Should we permit our 14 to play violent computer games?

[mercygate]

MonicaPA:

I am going to have to find a delicate, loving, yet firm way to say no!

“Son, your father and I have investigated that game and your find it absolutely unacceptable.”

“But, Maaaaahhhhhmmmmmm!”

"There is no ‘but.’

 

[joeysmom]

mercygate:

I think if you’re asking the question, you have already lost the battle.

No way on God’s green earth would I have knowlingly let anything like that into my kid’s brain. Enough garbage got in there WITHOUT my knowing it. Kids need to know that their parents are willing to take a little grief in order to stand up for their values. How else will they learn?

BTW, my kid now makes the movies I wouldn’t have let in the door (e.g., Bad News Bears – yuk!).

I don’t understand why you said I “lost the battle”. Not to sound defensive, but a response like this will only make me reluctant to post another question. Please keep in mind he is 14 years old. He isn’t an 8 year old. It may not sound like it but we have been careful about what we let him play and watch. I asked the question because I needed to know about this particular game and other games like that.

As It is very difficult to put the whole scenario down in a posting, I didn’t mention that he does play in the living room area. We will not permit his computer to be in his room. He doesn’t watch TV…only certain programs of interest when we watch with him.

 

[sparkle]

mercygate:

I think if you’re asking the question, you have already lost the battle.
No way on God’s green earth would I have knowlingly let anything like that into my kid’s brain. Enough garbage got in there WITHOUT my knowing it. Kids need to know that their parents are willing to take a little grief in order to stand up for their values. How else will they learn?

Hello to “mercygate”. I for one, thank you for your very strong reply. I agree with you totally, in that it IS our job as parents to monitor what comes in to our precious ones’ heads. It is just so refreshing to see a parent with strong feelings like yours who isn’t bending with the culture. YAY!!! But I have to say I disagree in your belief that “she has already lost the battle”. I don’t think she has. There is still time with the OP’s young’ins. It is never too late to start putting your foot down as parents, saying “we were wrong” and now we’re cracking down. Yes, as I heard on Focus on the Family recently, we parents were not called to “befriend our children”----we were/are called to “train them in the way they should go”. I believe this is so important. All us parents need to re-read Proverbs on this one, and need to start buckling down on really rearing our precious ones in the Lord and the proper standards. It is SO hard today, I do know. We have to do the best we can, and leave the rest to our Lord.
So good of the OP to even write in with her concerns. This shows she is such an awesome parent!
Luv,
Sparkle