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OraLabora
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Ultimately, that is all we can do: pray for them, and continue to love them.She means a lot to me and I pray for her, but this is an issue that…I’m at a loss, but of course the only thing I’m sure of is even if she does have surgery or tells me I’m still here friend, etc, even though I don’t want her to take that road.
No mistake is unforgivable to God. We should never shut the door to people we think are making mistakes, nor should we stop loving them.
And here I have a confession to make: I am the father of a transgendered child and will continue to love her and welcome her in my home with open arms. I won’t go into details but I will say two things: one, theorizing about it on an anonymous forum, and having it in your face are entirely different matters. And two, with the state of today’s medical and psychiatric art, it is virtually impossible for a transgendered person to be happy in his or her birth gender role. I have known my child was profoundly unhappy for some time before coming out, and in a way was relieved to find out why. Like any parent I want my child to be happy (she is an adult btw).
That’s no different than telling someone with cancer that will result in genital mutilation, that they have to live with their condition and die instead of seeking a mutilating treatment. For many transgendered, presenting as birth sex is a death sentence. For some, in the real physical sense, and for others, an inner death that forces them out to the margins of society.The Church holds that unambiguously having DNA and secondary sexual characteristics of one sex and yet presenting oneself as not belonging to that sex whatsoever because of a psychological disaffection with that part of oneself is a different matter, even if that disaffection has an organic origin unfortunately beyond the patient’s control.
The Church needs to do better than this.
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