Should the LDS baptize by proxy non-Mormons?

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Do you know of any belief system on the planet that actually states that our proxy baptism has any actual affect upon the dead person, except ours?
No, but I also don’t think that humanity has figured out everything about how the universe works.
I realize that you are an atheist.
I realize that you believe that all religion is made up…or man made, whatever.

However, whether that is true or not, you ARE restricted to examining beliefs that are actually OUT there.
No, I’m not. What you’re arguing for is a logical fallacy: argument from ignorance. “I don’t know it, therefore it doesn’t exist”. I don’t see any particular reason to think that the great spiritual truths of the universe, whatever they are, must have been divinely revealed to humanity. I certainly don’t think that human beings are omniscient. There’s room for possibilities other than what anyone has thought of.
So go ahead. If you can find a belief system that actually thinks that LDS proxy baptisms work in a manner that WE, who do them, don’t believe they do, then your point might be valid. Sort of. Maybe.

If not, then…not.

And if you can’t respect the beliefs themselves, respect those who believe, please.
Like you respect my belief that proxy baptism is disrespectful of the dead?
Yes…your point?
My point is that when it suited you, your argument was that of course proxy marriage of the living is valid and reasonable, and therefore proxy marriage of the dead is similarily valid and reasonable. But now that it’s come up that the LDS Church doesn’t do proxy marriage for the living, of course it’s valid and reasonable that they don’t.

This seems conflicted.
 
No, but I also don’t think that humanity has figured out everything about how the universe works.

No, I’m not. What you’re arguing for is a logical fallacy: argument from ignorance. “I don’t know it, therefore it doesn’t exist”. I don’t see any particular reason to think that the great spiritual truths of the universe, whatever they are, must have been divinely revealed to humanity. I certainly don’t think that human beings are omniscient. There’s room for possibilities other than what anyone has thought of.
Twisty. NIce, but twisty…the thing is, Gearhead, that we ARE talking about beliefs and faith, and that is always viewed through the eyes of believers. I asked you to find some actual believers who thought that our proxy work had an effect that we do not think it does, and that’s a valid request. I am not arguing from ignorance; you are attempting to prove a negative. It is almost certain that there are religious and spiritual truths that have not been revealed yet, but that doesn’t matter; all we can work with is what HAS been revealed. To avoid acting on that which is because possibly, someday, something else may be is, well…that’s a stopper of all things, isn’t it?

Here’s the thing; we are the ones doing this. Those who oppose us do so in part because they do not believe we have truth. The ONLY way it could have an effect is if what we believe is true. If that’s so, then it has the effect we claim for it: no less, and NO MORE.
Like you respect my belief that proxy baptism is disrespectful of the dead?
I respect it. You are wrong, but you are certainly entitled to it. I don’t respect it enough to stop doing it, because I respect my own beliefs more. I will tell you this, though; if I knew who you were, and I ran onto your name in the records, I would not submit it.
My point is that when it suited you, your argument was that of course proxy marriage of the living is valid and reasonable, and therefore proxy marriage of the dead is similarily valid and reasonable. But now that it’s come up that the LDS Church doesn’t do proxy marriage for the living, of course it’s valid and reasonable that they don’t.

This seems conflicted.
Huh?

As it happens, proxy marriage for the living is a legal thing, not a religious one; because a Mormon can enter into a valid legal marriage without going to the Temple to be sealed, there is no need to do proxy Temple work for the living, is there?

But a Mormon can enter into a proxy marriage if he or she needs to. The example I gave, of my relative who had one? He was LDS. When they were finally united in the same place (a uniting that was made possible because of the proxy weddings) they then went to the Temple to be sealed. No need for a proxy wedding.

On the other hand, if one spouse dies before the other, and they were not ‘sealed’ in the Temple, the surviving spouse can be sealed to the one who died. That might count as 'proxy for the living."

I guess I still don’t get the question.
 
And there you go. You have just proven my point utterly. You baptise infants…who do NOT have the ability to say yes or no; it is something done to them completely without their (name removed by moderator)ut, never mind their permission, and you believe that it has an 'indelible mark on the soul. Once there, nothing can change that."

…and you are offended because we merely OFFER a 'useless ordinance." Please excuse me if I find that the argument is ironic…and incredibly hypocritical.
And there you have it. Another response which does nothing to respond to what I actually wrote. Which in turn indicates that the way you twisted my previous post was deliberate and not a misunderstanding.

You can call me a hypocrite all you want. There is a clear difference. Parents have a direct responsibility for their children.

LDS however, are violating the wishes of the deceased by baptizing people into their religion, even by proxy, who showed no interest whatsoever in the faith. By their fruits indeed.

Michael
 
Maybe we could find the remains and proxy-baptize Atilla the Hun and Genghis Kahn!? The idea of proxy-baptism is the silliest idea ever. :confused:
 
It would be bad if they baptized Muhummad like that. Good way to get a dozen suicide bomber at your door.
 
And there you have it. Another response which does nothing to respond to what I actually wrote. Which in turn indicates that the way you twisted my previous post was deliberate and not a misunderstanding.

You can call me a hypocrite all you want. There is a clear difference. Parents have a direct responsibility for their children.

LDS however, are violating the wishes of the deceased by baptizing people into their religion, even by proxy, who showed no interest whatsoever in the faith. By their fruits indeed.

Michael
In point of fact, sir, the vast (and I do mean “vast”) majority of those for whom we have done the proxy work have never had a chance to show–or not show–“interest” in the faith.

Just as the vast majority of humans who have lived on the planet have never had a chance to ‘show interest’ in Christianity as a whole. Even now there are more non-Christians than Christians in the world, and do you think that all those people have had a chance for a full and fair introduction to Christ?

As for changing the subject, sir, I did not. You were the one who was talking about the indelible mark upon the soul that baptism is. Yes, parents have responsibility to children, and yes, Catholic parents, in order to live their faith, make certain that their children are baptized, because they believe very strongly in the rightness of this action.

Yet children do not remain children very long. In fact, compared to eternity, childhood is less than an instant. Yet you do something to children that they neither ask for, can object to or choose, and which is permanent. You see nothing wrong in that–you feel justified; it is your right to do this.

MY point is that since you DO do this to another soul without permission or thought as to whether that soul wants it or would choose it, then the hypocrisy of objecting to Mormons offering a clear choice to another soul is beyond hypocritical.

As to records…I’ve looked at some LDS records regarding this. We get the record of a man, born in, oh. 1952. His record says he was baptised Catholic when he was a week old. It also claims that he had a confirmation when he was about seven. Later he and his family join the CoJCoLDS. He serves a mission, comes home and remains a faithful Mormon throughout his life–serves as a Bishop, a Stake President, Mission President, General Authority…sends three of his own children on missions…and dies a true believing Mormon.

The Catholics, however, in spite of his very clearly chosen decision IN LIFE to be LDS, still consider him to be Catholic…and his records show that he was baptised Catholic. It is my understanding that the saying ‘once a Catholic, always a Catholic’ applies here, at least in an ‘eternal’ sense, yes?

He did not choose to be baptised Catholic. Yet to Catholics, his baptism at a week of age trumps any decision he made later.

And yet you criticize the Mormons for…not CHANGING the records (because we most certainly do not do that) but adding an offer that the person can say ‘no.’ to.

Sorry, but…I have been told that I MUST see your perspective, that I MUST see your POV, and I MUST accede to your wishes–and your total control of your ancestors, as if they were not real people, but rather trophies in a box that you own. However, they are not. They are still our ancestors. They are still who they were, their choices in life remain unchanged; their manner of dying remains unchanged, and their religious choices remain what they were. We are not interested in changing that, or in anybody’s understanding of those things. We ARE interested in making them an offer that they can accept, or refuse, NOW.

You know, just as if there actually is an afterlife where people actually think, make decisions, and grow mentally and spiritually. You believe that they can do that too, you know…that they can change and grow—else why a purgatory?
 
“It is appointed for men to die once, and after that comes judgment” (Heb. 9:27).

For those who are ignorant by no fault of their own, God will not hold their ignorance against them; but it is wrong to assume that people have no light from God unless they hear an oral proclamation of the gospel.

Baptism of the dead is a Mormon invention not supported by scripture, even the BOM.
 
MY point is that since you DO do this to another soul without permission or thought as to whether that soul wants it or would choose it, then the hypocrisy of objecting to Mormons offering a clear choice to another soul is beyond hypocritical.
I completely agree. I find it strange that the Catholics who are arguing against proxy baptism on this basis can’t see the conflict.
Baptism of the dead is a Mormon invention not supported by scripture, even the BOM.
Wait a minute - are you, as a Catholic, demanding that the Mormons follow a Sola Scriptura approach?
 
And there you have it. Another response which does nothing to respond to what I actually wrote. Which in turn indicates that the way you twisted my previous post was deliberate and not a misunderstanding.

You can call me a hypocrite all you want. There is a clear difference. Parents have a direct responsibility for their children.

LDS however, are violating the wishes of the deceased by baptizing people into their religion, even by proxy, who showed no interest whatsoever in the faith. By their fruits indeed.

Michael
Michael:

I agree with you. Parents do have a responsibility to their children. I am Protestant, and we don’t usually perform infant baptism, yet I do not disagree with the practice. I have seen things change in recent years. Some Protestants are having ceremonies for their infants, dedicating them to God and promising to teach them the ways of Christ. Though this is not baptism, it is one step closer.

I think parents acting for their children is entirely different from proxy baptisms. The performing of Mormon proxy baptisms is not restricted to Mormon descendants.

The Mormon church has taken names in mass, such as Holocaust victims, and baptized them by proxy, regardless of whether or not they have a Mormon descendant.

Even in my case, I left the Mormon church in 1997. The Records Division of the LDS Church can only promise there will be no proxy rites performed for me “while I am still living.”

So, even though I denounced Mormonism in life, the LDS church still thinks they have the right to preform proxy rites for me, after my death. Even if I send them a letter stating no proxy rites are to be performed; there is no guarentee that my wishes will be honored.

I have made my choice in life, yet that choice is not respected by the Mormon church. I believe this is a violation of my right to religious freedom, and is disrespectful to a disturbing degree; and it affects me on a very personal level.

Anna
 
The Catholics, however, in spite of his very clearly chosen decision IN LIFE to be LDS, still consider him to be Catholic…and his records show that he was baptised Catholic. It is my understanding that the saying ‘once a Catholic, always a Catholic’ applies here, at least in an ‘eternal’ sense, yes?

He did not choose to be baptised Catholic. Yet to Catholics, his baptism at a week of age trumps any decision he made later.
This is not correct. Yes, we believe in “once a Catholic, always a Catholic”, meaning that baptism causes a change in the soul (an ‘indelible mark’ or seal) that is irreversible. This is why, when a Catholic is excommunicated, or leaves the Church for another, if they decide to become a practicing Catholic again, they will not be ‘re-baptized’, but will be received through a Profession of Faith, as well as the sacrament of Reconciliation. Similarly, Confirmation and Holy Orders (priesthood) are not repeatable sacraments.

However, if a person decides to join another religion, their Catholic baptism does not “trump any decision he made later”. It won’t have to be repeated if he comes back to the Church, however his decisions later in life will of course affect his eternal salvation, in spite of his Catholic baptism. This isn’t a “once saved/baptized, always saved” deal.
 
This is not correct. Yes, we believe in “once a Catholic, always a Catholic”, meaning that baptism causes a change in the soul (an ‘indelible mark’ or seal) that is irreversible. This is why, when a Catholic is excommunicated, or leaves the Church for another, if they decide to become a practicing Catholic again, they will not be ‘re-baptized’, but will be received through a Profession of Faith, as well as the sacrament of Reconciliation. Similarly, Confirmation and Holy Orders (priesthood) are not repeatable sacraments.

However, if a person decides to join another religion, their Catholic baptism does not “trump any decision he made later”. It won’t have to be repeated if he comes back to the Church, however his decisions later in life will of course affect his eternal salvation, in spite of his Catholic baptism. This isn’t a “once saved/baptized, always saved” deal.
OTOH, there have been many times in history when baptism was the deciding factor in whether the Church “claimed” a person.

For example, during the Inquisition, there were many, many cases where Jews (who would normally be outside the jurisdiction of the Inquisition) were deemed to be “Catholic” because they had been secretly baptized by a nanny or the like, even though they lived their whole lives as Jews… and in many cases never even knew they had been baptized.

As I touched on already in the thread, the Church still “claims” people in more benign ways. In some countries, churches receive government subsidies based on their membership, and the Church will report as members every person that they ever baptized, including those who have left the Church, except for the ones who specifically request to be removed from the Church’s rolls.
 
OTOH, there have been many times in history when baptism was the deciding factor in whether the Church “claimed” a person.

For example, during the Inquisition, there were many, many cases where Jews (who would normally be outside the jurisdiction of the Inquisition) were deemed to be “Catholic” because they had been secretly baptized by a nanny or the like, even though they lived their whole lives as Jews… and in many cases never even knew they had been baptized.

As I touched on already in the thread, the Church still “claims” people in more benign ways. In some countries, churches receive government subsidies based on their membership, and the Church will report as members every person that they ever baptized, including those who have left the Church, except for the ones who specifically request to be removed from the Church’s rolls.
Yes, the vast majority of religions do this. Clearly all “1+ Billion” Catholics are not practicing, nor are all 13-14 million Mormons.
 
The vast majority of religions claim that once you join, you can never truly leave?
The vast majority of religions count everyone in their rolls, whether they are practicing or not, unless one specifically requests their name to be removed
 
An Anglo co-worker is an advanced Buddhist. He told me of a man who approached his guru and asked to become a Buddhist; he was a disaffected Christian.

The guru told the man that he could become a Buddhist, but he would never cease being a Christian. The man asked if that was because they had done such a thorough job of brain-washing him. The guru said that wasn’t it. He said that when one is baptized a spark of truth is planted in him, and that it will always be there; he cannot lose it.

I thought that a rather good explanation.
 
“It is appointed for men to die once, and after that comes judgment” (Heb. 9:27).

For those who are ignorant by no fault of their own, God will not hold their ignorance against them;

I don’t think He does, and that is logical to think of a Deity worth worshiping, but…where do you get this from?
ricko;5865500:
but it is wrong to assume that people have no light from God unless they hear an oral proclamation of the gospel.

Baptism of the dead is a Mormon invention not supported by scripture, even the BOM.
We believe it is supported, and by the bible.
 
[Michael:

I agree with you. Parents do have a responsibility to their children. I am Protestant, and we don’t usually perform infant baptism, yet I do not disagree with the practice. I have seen things change in recent years. Some Protestants are having ceremonies for their infants, dedicating them to God and promising to teach them the ways of Christ. Though this is not baptism, it is one step closer.
If you are describing the promises accurately, it’s not even a step closer. These parents are promising to do things THEMSELVES. That is, THEY are promising to teach their children. They are not performing a fait accompli act upon them.
  • Yes. The one is pure force; that is, the parents are making the decisions for their children. The second is not; the choice is entirely up to the person on the recieving end of the proxy work.
ricko;5865500:
The performing of Mormon proxy baptisms is not restricted to Mormon descendants.
Mostly it is.
[The Mormon church has taken names in mass, such as Holocaust victims, and baptized them by proxy, regardless of whether or not they have a Mormon descendant.

Even in my case, I left the Mormon church in 1997. The Records Division of the LDS Church can only promise there will be no proxy rites performed for me “while I am still living.”

So, even though I denounced Mormonism in life, the LDS church still thinks they have the right to preform proxy rites for me, after my death. Even if I send them a letter stating no proxy rites are to be performed; there is no guarentee that my wishes will be honored.

I have made my choice in life, yet that choice is not respected by the Mormon church. I believe this is a violation of my right to religious freedom, and is disrespectful to a disturbing degree; and it affects me on a very personal level.

Anna
Anna, you left the church. You said no. You can say no again. I’m certain that you say no frequently, every time a missionary comes to your door. You say no everytime you post to one of these threads…and it is YOUR CHOICE to come to these threads and say no. You don’t even wait to be asked. You go out of your way to say no.

So…your proxy work gets done (though frankly, since your records probably state that you were baptised and excommunicated, it probably will NOT be done…and yes, ‘excommunicated’ is the word, no matter who asked for it to be done) and you are asked one last time. You say no one last time, and then nobody will ask you ever again.

So…who loses?
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This is not correct. Yes, we believe in “once a Catholic, always a Catholic”, meaning that baptism causes a change in the soul (an ‘indelible mark’ or seal) that is irreversible. This is why, when a Catholic is excommunicated, or leaves the Church for another, if they decide to become a practicing Catholic again, they will not be ‘re-baptized’, but will be received through a Profession of Faith, as well as the sacrament of Reconciliation. Similarly, Confirmation and Holy Orders (priesthood) are not repeatable sacraments.

However, if a person decides to join another religion, their Catholic baptism does not “trump any decision he made later”. It won’t have to be repeated if he comes back to the Church, however his decisions later in life will of course affect his eternal salvation, in spite of his Catholic baptism. This isn’t a “once saved/baptized, always saved” deal.
You are contradicting yourself.
 
You are contradicting yourself.
Sorry, I’m not. I’m quite familiar with this aspect of Catholic doctrine. Baptism creates an irreversible mark on the soul, however that doesn’t mean we’re home free to Heaven and can do whatever we want. Likewise, if I leave the Church, what I do and believe in after will affect my salvation, even though I was baptized (and have the baptismal seal). Even within the Church, we sin, even though we were baptized. Sins do not erase the baptismal mark on the soul, yet they have an obvious effect on the soul.

Once a Catholic, always a Catholic, and yet all Catholics are not automatically saved.
 
Michael:

I agree with you. Parents do have a responsibility to their children. I am Protestant, and we don’t usually perform infant baptism, yet I do not disagree with the practice. I have seen things change in recent years. Some Protestants are having ceremonies for their infants, dedicating them to God and promising to teach them the ways of Christ. Though this is not baptism, it is one step closer.

I think parents acting for their children is entirely different from proxy baptisms. The performing of Mormon proxy baptisms is not restricted to Mormon descendants.

The Mormon church has taken names in mass, such as Holocaust victims, and baptized them by proxy, regardless of whether or not they have a Mormon descendant.

Even in my case, I left the Mormon church in 1997. The Records Division of the LDS Church can only promise there will be no proxy rites performed for me “while I am still living.”

So, even though I denounced Mormonism in life, the LDS church still thinks they have the right to preform proxy rites for me, after my death. Even if I send them a letter stating no proxy rites are to be performed; there is no guarentee that my wishes will be honored.

I have made my choice in life, yet that choice is not respected by the Mormon church. I believe this is a violation of my right to religious freedom, and is disrespectful to a disturbing degree; and it affects me on a very personal level.

Anna
May God bless and keep you. You made a decision in good conscience. Those of us who have made the journey understand. You’re in my prayers.

Michael
 
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