(1) That’s why we all need to pray for more.
Yes. We do all need to pray for more. One of my most intense prayers is that I be graced with more tolerance.
But that doesn’t mean that I should not be bothered by bothersome things, or that I am a
bad person because I am bothered by bothersome things.
(2) That’s why you need to pray for some peace. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take appropriate action outside of Mass. What it means is that you learn the ability to block-out what annoys you in situations you are unable to change in real time so that you do not miss or degrade the experience of being in His Presence.
See… this is the kind of thing that aggravates me and gets my hankles up: Who said that I
don’t pray for peace? Who said that I
haven’t prayed for peace? Is that a fair assessment for you to make of me? Is that
nice? But yes, I have prayed for peace. And while I take my actions
outside of Mass (there is no point in making every one else uncomfortable), there are some actions that I will take during Mass: the finger to the lips to quiet someone who is talking, holding the hand of the person who is snapping papers, holding the hand of the child who is bouncing around on the pews, talking to people before they start their actions which are disturbing during the time between Masses.
And for many of the actions, I won’t say anything to any one at all. But then, I get grief from others to whom I feel comfortable enough to vent to that I shouldn’t have done whatever I did… even when they don’t know that I
did anything.
(3) You’re clearly angry. You need to pray for His peace and grace.
Yes. I’m angry. But now, I’m more angry at someone who accuses me of actions that they don’t have any evidence that I’ve done, and when it comes in a frilly package called ‘I’m so nice’, yes, it’s very aggravating. I’m angry. I don’t even get this upset with the people who make the noises. They don’t know any better. At least, I hope they don’t. And their actions are not directed towards me nor are they any indictment of me or my character. Still, I do continue to pray for peace and grace, as well as for a tamed tongue and the discretion to say something when it may do some good, and to remain silent when it would do no good.
It’s very sad to see that some just don’t get it. They go to Mass. They begin their preparatory prayers and unfortunately some come in and begin talking. Instead of re-doubling their focus on their preparation they get distracted and angry. Sometimes they just sit there, focused on how wrong the others are to be talking. Sometimes they leave. Other times they make a scene which is usually not effective. The tragedy is what they miss in the process.
I’m sure you’ve seen this a number of times. I can guarantee that you didn’t see me doing this any of those times.
It takes great strength and grace from God to remain focused in prayer. More people should ask for the gift and develop it. That doesn’t preclude taking other appropriate actions outside of the Mass.
And again, my translator is buzzing with the, ‘I’ve got grace and strength and you don’t, nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah’ stuff. Your comments are very condescending, to be very frank with you.
Just as much as those who may come into church and talk loudly and be distracting and not reverant in the church may be an annoyance, it’s not right to say to those who are not so guilty, ‘you’re the bad guy’.
And no, I’m not waiting on any thing that even resembles an apology. I just ask that you not do to others what you’ve done to me. I’ve prayed for, and been blessed with, a tamed tongue in this situation. Others may not be so kind.
