So my parents told me about someone I should ask out and I'm unsure about it

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So to my surprise its a very cute girl, but I have many doubts. One she is a girl we do not really know, she works at a the local coffee shop we go to quiet often, but who they say likes me, this I might maybe believe as I am dumb as a rock on these things (flashing neon signs would be very helpful). Now I will say I have a crush on her, but well shes very pretty and I would judge well out of my league. On to problem two I have no idea if she is Catholic, of faith, or not. Three she is a at least 6 years younger than me. Now I know it is not crazy, but well shes just 20, last I remember around Saint Patrick’s Day, I just turned 27, and well it is a totally different life still being in college. I don’t want to ask her out if she’s seeing someone. I would imagine a pretty girl like her is. Also well how do you go about asking out a girl who’s working?
 
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“Thanks mom and dad, but, I prefer to date Catholic women who are closer to me in age.”
 
I mean if she is catholic I would mind it. It’s not that I’m opposed to it as well worried.
 
Yeah I guess that works. I mean if she’s catholic or open to being one then I have no issues.
 
Is she someone you can easily chat with when you go for coffee, or is she more business like? Do you see her anywhere else?

I know things like this can work out, but remember that a big part of her job is friendly service, and if she is young she probably has customers flirt with her a lot. If you see each other outside of work and can have a pleasant conversation, I think that’s a better chance to get together.

I also don’t suggest dinner for a first date. Ice cream and a walk, or mini golf,or some public activity where you can talk about the activity are good to break the ice.
 
Well I have been talking to her for a while in the store. She was telling me about her trip to Ireland before she went and a little bit after she came back. I haven’t seen her out anywhere. She will sometimes tell me stories about when she went to a couple of bars with her friends. Originally she asked my name and stuff months back. I mean shes friendly, but seems overly nice to me like tells me she’s do a special flavor combo, extra whipped cream, sometimes she is like you are having this today. It is cute as hell.
 
what’s the worst that can happen?
You go up to the girl and ask her out. She blushes, but accepts. Over the next few months you have joyous times together. As fall comes, she goes off to college but you see her on vacations. Time passes by. Months become years and you get married. In a year you have a baby boy named Johnny. As he learns to walk, you find out another child is on the way, a baby girl named Sara. Life blossoms and with a raise at your job, you move to a big new house. The first week goes nicely. The kids settle into their rooms. The neighbors welcome you. But soon you realize something is off. Whenever you take a walk, blinds cl9se. People that are talking to each other hush as you pass and stare as you leave. Johnny starts not wanting to go to school. Sara has no one to play with. But then you notice your wife is doing fine and the neighbors are warm to her.

One day you wake up to go to Sunday Mass. But your wife says she’s sick. Mass ends a little sooner than usual and when you get home, you find her well to do at a meeting with the neighbors. Betty from across the street points at you and says, “Stop him.” You turn to your wife, baffled, but she has you in a headlock. You pass out.

When you come to, you’re hanging upside down, chains around your ankles. There are guards. Tom and Jed. You ask them what’s going on. They tell a new world order coming, but not much more. Soon your wife walks in. She laughs at you. You ask her what she’s doing. “Husband,” she says, “always so silly. I’m remaking the world. Betty and her group had a good base, but they, could never have done it without me.”
“Done what?” you ask.
“Build the bombs.” she replies. Your children walk in. You see fear in their eyes and try to be brave. They call for daddy. “They’re your problem now.” says your wife and leaves the room.
Tom and Jed approach. They start to punch you. Sara screams. Johnny tries comforting her, but he’s crying too. As you’re punched, the chains around your ankles loosen. You crash to the ground but soon you’re up. Fallen bricks have knocked Tom and Jed out. You grab your kids, lock the door behind you, and run away from the house. In the distance you see your wife with a button in her hand. She presses it and trails of smoke appear in the sky, missiles headed to who knows where. And as the first mushroom clouds appear on the horizon, you think back to that coffee shop where you asked her out.

Now I’m not saying that’s gonna happen, but you did ask…
 
One she is a girl we do not really know, she works at a the local coffee shop we go to quiet often, but who they say likes me, this I might maybe believe as I am dumb as a rock on these things (flashing neon signs would be very helpful).
Asking her out and spending time with her— that’s how you get to know her.
shes very pretty and I would judge well out of my league
Let her be the judge of that, and what does that mean anyway? Don’t be down on yourself. Lack of confidence is a turn off.
On to problem two I have no idea if she is Catholic, of faith, or not.
That’s not a problem at all. You are asking her out to lunch or dinner or a coffee, not for marriage. You get to know someone gradually and then if it doesn’t seem like a fit you move on.
she is a at least 6 years younger than me.
I’m six years younger than my husband. Again let her be the judge of what is or isn’t too old for her.
I don’t want to ask her out if she’s seeing someone.
If you ask her out and she is seeing someone, she will tell you.
I would imagine a pretty girl like her is.
Maybe not. You really don’t know.
Also well how do you go about asking out a girl who’s working?
Ask her when her break is or ask for her number and then call her (no texting!! To ask her out).
Originally she asked my name and stuff months back. I mean shes friendly, but seems overly nice to me like tells me she’s do a special flavor combo, extra whipped cream, sometimes she is like you are having this today. It is cute as hell.
Yes you are dense, this girl is flirting with you.
 
Take a chance or the opportunity. It sounde like you have been to the shop a lot. There should be some small talk to get you started.

The worst that can happen is you fall on your face and she says no. Been there, done that. Not fun, but I survived.
 
Yes you are dense, this girl is flirting with you.
That made me chuckle. It was also true.
I’m six years younger than my husband. Again let her be the judge of what is or isn’t too old for her.
Yeah this is true, just at my age well life is quite different between college and life after.
Let her be the judge of that, and what does that mean anyway? Don’t be down on yourself. Lack of confidence is a turn off.
This is true, but I am an overweight guy she is if I had to guess a size 0 or 2 at the most.
 
I just don’t want it to be awkward to keep going their.
I can understand your hesitation from my own past , but I believe the awkward feeling would be more imagined than real.

With that, don’t let us here or your parents hold any influence over you.
 
This is true I know when my parents were my father was 6 foot over 330lbs and my mom was 4’11" and 89 lbs.
 
All great points. I just thought at our ages it could be seen as creepy or something. Plus it’s been years and years since I asked someone out.
 
Thank you so much. I hope it does work out. With a good woman in my life I’d have everything short of kids I could ask for.
 
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