St. Monica, Pray for us!

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PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(YOUR PERSONAL INTENTION HERE)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen
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St. Monica is my patron saint!
I do pray to her every night.

Monica24
 
I am married to a man who is in prison for capitol murder, and he is a baptist. He asked me about the Catholic faith and what we believed, well he started to come to agree with me, but since he has been in prison, he has been reading several books that are harrisies against the church. and now he is telling me what we the Catholic Church isn’t suppose to be doing. I feel so very hurt that he has come to believe these other people and is attacking me, and the Church. So I ask for prayer for him. His name is Alan Bonner.
Thank you,
Monica24:gopray2::gopray2:
 
I have not been posting since over a year ago.
My husband asked for help getting his business going again( we both used to do the same thing from home) so I spent many hours a day getting him going on it, advertising etc.
It cost me nothing but time and I felt motivated to do it until he told me he was celebrating his first paycheck by buying beer.

So I just stopped helping and then he and his affair, that he has been living with since 2003, had nothing left to do ( 2 states away near his grandma) so he came back this August to my town , to his Mom’s . He saw the girls ( ages 8 and 10) once since then and flaked out about a couple of other plans, so I stopped trying so hard.
He has asked to see them for dinner and presents he has to give them on the 23rd.
He is very quiet with me now, when we saw him in June we sang songs for 2 hours with him .

August when he moved back, with the affair… at the mothers… i decided it was too painful for me to chase him and spend time visiting so the kids could spend time…over there as we had when he breezed through 2 times a yr before.

I usually thought it was best that he see the kids and I drove over there daily dropping in etc.

I felt so hopeful when he moved back to town in Aug . that at least he might spend time with the girls. But it seems he does not want to.
It had me crying for 2 hours straight and I talked to my priest, he said I was doing a good job.

So, that is my update for anyone who remembers me.
I do not know what to do, thinking of divorcing but that is as far as that gets.
I seem unable to go to the lawyer and start the divorce even though I think it is what I need to do. He does not seem to want to be back with me and the kids.

He wants to help his affair with her son, talks of her son( he is slightly older than our girls) and he helps his mom.

he works doing odd jobs now and then.

He could still be touched by God, I know that I would be doing something if I was supposed to do it, but I just carry on.
I try to make friends but have none. I attend a coffee now and then with married ladies that have kids in the same classes as my kids.
I find it very hard to relate to them , not sure why.
I am not living the style of life that they are, and they do not listen anyway. I feel invisible around them.

I feel as If I do not fit in… I go hiking with some people every sat with the kids but since it has gotten cold, I no longer feel motivated.
Besides, it has become boring/lonely as well as the adults do not talk to me and the kids enjoy playing but I stand around feeling like the babysitter, so it is boring for me. I do take many photos of the scenery and enjoy the exercise… but I feel down.

Not sure what to do but carry on.
My parents both died in 08, the last time I posted here was between the death of my dad and mom. My mom died in the fall of 08 and my sister rushed the sale of the family home so that is now sold, this past summer.

the older 4 siblings all drink now daily and need to drink , it appears. no matter how hard they try to hide it. the others ( 7 siblings in all) rarely communicate. out of the 7, only one still attends Mass.

not sure but , the drinking explains some, … the others, not sure.
they are co habiting, i know one has a porn addiction, and the other ( a brother) has an abusive wife that breaks my heart for me to know . she hits and bullies him.

I think some took many special items from the home and i was not there so perhaps that is why they are silent. all i wanted was 2 old photos to be copied and they are remaining silent. I am working on famliy tree . which has been a wonderful distraction and interesting.

i had a skin cancer operation this summer on my eyelid and it was painful for one month then I had an overnight healing, and I do know God loves me.
the asthma is a bit better, i do sleep better . also the neighbor above has left for a month, and may be gone longer , that neighbor was noisy int he night and i never slept for 2 hours without getting awakened.
so that is answered prayer.

i do feel that i am lucky to be able to work at home, i am nervous of seeing my husband the 23 rd and the way he seems to have forgotten us, yet the kids and him spend time together 2 times a yr, it is so surreal.

surreal especially when i feel the same feelings, no matter how hard i try to stop them.
If he came over and wanted to talk, i would be open to his return. I can no longer say the words : I love you" to him, but I do feel the love.
i know the youngest child is not so keen on it, as she recalls his tantrums with no illusions.
she does not want that back here.

the 10 yr old has the same love and longing for her daddy.
they want to go to a daddy daughter dance, but he looks like a druggie.

the thing that makes me feel God wants me all to himself is the lack of friends .
I have no friends.
the married ladies perhaps are just too busy and the other single ladies are not as tied down as me. so here I am.

i do things with my married daughter, but the thing that gets me wondering is… i do expend energy in trying to befriend ladies ,…
and it seems all for nought.

i am in the 4H club and the kids take piano, we do find social involvement through these things, yet not friends per se.

maybe i will not really have friends. I do not want pity.

people would rather visit a stranger than us, as many ladies who I have gotten to know this year are visiting strangers over Christmas but we are not thought of.
mY parents did spend time with their friends and i recall visiting at Christmastime of various people they knew and people came by all the time. the times have changed, people have obviously changed… or I have done or said something that keeps them avoiding me.
i dont talk about the husband other then when he moved back I did tell some ladies the
 
I haven’t been here in awhile…Basically, I’m looking for advice/suggestions…I don’t know what else to do. Prayers to inspire me to pray My husband isn’t Catholic. He’s evangelical. We used to have more values/beliefs in common than we do now. He’s now definitely a fundamentalist who adheres strictly to the Creation Science philosophy. He’s been angry about me getting all 3 children baptized (8 yrs, 5 and 3). He’s always angry with me but won’t admit it. His words are harsh and his heart is totally hardened to the truth…increasingly so. Today, I started to try to “work on” our relationship again by getting to the bottom of things (what a great idea, being that we are both sleep-deprived with it being Christmas)…which never works. It’s like why should I bother and keep hoping but I do.
Anyway, it all ended with him telling me that I don’t deserve his last name. Seriously. I just broke down there and left completely heartbroken. Because I’m not teaching the kids his values during the day while he’s at work, he thinks this is a sacrifice he’s making. And so I don’t deserve his last name. Prior to this he asked me why a woman takes a man’s surname upon marriage? I didn’t exactly answer because I knew it would come to “the man is the head of the home” and I’ve taken this position from him. He’s deeply bitter and won’t admit it. He finds no need to apologize. I know I will not get an apology from him for his harsh words today. Never do.

Pray so that I start to pray again–rosary, divine mercy, St. Monica chaplet, whatever for his conversion, etc. And please pray so that I can forgive him over and over and over. Because my heart shuts him out and locks that door. And unforgiveness is a sin, too. And I’m suppose to love him. How can I do that when he’s so cruel and says things indicating he doesn’t even like me anymore? And then he’s angry because of almost no sexual intimacy. But how can I give to him physically if I resent him and he’s always angry and doesn’t apologize?
Oh, interestingly, he loaded the dishwasher today and cleaned the kitchen counters and washed all the dishes that couldn’t go in the dishwasher after his comment. Should I take this as an apology? Something tells me that no, this isn’t an apology? Am I being stubborn and hard? Or should I continually expect an apology?

His hatred towards Catholicism is very bad. My daughter should be receiving her 1st communion this year, but I’m not preparing her because he’ll become just more angry and I can’t take it anymore. I also don’t want our family destroyed and I don’t want her and my children to be persecuted by him.

Any thoughts, advice, suggestions?

Thanks.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

My Children and the intentions of all on this thread
 
My husband cheats on me. Repeatedly, and in hateful, spiteful and disgusting ways. Then I find out, he apologizes and swears a new beginning. This starts the cycle, he resumes rigorous counseling, prayer, Mass attendance and attentions at home. I forgive, things relax and we are “happy” until the next lie or indiscretion is discovered. I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Every time we go through this I think “NOW is when I will have my nervous breakdown”, but I don’t, and we go on in the same cycle. I wonder how this can really be God’s plan for me. “Really? This is my life, Lord?” I wonder that this is what the Church and God truly intended for the unbreakable bond of marriage. I wonder how many more times I will have to endure this.

Please pray for me.
 
Praying for everyone represented here, especially those with much suffering to bear. :grouphug: :crossrc:

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(the intentions of all on this thread)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
Praying for all the intentions here!

Saint Monica, please pray for all of us here and for our families!
 
Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

The Faith of my seven children

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and healing of our marriage
all of the intentions on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

the conversion of my husband and healing of our marriage
all of the intentions on this thread

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.
 
goodness i need a friend in st monica and all of you here at the forum im so new i cant figure out how to post a picture on groups or for my proifie which says im a trial member or something similar…so help please explaining how to post pics and if i have to wait to become a full member…im confused…who is the saint for that? teehee
 
forlorna said:
goodness i need a friend in st monica and all of you here at the forum im so new i cant figure out how to post a picture on groups or for my proifie which says im a trial member or something similar…so help please explaining how to post pics and if i have to wait to become a full member…im confused…who is the saint for that? teehee
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BeyondWords said:
My husband cheats on me. Repeatedly, and in hateful, spiteful and disgusting ways. Then I find out, he apologizes and swears a new beginning. This starts the cycle, he resumes rigorous counseling, prayer, Mass attendance and attentions at home. I forgive, things relax and we are “happy” until the next lie or indiscretion is discovered. I don’t know how much longer I can do this. Every time we go through this I think “NOW is when I will have my nervous breakdown”, but I don’t, and we go on in the same cycle. I wonder how this can really be God’s plan for me. “Really? This is my life, Lord?” I wonder that this is what the Church and God truly intended for the unbreakable bond of marriage. I wonder how many more times I will have to endure this.

Please pray for me.
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PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

The healing of Beyond Words’ marriage

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.

Amen
 
I don’t post as often as I used to, but I’m still around… 🙂

PRAYER TO ST. MONICA

Dear St. Monica,
troubled wife and mother,
many sorrows pierced your heart during your lifetime.
Yet, you never despaired or lost faith.
With confidence, persistence, and profound faith,
you prayed daily for the conversion
of your beloved husband, Patricius,
and your beloved son, Augustine;
your prayers were answered.
Grant me that same fortitude, patience,
and trust in the Lord.
Intercede for me, dear St. Monica,
that God may favorably hear my plea for

(the intentions of all on this thread)

and grant me the grace to accept His Will in all things,
through Jesus Christ, our Lord,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, forever and ever.
Amen.

May today bring peace to all represented here. :crossrc: :grouphug:
 
Belle my dear, i have been thinking of you often, and it led me back here!
AND THEN , i seen your post! God bless your trials, you and everyone else here.

I have been down and back up several times now with my husband. The family, i am hopeing is getting a bit stronger with him at least attempting to be on his meds. It does nothing more than take away his rage at the world, and it is at least bareable to live with him. The trick is to get him to at least remain on them.

My faith has been strong, but my will fights with me desperately by simply making me feel “stuck” due to the exhaustion at working at this all by myself, and still be the target of blame. I really do not care anymore who or what he blames, but in doing so, i have accepted it will not quite ever be the same. I mean in my heart, because i had hung on so dearly to hope.

I think it was misplaced hope though. I think it was allowing me to not move forward in a lot of ways. You see, God wants us to remain married through thick and thin, and so on. However, he does not believe we should be treated so terribly, and without love. Love to me has become a vacant word that i cringe hearing. If this is my husbands version of love, well i don’t want it, for i am not a dog, door mat, ot punching bag for his verbal excercises!

In this we have to take responsibilty for our own actions! Yes, that is the hard thing to accept. For everything they put us through, every bit of peace we struggle for, and loose a little bit of ourselves in the process. But…we give it away for a price. To be loved, at any cost. For all we do, why are we not loveable by them? Because we simply do not love ourselves enough…and this truth is painful to admit.

My God knows my heart…and he sheds tears for my predicament, as do I. I seek him out less and less out of shame, and he does not want this. The first time a man hits us (or yells, or guilts us, etc) it is his fault. The second time, i share in this abuse by accepting the behaviour by staying! I too am part of the illness. For this i pray…for the strength to endure, and be lost in the gentle arms of Jesus to make me strong enough to love myself enough to be strong in Gods love.

I need to actually visit him in the garden, and Tarry there with him, as he is my truest friend. I have lost touch with him, and i feel hollow. I thought it was my life feeling hollow…but i realize it is the absence of his presence in my days that is the foundation of my most painful sorrows.

I can do anything…WITH him…it is alone i forgot to hold his hand!

Lana
 
Please pray fro my Alissa. She has left her faith for the love of her non catholic boy friend. There is a great split in our family. I will wait and pray for her return to our Lord.
 
St. Monica, pray for “David”, that he may recognize evil when he sees it; that he would find it offensive and outrage him as it does Our Lord. May he be drawn more deeply into discipleship with Our Lord; may he be transformed by grace thru the Holy Spirit. May he seek the Lord above all others. Amen
 
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