I am not qualified to judge, although certainly, “Israel commits war crimes” may be open to debate.
The Jews are special in that they were the first people that God chose to reveal Himself to. They are not special as an ethnic group, and would in no way be special in not having their own state. Kurds don’t have an independent state either, but have a degree of autonomy in other countries. There are a multitude of ethnicities in Russia who do not have their own independent states, and are at best afforded a degree of autonomy: Buryats, Tatars, Chukchis, etc, not to mention the Uyghurs, Tibetans, Miao and other ethnic minorities of Han-dominated China, who number in the millions and who have also inhabited their respective lands for centuries if not millennia, and no doubt, some of them have suffered unfavourable treatment in the hands of others.
Should any of these ethnic groups attempt to create independent states of their own without permission of the state under whose authority they are currently under, of course they would be infringing on another’s territorial claims, of course the legitimacy of their states would be questioned daily, and of course the destruction of their states would be called for by at least one other UN member state. I understand that at least in the latter example you had Iran’s irrational hatred of the Jews in mind, but it would still be a very similar scenario.
My “weak” support for the state of Israel is because I do recognise some legitimacy to Jewish claims, but it is a problem that I am not qualified to decide one way or the other on. And as much as I refuse to accept terrorist attacks on the Jewish people, so too I will not support the Jews should they respond in a similarly unjust manner.
I’m sorry if it offends you that I accord no favourable treatment to the Jews. If Jews were discriminated against in the past and continue to be so today, it doesn’t justify me, as a non-Jew, in discriminating against other ethnicities in favour of the Jews. If that in your eyes makes me an anti-semite, so be it. However, if by that you mean I am somehow racially prejudiced against the Jews by not according them any special favour, then an anti-semite is certainly something that I objectively am not.