I always thought the 3 day rule was ridiculous.
To me that’s playing mind games and I don’t want to go there.
It was more of a politeness/protocol rule. It was impolite to take longer and it generally meant a reply shouldn’t be expected past that point. I think it’s a good rule for ensuring some minimal standards of speed in correspondence, but sometimes people need to wait until the weekend or something.
I agree it’s better to follow through anyway. …Although spacing helps weed out the passing attractions, as well as shaking off the unwanted ones. There are advantages there.
On the flip side I know women who play hard to get…another mind game.
I don’t mind that actually if it’s kept within reasonable limits and any false communication comes with enough hints to make it easily known that it’s meant as a joke. What I dislike, though, is hardball tactics like calling off agreed meetings to make the guy starved for contact, or stuff like standing him up to see how angry he will be (how a man processes disappointment and anger valuable and vital information, especially in light of the fact that he’s usually much stronger and more resilient physically than a woman, which creates some imbalance, but the method isn’t particularly nice; I could probably abstain from making an opinion on the matter (on account of individual differences) if a woman openly told me she did in purpose after I passed or fail her test… especially if I passed, LOL, but there’d still be some mistrust.
Since everyone is different it is difficult to know what is calling/text too often or not enough. I believe that the man and woman should respect the other’s boundaries if there is so much initial contact that it feels like stalking.
Yeah, the trouble is nowadays people aren’t really open to talking and coming up with solutions, they prefer to have everything working as expected from the get-go. An adapting mate is less satisfactory than someone who acts as desired out of the box.
Yes, she is probably thinking, “Why hasn’t he called!” “He must not really like me.” So for heavens sake - stop pondering and call her.
And, good luck.
That’s entirely possible. Another reason to do what you consider the right thing, or in the absence of such a right thing, what you need to do to be true to yourself. Just cool it down if she asks you to, and if you don’t have feedback from her then you can always ask for some. Say you’ve noticed she isn’t replying as often as you’re writing and if that means she’s more of a listener type or are you intruding on her private space/communicating too often? A mature girl should be able to handle this type of conversation without it going sour.
Don’t fret over how she will receive your actions, you can only really determine what you do, not how others receive it. Don’t go meta too much. Be yourself and be a good guy, and a girl will either like you or not. If you overcomplicate it, there’s a risk of estranging a girl who would actually have liked the real you if she’d been given a chance! So listen to her and ask her for more information instead of presuming, assuming and otherwise thinking for her.
Sorry for the odd language, I’ve been working on some awful technical contracts for many hours now and it’s hard for me to switch to normal expression right away.
