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And controlling.
Don’t worry, OP. With an attitude like that, you won’t have to deal with your wife splaying her legs for other men anymore…because you won’t *have *a wife for long…
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Don’t worry, OP. With an attitude like that, you won’t have to deal with your wife splaying her legs for other men anymore…because you won’t *have *a wife for long…
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eyesopening
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The fact that the OP hasn’t responded yet makes me think its a troll.
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VeritasLuxMea
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If I was looking for an outlet for my sexual desires, the last thing I would do is become an OBGYN. A lot of women you would be dealing with are not going to be attractive, many of them will have conditions that I’m sure would make a non-doctor want to vomit on the spot. That’s not to mention all the schooling and dedication this career would involve.
Seriously if you wanted to get cheap thrills it’s like the worst way to do it. You could just walk into a strip club with a stack of 1’s and get your satisfaction that way, in a much more delightful environment.
To be fair to the OP, it is definitely not the most pleasant thought in the world to picture your wife naked in front of another man. But, in context, it’s not really something to worry about. The OBGYN is not there to appreciate your wife’s beauty or lust after her.
Seriously if you wanted to get cheap thrills it’s like the worst way to do it. You could just walk into a strip club with a stack of 1’s and get your satisfaction that way, in a much more delightful environment.
To be fair to the OP, it is definitely not the most pleasant thought in the world to picture your wife naked in front of another man. But, in context, it’s not really something to worry about. The OBGYN is not there to appreciate your wife’s beauty or lust after her.
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EnterSadness
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Look, it’s not that I am controlling at all. I just think it’s weird why a guy would want to work on breasts and vaginas all day. I know how men are and it’s pretty hard to have a woman’s privates in your face and not at least… Admire. Add in touching and what are these guys Jesus himself? They don’t get anything out of touching the vaginas and breasts of
attractive young women? My wife is very pretty and only 27. I just don’t know how any man could be doing those things and not get a lift out of it or at least evaluate the goods.
I once read an article where obgyns told the truth and said that yes of course they check out the younger ladies. I just don’t know why a woman would prefer a man when a woman is available. These days there is no need! I feel that my wife should protect her modesty and save her body for one man only.
No I don’t think a doctor is going to “pull anything” during an exam I just know men’s minds and I know we literally can’t help going to that place when we have a naked woman under our control laying on a bed. I mean get real there is no way doctors are all so professional they don’t get aroused by some of the ladies. No man is that asexual.
I have also heard many things about childbirth that make me think that ultimately my wife would prefer a woman seeing to her care for her own dignity and privacy.
attractive young women? My wife is very pretty and only 27. I just don’t know how any man could be doing those things and not get a lift out of it or at least evaluate the goods.
I once read an article where obgyns told the truth and said that yes of course they check out the younger ladies. I just don’t know why a woman would prefer a man when a woman is available. These days there is no need! I feel that my wife should protect her modesty and save her body for one man only.
No I don’t think a doctor is going to “pull anything” during an exam I just know men’s minds and I know we literally can’t help going to that place when we have a naked woman under our control laying on a bed. I mean get real there is no way doctors are all so professional they don’t get aroused by some of the ladies. No man is that asexual.
I have also heard many things about childbirth that make me think that ultimately my wife would prefer a woman seeing to her care for her own dignity and privacy.
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Contra_Mundum_1
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My last OB/GYN was a man, and at first I thought that was a bit weird, but I got over it after the actual appointment. I’ve had several medical issues before that required surgery and hospital stay. I was looked at and operated on by both women and men. And it never felt strange. Patients are just body parts for doctors. I have several doctors in my family and they really see it that way.
And let me assure you that while giving birth you kinda lose your dignity and privacy.
It is a messy business, you want it to be over asap and it doesn’t matter who will help you as long as they know what they are doing. That has been my experience, and I’m sure many women will agree.Hope this helps.
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quiet52
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OP, it’s sad that you have such little regard toward, and trust in, your fellow males. Many of whom have sacrificed much to become competent physicians. Many of whom have saved lives.
I am extremely grateful toward the male OB/gyns who have tended to me. I will only see OB/gyns who do not perform abortions. I do not want to contribute to their income. I do not know any female OB/gyns who do not perform abortions.
I am extremely grateful toward the male OB/gyns who have tended to me. I will only see OB/gyns who do not perform abortions. I do not want to contribute to their income. I do not know any female OB/gyns who do not perform abortions.
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KendraDZ1902
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We aren’t laying on a bed with candles and flowers. We are on an exam table with our feet in these stirrups things. Not romantic. At. All. Maybe you should google what goes on in during a pap smear.
When you get a physical, do you say that you want a male to preform your cough test? Since you are so worried about the male doctor lusting after your wife, you definitely wouldn’t want a female to be lusting after you.
I think you need to suck it up and get over this.
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_Jenn
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- Your wife is very pretty…to YOU. Not all men find the same things attractive, so every man may not think her as pretty as you.
- Take your pick. Male gyn potentially attracted to your wife, or female gyn potentially attracted to your wife? Could happen either way.
- She is your equal, not someone who is “under your control”. Get over it. If she finds a doctor who fits her needs, who she feels comfortable with, then you need to deal with it if that doctor happens to be male. After all, she is the one who deals with the annoyance of that visit, not you.
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Kelfa28
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You seriously need to get over this and stop acting like a child about this.
You, clearly, have zero knowledge of what goes on at gynecologists’ office. You haven’t gone through childbirth with your wife yet.
Stop pulling the, “I’m the leader of this household” BS and treat your wife with a little more respect.
Gynecologists’ offices are BUSY! Especially ones that are OBs as well. They are filled to the brim with women of all ages (and I mean, ALL ages) who have appointments.
If the doctor is reputable and has an excellent reputation…he has been doing this for awhile. Have you seen how doctors work when they are busy?
Everything is sterile and routine. Pap smear is done, breast exam is done and questions are asked and answered. Chart is picked up for the next patient…and so on!
Vagina number one of the day is no different then vagina number 42. I very highly doubt a doctor’s mind is going to start wandering around after seeing vagina number 30,000 and child-birth number 5,000.
He is most likely thinking…“I’ve skipped lunch, Janet is out today…so I have to take her patients…there are still 20 charts out there…I’m going to be here for hours”
He will not suddenly open the door to your wife’s room and say…“Well, hello there!”
What in the world did you hear about childbirth that concerns you? I really am curious!
Because dignity and privacy will go flying out the window when you are going through a serious contraction…they hurt! When they get closer together and become more powerful…they hurt even more!
When I had my little one…I was in labor for hours…almost 30 to be exact. A male OB delivered my child because I labored longer then my OB’s rotation. I didn’t have a section…I pushed her out for an hour.
At that point…Bozo the clown could have come in and delivered my baby girl…and I wouldn’t
have cared less. My husband would have cared less.
The doctor who delivered me was professional and fantastic. I would have switched doctors and seen him if we hadn’t moved.
Get over yourself.
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PatriceA
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OR, something else to think about, you are assuming any ob/gyn, male or female, is going to be heterosexual. What happens if you pressure your wife to pick a female ob/gyn and they are homosexual? Now you have the exact same problems, assuming as you think, that a medical professional is always turned on by any patient they see and can’t do their job properly.
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TheRealJuliane
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Trying to keep things going for another few pages at least…
Please people, can’t you see through this one?
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The_Bucket
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https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/4996042240/h3AAD28CE/Trying to keep things going for another few pages at least…
Please people, can’t you see through this one?
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TheRealJuliane
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Let’s just keep repeating this post, every time someone takes this ridiculous stuff seriously. This thread has -0- value on this forum.
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agnes_therese
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Not to mention that he has so little trust in his wife. If this isn’t a troll, I would seriously suggest marriage counseling.
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catholicmamajoy
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As someone who has worked in both labor/delivery and in an OB practice, let me assure you that the patient isn’t lying “naked” on an exam table all splayed open! For a yearly exam and for the first OB visit, the patient has on a gown (usually a regular hospital gown that is worn with the opening in the front) and she is also given a sheet or a drape. She is covered with those items as she discusses health issues with the practitioner and when it is time for a breast exam, only one side of the gown is open at a time will the exam is performed. When the pelvic exam is performed, the only part of her body that is uncovered is that very area…not her chest, not her torso, not her trunk. It’s quite technical, not “sexy” I can assure you!
In childbirth, a doctor will likely have the patient delivering in in the birthing bed using stirrups and sterile drapes. The patient will have a gown on and drapes will again be covering all but the area needed for the baby to be pushed out. Quite technical again!
The only births I’ve encountered where mom was naked or not draped was one where the midwife (a female, of course) assisted at the birth and mom delivers in a position of comfort for herself, not convenience for the practitioner.
I myself have always had a female physician for OB/GYN matters…but that was because it was MY****** choice, not one of my husband or anyone else. I had established care with my doc long before I even met my husband.
In the event the OP is not a troll, why don’t you go with your wife to meet these docs. It’s 2013, healthcare is consumer-driven (at least for the time being) and the practices should have free “get-acquainted visits” for potential patients. You also need to realize that if there is only one female OB in your area, even if your wife goes to her, that is no guarantee she will be on-call when your wife goes into labor or needs to see the doctor.
In childbirth, a doctor will likely have the patient delivering in in the birthing bed using stirrups and sterile drapes. The patient will have a gown on and drapes will again be covering all but the area needed for the baby to be pushed out. Quite technical again!
The only births I’ve encountered where mom was naked or not draped was one where the midwife (a female, of course) assisted at the birth and mom delivers in a position of comfort for herself, not convenience for the practitioner.
I myself have always had a female physician for OB/GYN matters…but that was because it was MY****** choice, not one of my husband or anyone else. I had established care with my doc long before I even met my husband.
In the event the OP is not a troll, why don’t you go with your wife to meet these docs. It’s 2013, healthcare is consumer-driven (at least for the time being) and the practices should have free “get-acquainted visits” for potential patients. You also need to realize that if there is only one female OB in your area, even if your wife goes to her, that is no guarantee she will be on-call when your wife goes into labor or needs to see the doctor.
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TheRealJuliane
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It’s a troll. What real post would use a term like “splaying her legs” in regard to his wife? He also said “What man should have his hands inside her vagina except me?” What kind of language is that except someone who is being stupid…trolling…
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catholicmamajoy
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I figured troll, too, but wanted to make sure any others reading the post that haven’t encountered childbirth or had an exam themselves realize an exam is pretty scientific and technical.
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TheRealJuliane
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This is about the point in the thread that another poster, with a low post count, comes on and starts agreeing with the OP…defending him…and it goes on for more pages.I figured troll, too, but wanted to make sure any others reading the post that haven’t encountered childbirth or had an exam themselves realize an exam is pretty scientific and technical.
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catholicmamajoy
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:yup:This is about the point in the thread that another poster, with a low post count, comes on and starts agreeing with the OP…defending him…and it goes on for more pages.
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The_Bucket
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Finally Fred Durst contributes to society!
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