I would say that it’s possible, depending on what you mean. I wouldn’t be so confident that MOST people with exclusive SSA could ever move to a point where they had exclusive OSA.
However, I think there is real hope that a man with SSA can cultivate some sort of OSA.
My source? My own life. I have SSA, but for me it has proven a bit fluid. This wasn’t the case for years. The SSA started in my teens, then went dormant for a while, but then it resurfaced in College. From College and some time into my marriage actually (with my wife being fully informed, of course) I was able to love a woman, yes, able to “perform” with a woman, but I had hardly any physical attraction to women. That is to say, it was very rare for me to be able to look at a woman and have her physical appearance affect me. And actually, until recently in my life, I’m not sure I had ever experienced the sort of raw, visual attraction to women that many men with OSA feel.
But I’ve made progress on this. There have been times, recently, where I almost felt “straight,” and certainly felt–to use a worldly term for it, although I’m not saying such labels are good–“bisexual.” I’ve noticed, at least in certain ways, a heightened sense of attraction to my wife, visually, which is something even less than half a year ago I had almost lost hope for.
A couple of clarifications, though. This isn’t perfect. The opposite sex attraction is mostly to my wife specifically, even at times when it’s more concrete, rather than to women in general, although I’ve had moments of that, vaguely and rarely. I don’t know if I’ll ever have my OSA be perfectly reliable. And I have no idea if I’ll EVER be rid of the SSA. So this doesn’t constitute a “magical jump.” It can be hard work, something to maintain rather than some magical change that, once made, needn’t be worried about anymore. But it IS something, at least. And I’ve encountered many other men who claim similar results.
So, at least in my experience, the truth is messy, and not clear cut either way. These dispositions are neither easily fluid nor rock-solid unchangeable. It’s somewhere in between.
My wife, on the other hand, was once almost exclusively Lesbian, and now, although she would caution that she doesn’t have confidence that this will ALWAYS be true, she’s pretty much the opposite, exclusively heterosexual, and very MUCH attracted to me visually, etc. I’ve heard some argue that this is easier for women, or more common for women; I don’t know about that, but my wife would certainly be an example.
I hope this helps…
P.S. As for living a heterosexual lifestyle, I would say that IF a man and a woman meet each other, and one has exclusive SSA and the other is well aware of this, then if they both know what they’re getting into as much as they can know, it’s possible to live that lifestyle even IF the exclusive SSA of the one spouse never changes, as long as he/she is capable of loving the other spouse and of having marital relations. You might look up “Josh Weed” for an example of this, and this has often been the case in my own marriage at times where the SSA was more exclusive.
I’d tend to agree with you on that point, I think. Thankyou for contributing!