Dear Guanophore,
I don’t really like to intrude, but I want to do two things in this post: (1) Give my two cents; and (2) See if I can do the quote, reply, quote, reply technique (I’m new here, you know).
I don’t think there is any difference. In both cases, an experience has occurred. Sometimes it includes an emotional response, sometimes it does not.
There were a few times when I cried after receiving communion. But I thought it was just me, because I was emotional. I didn’t think that I received a special “gift of tears.” Actually, I don’t even want to start sobbing and pulling my handkerchief to wipe off my tears when I receive communion, because my daughter usually kneels beside me and I did not want to be embarrassed to her. And I don’t want other people to see me crying either. But that’s just me.
At my parish the anointing of the sick is offered every first Friday. When people receive this sacrament, it looks the same as it did a few minutes before during communion. They all have an experience of sacramental grace. It does not necessarily show on the outside. I have not interviewed them to see what they felt, but I am thinking about it.
The absence of an external, emotional response does not diminish the efficacy and the grace of the sacrament. I am happy just to be with the Lord, with or without tears. But I prefer no tears. Spiritual and emotional consolations that God wants to give us in prayer are great, and we should welcome them, I know. But when I receive communion, my intention is to be with Him in my faith and in my heart, and if it be His will, I’d rather not have the tears. I like the peace and the interior joy, but even this *feeling *is not necessary. Many saints have received communion when they are spiritually dry.
For those who pray expecting some signs or manifestations to happen, I offer this important WARNING. Be very careful. Because even the devil can duplicate those signs and wonders, and he can easily give them to you, and you will readily receive them from him unsuspectingly when you are after the manifestation itself, rather than God. Truly, this is how the devil deceives even the elect. When you stand in what someone aptly called “the assembly line” waiting for a manifestation to happen, you may indeed experience a “spiritual weight” that will make you collapse, but you DO NOT know for sure that it came from God! That it was a supernatural event is undeniable. That it was from God - that you are not sure. Because even the joyful feeling that comes with the experience can be caused by the devil. I think it is more important to evaluate what happens after the experience. Did it humble you, or are you just more proud because you received a gift? Are you now more resolved to resist sin, or just more eager to receive more of the same gift or experience? Was the experience beneficial to your spiritual life, or was it just a spiritual shock without relevance to your relationship with God? These are very good questions to ask.
External signs and wonders are external to sanctity as such. If God wants to give you a manifestation, then you will receive it whether you knew it was coming or not.
Regards to all!