So my parents told me about someone I should ask out and I'm unsure about it

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Get out of your head and ask. Worst she can do is say no. You’ll survive. Life goes on. The end. (well I did like mVitus’ take, lol)

I never did well in online dating so I keep my eyes open in real life. Do I get rejected? Yep. It stings, but only for a moment now. Like the baseball pitcher who gets tagged for a hit, gotta get your head back on track and pitch to the next batter.
 
I completely missed this post till just now and wow that was funny. Also might be my luck.
 
Zzyzx_Road said:
Get out of your head and ask.
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I have had no luck online really, just while I do not think faith is dying like the media makes it out to be. I do worry about expressing it people who are not known to be of faith. You are right I am playing out all the ways it could end badly. I just need to faith in God’s plan on this too. Or maybe she says yes and then I go damn it now what I didn’t plan that far ahead! Or as I said to someone else who knows I tend to like women who are older than me, but God has a sense of humor on these things and it would not shock me in the least.
 
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Or maybe she says yes and then I go damn it now what I didn’t plan that far ahead! Or as I said to someone else who knows I tend to like women who are older than me, but God has a sense of humor on these things and it would not shock me in the least.
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It’s usually a good idea to have a plan or two before you ask. She says yes, then what? At least you won’t be at a loss trying to make up something on the fly. This is not a situation where you ask her what she wants to do. There are times and places for that but this isn’t one of them.
 
In your position, at your age, I would be doing exactly what you are; wondering what to do. 🙂
 
If you’re that unsure about asking her out, don’t do it.
 
I just do not want it to be awkward and by that logic I will never ask another girl out, and I am not looking to be a priest.
 
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Yes you are dense, this girl is flirting with you.
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So when I went in Sunday with my father it was crazy busy so we didn’t talk, but dad wanted to look something up about where we were headed. After it died down and a minute or so passed I was just sitting on my phone while dad did the same and she came out to clean and talk. I asked her about her trip, but she got cut off when someone else came in, then we left. Oh as normal i got more whipped cream than my father.
 
Ask her out. At worst, she says no. At best, you go out and get a chance to get to know her better. And maybe things continue from there, or maybe not. Either way, you’re no worse off than you are now, and there’s a chance that you might be a lot better off. This is an imperfect analogy, but you can’t win the lottery unless you buy a lottery ticket from time to time.

When I was in my early 20s, I met a gorgeous young woman, a friend of a friend, who was also very nice and sweet, at least based on the few times I saw her. She was probably one of the most beautiful women I have ever met in real life. My friend said that I should ask her out, and I very much wanted to ask her out. But I was very shy, and I also figured that she was way out of my league, so I didn’t. Then a month or two later, another friend of ours asked her out. This gorgeous young lady said yes, and they dated for quite a while. The thing is, I would have said that she was way out of that guy’s league too, but evidently she didn’t think so. It made me wonder how many guys like me would have liked to ask her out, but never did because we thought “no way a gorgeous woman like that would ever go out with me.”

I’m happily married now, so I don’t have any regrets about how things turned out. But if I were in your shoes, knowing what I know now, I hope that I would muster up the courage to ask the girl out.
 
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, but evidently she didn’t think so. It made me wonder how many guys like me would have liked to ask her out, but never did because we thought “no way a gorgeous woman like that would ever go out with me.”
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this is so very true. And it seems that if i miss it really shouldnt be that awkward to keep going to the shop.
 
By the way, the idea of asking out a woman who works in a coffee shop reminded me of a great scene from the sitcom Frasier, where Niles asks out a waitress at the coffee shop and gets shot down. After a few internet searches, I was able to figure out which episode it is in. If you have a subscription to either Netflix or Amazon Prime Video, look up Frasier, Season 4, Episode 20 (“Three Dates and a Breakup: Part 2”), and start watching at 13:32. If you ask out the woman at the coffee shop, it surely won’t go any worse than it did for Niles. 🙂
 
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I just looked it up and well I can hope that doesn’t happen to me. If it goes like that really not painful at all.
 
Paul71 said:
This is an imperfect analogy, but you can’t win the lottery unless you buy a lottery ticket from time to time.
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I’ve always liked phrasing it as, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (Insert sports background.)

@carguy If I was in your situation, I’d probably end up going back and forth on whether I should or shouldn’t ask her out. But if you like her and people you trust are saying she’s dropping hints, then I would recommend asking her out. Easier said than done of course, but go for it.
 
mVitus said:
I’ve always liked phrasing it as, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” (Insert sports background.)
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Yes, that is better. Good analogy. Or we could quote the old adage, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.”
 
mVitus said:
Easier said than done of course, but go for it.
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I am planning on doing it. Just hope it goes well. I’m a mixture of excited and nervous about this. Normal been just nervous in the past. I hope my rosaries and other prayers worked
 
Come on!

Just go when you know she will be there (because you do know), it is not busy and ask her. The longer you wait the harder it will be!
 
First off no one is out of your league. And you would be surprised on how many beautiful girls are home alone on a Saturday night because, all guys figure they don’t stand a chance because she is out of their league.

Second, not everyone is looking for a Brad Pit. Just maybe your personality is just as big as your size and that is what she is attracted to. Don’t sell yourself short, you probably have a lot more to offer then you are giving yourself credit for. My (non catholic) niece who at the time she met the love of her life, was 20 and weighed about 90lbs soak and wet and was model beautiful (was to short to be one). Met a guy who most would take on look at him and think what does he have to offer her. He was 9 years older and was about 275lbs and thought he didn’t have a chance. But he took a dare from a friend and asked her out and they are still together after 5 year and are (unfortunately) Living together and are one of the happiest couples around. After getting to know him, she fell in love with him not his body. She seen something within him that he didn’t see himself. So do yourself a favor and go for it, you have nothing to lose. If you don’t for the rest of your life your going to wonder what if I had asked her.

Good Luck and Let us know how you make out.
 
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