Ehh, I’m lazy.
Depending on my weekend schedule, there are 2 different churchs I attend regularly and a third I attend on rare occasions. None of which have any kind of singles group. The website of the archdiocese doesn’t mention any such group, either.
Bataar~ I hope you don’t mind (
) but I did a bit of research and I found this page. Archdiocese of Seattle–Office for Youth and Young Adult Ministry
Yes, these groups often do exist, but unfortuanately, tthey’re not very well advertised, and you have to hunt for them. It took me a long time to find out about St. Rose YAG.Bataar~ I hope you don’t mind (
Hope that helps!!
No, I’ve looked at that before and it has a couple of problems. For one, none of the links for Young Adults work. There is no way to learn anything about it, where/when/if events occur, etc. Second, it’s not a singles group. It is my experience that at groups like that, especially for adults, the vast majority of people attending are married couples or dating couples.Bataar~ I hope you don’t mind (
Hope that helps!!
Yeah, one problem is that, while young adults do attend Mass, they don’t always do anything else in the parish! Often times, they’ll skip the coffee and doughnuts in the parish hall (if the parish has it) and they’re not likely to be a part of any other parish activities, partly because it’s uncomfortable to be the only young person in a group! This feeling is increased if you happen to be single.
Yes, I fall into this category. I don’t participate much in church activities because either they don’t have them or they are geared towards people in a different stage of life than me (married with kids or retired). I’m also a morning person, so going to mass no later than 9am-ish doesn’t help matters. Most people in their 20s are still sleeping when I attend mass.
It’s not?!
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Yep. And the reality is, we young adults need to take some responsibility for not being active in our parish. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still arguing that it’s important for parishes and dioceses to encourage groups for young adults, both single and married. (After all, even Hitler understood the importance of the youth.)
I used to fear such as well.
I’ve seen similar things too, at retreats. I’ve seen young adults stand in line for confession,and prostrate themselves before the Blessed Sacrament in adoration.
If more young adults saw this, and knew that they were not alone, they would become less tepid in their faith.That’s pretty much how I am. I go to Mass on Sunday (or Saturday evening) and go home afterwards. That’s pretty much the only time I do anything church related except for going to confession. Outside of youth, race, and elderly groups, there are no social groups at my church. They do coffee and donuts on Sunday, but I don’t go because I’m not into “visiting” with people and since there’s nothing else to do there, I’m not interested.
I hear you. It can be frustrating. However, I would still say to go to coffee and donugts once in while. I once talked to a middle aged woman at coffee and donuts, who had recently come back to the Church. After talking with her, she thanked me for doing so, because she had felt lonely since coming back. You never know. Maybe you won’t get much out of the visit, but the other person might need it.
That’s a good point. Did you initiate the conversation or did she?
I initiated the conversation. She was sitting at the table by herself, so I asked if I could join her.
I’ll start. I love that my Young Adult group has a large number of activities, spiritual and social. They have a regular Holy Hour every month, and they gather for a large number of different kinds of activities throughout the month. We’ve gone to museums, movies, had parties at people’s homes, and we frequently meet for Sunday Mass together, and then go out for brunch.
Another thing I like is that it is NOT a singles group. I’m not crazy about the idea of a singles group. Partly because I went to one meeting once when I was 23, and most of the guys were almost 40. Creepy!
I would love a group where shirtless men were fanning us as we sip yummy drinks.
Do you think that would fly? It might attract some other people then the parish I left. Now I’m on the hunt for a new parish. On a more serious note, have fun gatherings and nights out, not just bible study.LOL–this literally made me laugh at loud!! I alternate between two parishes. They both have YAC. One parish YAC is having a happy hour this Thursday. This thread has inspired me so I am going to attend. I am an introvert though and the idea of walking into a bar where I don`t know anyone is not my idea of fun.I would love a group where shirtless men were fanning us as we sip yummy drinks.