wonderful husband, but it makes us both sad that we cannot share our faith.

It is fun to try to convert each other, however. But no way am I getting married in a mosque.

The only problem I see with interracial marriage is that my bi-racial stepchildren have to deal with constant racism from people of every race and age.

I don’t like children being put in that situation, but I still support interracial marriages.
 
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