The honest difference here is that these women you cited were educated in a very different setting compared to ours. Universities today = drinking, partying, clubbing, drugs, alcohol, sex, sex, and lot more sex.
Your orientation day begins with giving you a packet of condoms in most Universities.
Honestly, it’s the kind of people with whom you hang around and many times, that begins sooner than college. It also depends on how good of an influence your parents were. I never drank, clubbed, did drugs or had sex whilst in university. In fact, my husband and I were both virgins when we married. We attended the same university. I mention this not because I think it made us any better, but to show that if you have the right kind of support from parents before going away to college and had a strong moral and spiritual conviction, it’s not as uncommon to successfully avoid the temptations. We had many friends who also did not engage in the kind of lifestyle that some young adults do. We also had friends who did. I always made it clear to those who did that I was not interested in that kind of activity. They respected that and left me alone. Many of the people I knew who did all of the underaged drinking, sex, clubbing, drugs, etc. were doing it when their were high school… some as young as 13 or 14. I’m sure there were some who went wild after leaving their parents’ wings, but it often times was not the case. They were doing it before they even left their homes for college.
So given that a woman will be a stay at home mother, there is a real question as to whether she should attend University and put herself at risk.
I personally think a good compromise is to have the daughter attend the University closest to ones home so that she can continue to live at home with the family to help her through the peer pressure. Most women who stay in residence or off-campus housing just give into peer pressure out of loneliness.
As for women who want to be other things like Doctors or Nuns, they have a cause worthy of putting themselves through that risk. Though Nuns should probably be educated in a different setting is possible. I would hate to have a Church full of nuns that partied, drank and had lots and lots of of sex before they put on their habit. Seems like it undermines the whole point of being a Nun.
Perhaps the real question is actually should any parent feel safe sending their SON or DAUGHTER to a university. If we believe the idea that most kids will fall into sin when they attend college (which I still believe is not the case), shouldn’t we also be protecting our sons from sinful falls and ruining themselves with venerial diseases, potential for alcoholism, drug overdoses, etc. ? Why all of the focus on the women? You know, I have this feeling that there are some people who think that females are somehow weak-minded and can’t handle themselves when placed “at risk”. (I’m not saying you think this way as I haven’t been acquainted enough with your ideas and opinions.) Not all males need to go to college, either, yet, I know of no articles that touch on that subject of putting our sons “at risk”.
I also think the next question is the maturity level of your SON and DAUGHTER. Can you evaluate how well your child can handle living on his/her own in a college environment, to be able to walk away from situations that can lead them to sin? If a child seems to not be emotionally, spiritually or mentally mature enough, maybe it is time to rethink sending them away to college or to college, period.
In regards to having kids live at home, I don’t have a problem with that, especially if both sons and daughters are encouraged to live at home and especially if they are not quite at the maturity level they should be at to handle these kinds of situations. It would certainly save money, as on-campus living can be pricey. I valued living on campus, too, though. It helped me acclimate to living on my own once I graduated from college, because I really loved my family and being at home. I turned down a scholarship to an out-of-state university because I didn’t want to be so far away from my parents. I attended in-state, but stayed on campus and went home many weekends to continue my music training along with my normal studies. I knew, though, through my prayers that I had to push myself to let my wings grow and eventually fly. I would not have been able to do that had I decided to stay at home. I’m just thankful college tuition was not like it is now.
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I did something a little opposite. I had always felt music was my calling, but instead of attending a conservatory or music school, I decided to get a degree in something different, and then pursue music afterwards. I don’t regret one part of my education, as I took advantage of every opportunity given, in terms of a variety of classes, volunteer work, taking language courses that I knew would help me with my potential career in classical singing, etc. I even studied mass communications abroad for a semester, just so I could have a more open mind about how people in other countries and cultures lived. All I knew before then was how life was like as an American. Learning about life outside of my country in books or the news was fine up to a point, but actually living it was such a mind-opening experience. Every time I came back from abroad after a long period of time of study, I was a little changed and it was always for the better. Being able to expand my knowledge, my outlook in life, my critical thinking skills.