Should i stop the novena?

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Hey guys! I am really inspired and love the responses that the community here has given to the people here… and i have something i hope that may be answered… i wanted to pray this novena for a lady… our relationship werent as smooth… and she rejected me… i had a thought of praying the rosary for her and after a few weeks of that thought i came across the 54 day novena… and i am on my 4th day, i want to pray for our relationship but there is this thought i should give up… as she rejected me and maybe praying wont help at all… should i really continue the novena?..
 
Keep praying novena if you think she will come back to you. That depends on your hope.

If she doesn’t have someone else in her life, I’d keep praying.
 
I would say keep praying the Novena, but just change your intention. Instead of praying that the relationship work out, just pray for her soul in general. Pray that she (converts/is successful in life/ etc etc). Or just pray for the Church and ask Our Lady to pray for the intentions of Cardinal Burke and Bishop Schneider.
 
Whether you wish to change your initial intention, add on to it or retain it as is, do continue to pray the novena. Your efforts are pleasing to Our Lady and her Son. 🙂 And please keep in mind that prayer is never wasted no matter what the eventual outcome may be. God bless!
 
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Another vote that God’s will is always a safe bet.

On the other hand, “God’s will” isn’t that he wave a magic wand and make everything perfect. You keep on doing what you’re supposed to do on your side of things. Be the person you’re supposed to be. Our relationships change with time, whether they’re romantic or platonic or at the workplace or whatever. That’s okay.

So when you say “our relationship werent as smooth… she rejected me”, there’s a big difference between, say, a failed romance vs “my meth-addled sister got mad that I wasn’t supportive of her lifestyle” vs “my boss thinks I can’t do anything right” vs etc.

So… rather than trying to analyze the situation and determine what you think is the best, put it in God’s hands, and take care of the one person you can control-- yourself --and be the best person he created you to be. Everything else will follow, whether the way you expected it to or not.
 
I understand what you mean… but we were friends at first… and i didnt want to tell the whole story because it would be too long… i started having feelings for her and may have hurt her… and i really wished that god would allow me to just be friends with her again, and hopefully heal her as well… its not just because she rejected me haha
 
He who puts his hand to the plough and looks behind him is not worthy of the kingdom.

Keep praying the novena. Your intentions may well change, and rightly so, but dedication to this will not be wasted effort.

May God bless you both.
 
  1. Is she made in the image and likeness of God?
  2. Then, the prayer is worth continuing.
  3. You cannot punish her by ceasing prayer, but you can certainly punish yourself.
 
Keep praying. Prayer really isn’t supposed to be about asking for something and getting what we want, but asking until we learn what God really wants for us.
 
Whenever you pray any prayer a novena or anything always add, but your will be done not mine, as Jesus did in the garden of Gethsemane. That way you show God you want to do his will, you respect him and know his will is best and you trust him over yourself, so you wont need to change intentions as you’ll always have your neighbours best interests at heart even if you dont know what they are cos God does. In this case, God will give this girl and you to each other if that’s best or take you both elsewhere if that’s best, so your novena can be answered according to his will by leaving it in his hands. That’s love of your neighbour too.
 
Thank you to everyone who have replied… i really love all your responses and really appreciate what you guys have written. Yes, i feel kind of selfish to have asked this sort of question, because it is god’s will and thy will be done. Thank you and as for the remaining novena’s, i will keep you all in prayer… may god bless =)
 
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Day 12: It was a crazy day… dont know why but starting panicking and worrying about her and if i could ever talk to her again… stressed and freaked out but after the rosary novena was prayed i found peace… wow… really love mother mary… this is to those who seek a reason to pray the rosery =)
 
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