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Bill_7154
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The word alcoholic is not a medical definition. It’s used in AA and by drug and alcohol counselors and the general public but does not have a specific definition as far as I know. I have heard it defined as ‘someone who can not drink in safety’ and a bunch of other ways.Please stop reciting the “think speak” mantra claim. I don’t belong to AA and when I said “normal” I used it in a generic sense, not some “normie” word that I personally have never even heard used.
If “regular habitual drinking equates to alcoholism” than your uncle was an alcoholic because he “drank regularly”, but you say he wasn’t alcoholic. Which one is it? You have been all over the map reconstructing terms and usage. I agree some can drink again, you write as if I have denied that. This is getting circular and I see no headway being gained.
When it comes to doctors and their labeling of people who drink excessively there are, to my knowledge, 2 general catagories: alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence.
Disease model or not, I think these 2 catagories are useful (and it may be useful to have additional catagories if one is concerned about assisting people who drink excessively or for the wrong reasons or whatever- for example a person’s son or daughter and their relationship to alcohol. Maybe their drinking doesn’t rise to the specific criteria that is used to define alcohol abuse, but as a parent you may notice that your child (let’s say very late teens, like 19 or 20 yrs old) takes a drink or 2 alone at times as a means of coping with anxiety. This may not be alcohol abuse but it may certainly be problematic behavior. I’m not a big fan of labels, but recognizing such a pattern early on with ones child could save them and the poeple who love her a whole lot of pain and suffering.
I also think that recongizing social norms within societies sub groups is useful. College students, not sure what % of them, but it’s not small, abuse the heck out of alcohol. Getting drunk on weekends by many college students is considered normal, and while probably not a healthy thing, I think it should be looked at within it’s context. Drinking beer bongs or beer funnels and playing drinking games is ‘normal’ for a fair % of college students. If 30 year olds are drinking that way I would be willing to bet they have a problem. With the college students who drink that way, a large % of them slow down and stop drinking that way in their early 20’s.
The way the USA deals with drinking, the age limit and the way that children are introduced to alcohol I think it problematic when compared to many other countries. And as adults we in the USA suffer for it. In some countries i think the legal drinking age is like 15 or something. In any event, in some countries the first 20 times, or maybe the first 50 or 100 times a youth drinks is in the context of having dinner with their family and having a small ammt of wine with their family with dinner. No one is ‘getting drunk’. Then on holidays they are at larger family gatherings and it’s the same thing, everyone, including the teens, are drinking a small ammt of wine along with their family and NO ONE is getting drunk.
Compare that to the USA where I think the vast majory of teens first 20 or 50 experiences with alcohol are behind their parents backs with other teens, and often times they are getting drunk. Maybe not the first few times, or maybe not even the first dozen times, but youth drinking in the USA is done with other youths, away from their families, hidden from adults (with exceptions). I think this is an example of forbidden fruit and think that it is one of, if not the main reason, we have such a problem with alcohol in the USA.
I have an infant child and that is NOT going to be his experience in developing a relationship to alcohol. Drinking with other teens at high school parties behind my back. I am going to introduce him to alcohol as a substance to be used in moderation to enance plesant and happy family gatherings. Where the adults are drinking 1-2 glasses of wine over the course of an entire evening, and on specail holiday occasions he will be allowed to have a sip of wine as part of that celebration of family coming together to share happiness, to celebrate special holidays. And I will start educating him about alcohol from a very early age. Something to be respected, something that is potentially very, very dangerous. I will have a bond with him where he will not seek to do sneaky things behind my back. He will feel comfortable coming to me to talk about other children who he may know of from school who drink or use marijuana. I will teach him why they are doing what they are doing and why that is not a useful way to live, nor will he have God’s respect, or the respect of a good potential girlfriend if he were to conduct himself in that manner. As well as the many other reasons it isn’t wise to use alcohol that way.
Maybe those statement will create a lot of controvercy here. That’s OK by me. I think certain European countries youth don’t drink to wild excess like the youth in the USA do. And I would like to learn from their example. So that as he grows up he isn’t getting drunk at college parties, he isn’t interested in doing so. He will know what the mild light glow feels like from having small ammt’s of wine and will learn that this is the way alcohol is meant to be used, and within the context of family celebrations and situations like that. This way, when he’s off at college and at parties he will not be ‘slamming’ beers and ‘doing shots’. And he will not be interested in young ladies who are doing that sort of thing. It is crass but in the USA it is normal. Passing out and acting like a jackass is not what God wants, but this is commonplace at colleges all across the country. I think alcohol is one of the usa’s largest social problems and I think it is connected to the way we attempt to shield youth from alcohol- of course unsuccessfully. So when they finally get their hands on it, since they never learned how to handle it responsibly, they drink to significant excess and all sorts of risky and immoral and dangerous things happen which are seen as ‘fun’ by the participants.
I want my son’s ‘fun’ with alcohol in college to be sharing a glass of wine with a classy girl whom he respects and where the girls parents (assuming it’s not the first few dates) know him and respect him and recognize him as a man of God with class and honor.
I know I side tracked things there, the thoughts of the huge problems we have with young people and alcohol abuse is terrible and is not customary worldwide. If there are other primary reasons other than the one I suggested I would be interested in knowing what it/they are.
Thanks.