Should I go to my company's holiday party--alone?

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I would go. Many people do not get the opportunity to take spouses along to noghts out. I don’t. I will be going to the party alone and leaving early (only cos I am very tired - pregnant - need my sleep - it’s a great reason to leave early).
 
I went–and I had a blast! It was very relaxing…not tense like they can be sometimes…but get this–only half of our local office showed.:o Yikes. That’s bad, when you think about it. There have been some ‘in fighting’ between departments lately, I wonder if that had anything to do with it?

But, thanks for asking…I actually stayed a bit over 2 hours…food was great, and I had a good time. A lot of people’s spouses had other functions to attend, so I wasn’t think only one flying solo.🙂

Thanks for your advice everyone. (Oh, also, those who were not there, were talked about by name–not that I advocate that, certainly–but it shows that it’s not cool to just not show to a company function like this that only happens yearly)😊 I asked who wasn’t there…and the problem that the party planner had was that these people RSVP’d that they’d be coming…so, that’s not cool. If you cannot come, don’t say you can. I can see if a handful said that…but 40???:eek: We have an office of roughly 80 people…and 40 did not come.
 
I’m in 3 or 4 of groups where we party together, sans spouses (a drama group, a couple of different arts groups). To bring a spouse who knows nothing about the group dynamics or isn’t even interested in what the group is about is pretty much a downer for the member and boring for the spouse. Recently DH got involved with one of these groups so now he will at least attend those parties with me.

Personally I would rather never have to go to his office parties (the Christmas one is coming up next Saturday). They’re boring and I always feel like we should pay someone to be our friends at those functions. Everyone seems to be much younger than we are and intent more on drinking than anything else.
 
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I’m in 3 or 4 of groups where we party together, sans spouses (a drama group, a couple of different arts groups). To bring a spouse who knows nothing about the group dynamics or isn’t even interested in what the group is about is pretty much a downer for the member and boring for the spouse. Recently DH got involved with one of these groups so now he will at least attend those parties with me.

Personally I would rather never have to go to his office parties (the Christmas one is coming up next Saturday). They’re boring and I always feel like we should pay someone to be our friends at those functions. Everyone seems to be much younger than we are and intent more on drinking than anything else.
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Yeah, I kinda agree. My husband enjoys the functions, but you are right–it can be a bit dull, because a lot of times, we are all just chatting about work…etc. Last night, I sat at the party thrower’s kitchen table, with a few other female coworkers and just yacked about girl stuff…it was really very different than Christmas parties past. Although, I miss those thrown by the office leader in PA–my dh misses those too. He got to know everyone over the years, so he wasn’t too bored at those.

That’s neat that you are part of a drama group, Phemie–is this at your church??
 
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Yeah, I kinda agree. My husband enjoys the functions, but you are right–it can be a bit dull, because a lot of times, we are all just chatting about work…etc. Last night, I sat at the party thrower’s kitchen table, with a few other female coworkers and just yacked about girl stuff…it was really very different than Christmas parties past. Although, I miss those thrown by the office leader in PA–my dh misses those too. He got to know everyone over the years, so he wasn’t too bored at those.

That’s neat that you are part of a drama group, Phemie–is this at your church??
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No, not at our church, it’s the town’s adult amateur group. I’ve acted in a few productions, “Sisters” “Les Liaisons Dangereuses”, “Jake’s Women”, directed 2 “A Day in the Death of Joe Egg” & “The Parallax Garden” but now I’m usually stage manager or techie. I do whatever they need me to do to be involved.
 
Phemie said:
No, not at our church, it’s the town’s adult amateur group. I’ve acted in a few productions, “Sisters” “Les Liaisons Dangereuses”, “Jake’s Women”, directed 2 “A Day in the Death of Joe Egg” & “The Parallax Garden” but now I’m usually stage manager or techie. I do whatever they need me to do to be involved.
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That sounds really interesting…I wish you luck with that!
 
Thank you. I think our next production might be the musical 'Kiss Me Kate" – at least that’s what the woman who would direct it is thinking about. I’m reading a play too with thoughts of producing it later in the spring.
 
Phemie said:
Thank you. I think our next production might be the musical 'Kiss Me Kate" – at least that’s what the woman who would direct it is thinking about. I’m reading a play too with thoughts of producing it later in the spring.
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have u thought of doing this as a career? or do you do anything like this in your career, currently?🙂
 
I’m glad you decided to go and have a good time!🙂 Just found the thread now, so I wasn’t able to give my advice before hand.
 
I went to mine alone a few years ago and was nervous walking in, but then sat at a table with people I knew. I then danced a lot with friends, and then a single co-worker (I was single - so maybe no “partner” dancing for you!) I’d stay a minimum of 30 minutes, making sure the people who “matter” see you there, and then leave if you want!
 
Thanks momy and Hewillprovide (love your username!)

Here is a question…the top managers were there. But, the person throwing the party was a sales person…and the year before, it was thrown by a manager, but not the ‘head’ manager. (I was told–I was not living here at the time, and where I lived previously, the head manager always threw the annual holiday bash) Do you think if the head manager of the office had thrown the party, there would have been a better turnout, maybe people would have felt more obligated to go? In a way, I thought it was a little…I dunno the word…that the manager didn’t have the party, but that someone on his staff did? I mean…have it at a restaurant…don’t make someone on your staff have it. I dunno-maybe it’s just a pet peeve of mine…I can’t find the right words for what I’m thinking. 😊
 
Why only three choices? There needs to be a fourth choice for “of course! i like holiday parties as much as the next person, alone or not.” Maybe just cause I like the people I work with, whenever I get a corporate holiday card inviting me to a party, I at least try to make an appearance and usually stay the whole time talking with friends, new and old.
 
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