Son wants to wear chapel veil

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True but I would want to know the correct etiquette and follow that.
 
Parents and Teachers were authority. They did not need to explain themselves when telling a child to do something. Children had to answer to adults, not the other way around, like today. Things went better back then too. Much less chaos.
 
This link may help with some answers…
Also this may be a good time to introduce his male role specialness, a tie. Its something he wears that you dont. Maybe dress up for Mass if you dont already.
For correction, you could gently walk him out of the Sanctuary to a private area for a eye level but stern heart to heart. 😉

https://www.fisheaters.com/theveilthoughts.html
 
Why can’t he just be told “no” and an explanation given that hats and mantillas and scarves at mass are just for women? I don’t understand why he has to be indulged when he’s not behaving well as it is.
 
It can be a “both/and” situation (ie one can teach respect for authority and also teach the wisdom behind the decisions of authority).
 
This link is not “correct etiquette.” It is a bunch of people’s opinions that like to wear veils, and like to see people wear veils, nothing more, nothing “official.”
 
the Vatican, ultimately. They publish the rubrics, GIRM, Roman Pontifical, etc.
 
I know the Vatian publishes the rubrics, but where do they have written the proper times for the bishop to remove his miter, his zucchetto and such things?
 
Was there ever a larger mountain made out of a smaller molehill than this entire thread?
 
Modesty, tradition, gender identity and childrearing all in one?

It’s a perfect CAF storm!!!
 
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You can tell him that boys and men are not allowed to cover their heads in church. Explain that you cover your head because that is how women show respect to the Blessed Sacrament (put in simple terms of course). Tell him that he is actually showing more respect to Jesus for not covering his head. He’ll probably grow out of it soon.
 
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I’d be careful about saying that’s how women show respect…or she’ll end up with a little guy who will blurt out something along the lines of “Mrs So and So doesn’t cover her head, so she doesn’t show respect to God”, and without a doubt, it will be stated at the worst possible time or in front of the last person you’d want hearing it.
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Every priest can tell you this is true – because we have all had it happen to us, if we have been ordained long enough, that various comments not meant for our ears reach them, thanks to a child who says…“Oh, daddy, you are right…Father is eating too much pasta [or sweets]!”
 
PetraG said:
I know the Vatian publishes the rubrics, but where do they have written the proper times for the bishop to remove his miter, his zucchetto and such things?
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It is in The Ceremonial for Bishops, among other places. Essentially a seminarian will know the basics in short order, by practice – presuming he is attentive and we are talking about standard Masses.

The Ordination of a Bishop or the Triduum asks for a Master of Ceremonies attending the Bishop who is much more versed in the rites because of the complexity of the choreography with, for example, the Easter Vigil. A confirmation Mass I could virtually run through blindfolded.
 
HumblePilgrim said:
I started wearing a chapel veil at my novus ordo mass. My six year old son saw me and then decided to pull his sweater over his head (DURING MASS). I tried pulling it down several times and whispering to him that this was something girls and women do at Church. I explained it to him again several times since. He still says he wants to wear a veil too. How best can I explain this to him
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Could your husband or parish priest have a ‘quiet word’ with your son about mantilla’s are only worn by females or you could read the bible verse: St. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 11:7 For a man ought not to have his head veiled, since he is the image and reflection of God; but woman is the reflection of man.
 
TheHolyTrinity said:
Could your husband or parish priest have a ‘quiet word’ with your son about mantilla’s are only worn by females or you could read the bible verse: St. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 11:7 For a man ought not to have his head veiled, since he is the image and reflection of God; but woman is the reflection of man.
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That sends a wrong message. So women are not reflections of God as well? God does not have a gender.

This is a case in which “just say no” actually works.
 
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I explained it to him again several times since. He still says he wants to wear a veil too. How best can I explain this to him?
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Just tell him "Sonny, you are a young man. Girls wear veils, boys wear suits and ties when they are in church.
 
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