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My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
 
When you’re under 18, one of your rights is to do what your parents tell you. 🙂

Go with your mother. You can think of something else while you’re there.
 
As an underage child in your parent’s care, you must obey them. But, even if you have carefully explained your strong negative feelings about going and they still insist, then I would do as the other poster suggested and take along an unobtrusive small pocket rosary or rosary bracelet and recite the rosary while at the church, silently of course.

Your parents may feel that their faith is the best and/or the only way and that they must do their best to teach you their doctrines before you reach adulthood. Don’t be to hard on them. I’m sure they love you very much. Pray to the Lord and ask His help, and ask Mother Mary to intercede for you.
 
I don’t know how much under 18 you are but I think that you need to have a simple but clear heart to heart talk with your mom.

Explain to her that you will go with her to the SDA Church, ONLY out of respect for her wishes. However she needs to be aware that forcing the issue by threat will have the exact opposite effect of what she thinks (or hopes) it will have.
  1. If she desires to draw you to her communion, threats will only drive you further from it.
  2. Furthermore her willingness to stoop to threats does not reflect well on her as a Christian.
  3. In attending her church you will not stop being Catholic. If anyone asks, you will happily share with them the great joy, love and Truth you have found in the Catholic Church.
  4. Finally - if she insists on continuing this for any length of time, she can be sure that it will negatively impact your relationship for years to come…
Of course not knowing your mom or you and the dynamics involved (though I can guess some of it) you may want to rephrase some of the thoughts above. Or you may want to compose them in a very carefully and charitably worded letter to your mother.
That way she can’t interrupt you as you put forward your case, and also you can be sure you have worded it in the way you want to.

Good Luck

Peace
James
 
Just ask her “would Jesus want you to make my life miserable”? See her reaction. And tell her, forcing her beliefs upon you won’t make you convert
 
White_Peony said:
My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
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You must be obedient to your parents, BECAUSE you’re Catholic. What a dilemma. My parents didn’t take me to any kind of church when I was young, and I ended up on a journey which didn’t land me in Catholocism until I was in my late 40’s. In a weird way, it’s a blessing that you at least have a parent who is anxious to give you spiritual guidance and to share faith with you, even though we know it is misdirected and wrong. If continuing to celebrate the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass is on the line, that clearly, you must not only obey your parent, but be grateful that by the Grace of God, in doing so, you can still attend His Church before reaching the age of majority. Do you mind sharing whether or not you ARE Catholic. I mean, have you been baptized, confirmed, and participate in reconciliation and eucharist? If so, there is another grace of God. Christ has already claimed you as His own, and will not abandon you. When you go to the other Church, just try to discern what we share, and disregard what we don’t. Christ will help you, and will bring you to the Church you love as your sole expression of faith. Who knows…perhaps your mother will see the importance of the Church to you eventually, and you may be the very agent of the Holy Spirit that brings her to the Church, (or back to the Church?) in the long run. Remember St. Monica, and her prayers for St. Augustine. Just reverse the rolls. 😉

The Lord’s peace to you.

Steven
 
White_Peony said:
My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
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That sure is scary. I will say a rosary for your intentions.
 
Well go with your mom, just dont partake in any stuff, since its a sin to do things with heretics… I tend to use the traditional way… I dont even pray with them… oops did I just say that out loud:D
 
Oh, great. Well, thanks! I suppose this is just the cross I have to carry…

We have had many, many arguements in the past because I would not conform to her and break the hallowed teachings of the Church I so dearly love.
 
White_Peony said:
Oh, great. Well, thanks! I suppose this is just the cross I have to carry…

We have had many, many arguements in the past because I would not conform to her and break the hallowed teachings of the Church I so dearly love.
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As the nuns at school use to say - offer it up for the poor souls in purgatory - which I suspect is where you are going to feel you are every time you have to go with your mom…

Be of good cheer. Christ is near.

You are in our prayers

Peace
James
 
White_Peony said:
My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
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You have some good answers here, I want to add this: your mom is doing what she is doing because she loves you very much. Many people believe the Catholic church is led by the Devil. She might. Your mom wants to save your soul and she is more frightened than you are.

Go with her. Obediently, willingly, out of love for her and appreciation for what she is trying to do for you. You will have “rights” for a long time. But now, you have the chance to give her something, to love her in a special way.

Forget your so-called rights. Love is about putting others ahead of ourselves. Put her peace of mind first. The Church isn’t going anyplace.
 
Here’s a video of Saint Josemaría Escrivá giving advice in a similar situation:
Young Jewish girl asks St. Josemaria about converting:
opusdei.us/art.php?p=42224

take care,
amsjj 🙂

+++
Jesus, God and man,
imprisoned by love in Thy most holy Sacrament,
have mercy upon us.
– Blessed John Henry Newman, December 22, 1851

Tú y yo sabemos por la fe que oculto en las especies sacramentales está Cristo,
ese Cristo con su Cuerpo, con su Sangre, con su Alma, y con su Divinidad,
prisonero de amor.
– San Josemaría Escrivá, 1 junio 1974
 
White_Peony said:
My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
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I am a bit confused. You are a minor, living at home with your Mom who is Adventist. She wants you to go with her to Adventist services and refuses to permit you to go to Mass. Is your dad Catholic, were you adopted, is your Mom your step mom, what is the situation? How is it that you are Catholic and your Mom is not and appears not to support your decision to be one. How did you convert? It appears that she would not have allowed it in the first place.

Very confusing indeed.
 
Seventh Day Adventism is entirely evil, but remember that your mother is not.

Remember also that she gave you an option to not attend the sabbitarian meetings. To me she made it clear that she is willing to make your life terrible. You should be willing to take her up on the offer.

It is your job to be her daughter. It is also your job to be a Christian.

When the Virgin Mary was walking with Her Son in the cool of the afternoon one day way back when, Her own family attempted to throw Her off of a cliff. All She had to do was deny Christ, but She refused and Jesus stepped in as God and protected Her.

In the meantime, here is a wonderful book by Carl Olson. If you cannot afford, it is my sincere recommendation that you do not let any obstacles get in the way of reading it. Try ordering from the public library if you may. The second book by Keating looks promising. I have not read it but I did perform a scan of the material it covers, and have found it appropriate.

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Other than this… all I can offer is the hope of Mary.
 
JimmytheButcher said:
When the Virgin Mary was walking with Her Son in the cool of the afternoon one day way back when, Her own family attempted to throw Her off of a cliff. All She had to do was deny Christ, but She refused and Jesus stepped in as God and protected Her.
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Where did you get this from? It sounds very much like a confusion with the Gospel account of an event at Capernaum, which happened to Jesus Himself.

And, as Mary is not God, it is not appropriate to capitalise her prononun e.g… we do not use ‘Her’; with a capital H, or ‘She’, with a capital S.
 
Mike30 said:
I am a bit confused. You are a minor, living at home with your Mom who is Adventist. She wants you to go with her to Adventist services and refuses to permit you to go to Mass. Is your dad Catholic, were you adopted, is your Mom your step mom, what is the situation? How is it that you are Catholic and your Mom is not and appears not to support your decision to be one. How did you convert? It appears that she would not have allowed it in the first place.

Very confusing indeed.
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My parents were originally Catholic and raised me in teh Catholic Church. When my mother asked for a divorce she converted to SDA.
 
White_Peony said:
My parents were originally Catholic and raised me in teh Catholic Church. When my mother asked for a divorce she converted to SDA.
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I figured it was something like that. How old are you, if I could ask? The age will have a bearing on the answer to the question.
 
I offer no advice…but you are in my prayers friend. I know this must be a tough situation. Cling to our blessed Lord in the Holy Eucharist and He will guide you through to His Truth always.
 
White_Peony said:
My mom is Seventh-day Adventist and wants me to go to her church. She says if I don’t got she won’t let me go to Mass and will make my life miserable. But I don’t have to convert, apparently. I just have to go to her church.

I can’t not go to Mass!!!

I can’t go to her church because I screw up the doctrines a lot (I call them my Cathadventic thoughts).

I don’t like Cathadventic thoughts.

I <3 being a Roman Catholic!

But whatever happened to religious freedom, or is it because I’m under 18, I don’t have rights?

I want rights… :bighanky:
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Hello White,

I’m no fan of Adventism, but your religious rights go as far as your mum will permit them. On the bright(er) side, if you miss Mass, the fault won’t be yours. Just do what you can.

You could get an ally. Is your dad around or an uncle/auntie/grandparent that can vouch for you?

You could also pray silently to yourself during the service (she didn’t say you have to pay attention) and make the sign of the cross to assert yourself.
 
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