Should I pursue this or not?

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Just did and deleted not spending anymore money to talk with women did that for 12 years.
 
Try to meet women in real life. Join things. Easier said than done, I know.

Good luck.
 
I’m going to assume you are an adult, over 21.

What do you do? Do you work? Are you in school?

Are you involved at your parish and in the surrounding Catholic Community?

What are your interests/hobbies?

Getting out of the house, meet real people who share your interest, your studies, your Faith. Make friends. Join a book club or a dinner club. Friends. That is where you begin.

Then, at some point, one of your friends will start thinking that they want to introduce you to someone, you meet them and maybe you go on a date.

It all begins with getting out of your own head and into the world.

You can be a victim of your disability or you can be a person who happens to have a disability. Your choice.

One other thing. With my disability, it can be random or inherited. When it occurs randomly, parents react in one of two ways. They either shelter/coddle their child, treating them as a “cripple” who is made of spun glass and the child grows up to be an insufferable narcissist or a perpetual victim.

Other parents get involved with local and state chapters of support groups, introduce their kids to people who have the same disability and thrive in the world as well adjusted people who do not let their disability define them. That takes pushing the kids to try things, to risk failure and rejection to learn that they can get back up again.

I hope your parents were of the second group. If not, it is not too late to begin. Find the local support groups, meet other people who can mentor you.
 
@TheLittleLady My parents weren’t there for me I was raised by my great grandmother who had no education and did what she could,my mom was a drug addict and alcoholic and my dad was an alcoholic.I made a topic a few weeks ago saying how my mom wanted to put me up for adoption because she couldn’t live with the fact that she had a handicap child. My dad was no better.
 
Then time to get involved with your local CP community. I promise you there are other adults there who will serve as mentors!

ETA. Also, have you joined your local Knights of Columbus? That is a great way to meet men of all ages and all walks of life, gives you a way to serve your community and grow friendships with men of God.
 
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Well, you can.

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Seriously, tomorrow call your parish and ask for the Knights of Columbus contact info. The Knights are always recruiting and will be thrilled to get you started.

Then, google “CP support group + your city/state”. Get involved.

Surround yourself with positive people.
 
My parents played the blame game as to why I was born with a handicap mom said its because of dad dad says its because of mom,people aswell say its because my mom was using drugs while pregnant she claims its because my dad got sprayed in the army.
My dad has 4 children and the other 3 have no disabilities.
 
Your parents had/have issues, flat out. My Dad blamed me for why my parents got divorced. Me. Seriously? Because he could not face the fact that it was his lack in being a good husband and father. You forgive, but not forget. And make a life for yourself.
 
I do everything I have to do not asking any of my family members for anything mom and all grandparents are gone and my dad has Alzheimer’s.
 
The thing is I don’t have a vehicle I also called the church for rcia and the director told me they don’t have a van but she’s going to call the parish and get back with me but has not yet done so.
 
I"m going to give another week if she doesn’t call by Friday I will call another church.
I just need to get this done and she said they can confirm me at Easter.
 
I can tell you this: People in Old Testament times did sometimes believe that illness is a direct result of the sin of our ancestors.
THE CHURCH DOES NOT TEACH THIS.
Instead of sorrow for their son, they should spend time in support of you, but you are grown, and let this go. Sometimes it’s very hard for people to move on from sorrow, but YOU are not the source of their sorrow. It’s a misconception they have and possibly a symptom of something else going on in their relations ship.
It has nothing to do with YOU.
Also, the fact that you have obviously met some scammers online is also NOT ANY FAULT OF YOURS.
I was on a Catholic dating site after my first husband’s untimely death, and I was approached by scammers at least 3 times. Immediately report them to whoever administrated or oversees the site. Legit sites will ban a person who asks for money. Never give those people a second thought. Same for abusive messages. Block them, and go forward.
Welcome home. There are several of us RCIA Directors and Catechists here, so ask any questions you need to, and have peace in your heart.
 
Call the Knights of Columbus, ask if someone there will give you a ride to Mass

Uber, a taxi.
 
All the better reason to get involved with the people in your parish. Residents of very rural parishes tend to be very willing to give people a ride!
 
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