Steve and Renata- Please save our marriage

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Honestly, does God have his favourites??? I imagine he does…parents have their favourite child, bosses have their favourite employees and the favourites go on. Thank God, I have only one child who I adore, because I would have been one of them. Why are there some people on this planet that have “everything”, looks, money, best jobs, faithful spouses and of the ones I know personally, don’t have any connection with God. Everything falls into place for them…Found out over CHristmas step-son’s GF was pregnant and was planning to abort the pregnancy. Even though I tried to talk to him and presuaded him to talk to her, she went ahead. They are still together, in love, and she is beautiful physically and mentally.

I have never been “a favourite”, I joined the group misfits because I feel like one. I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself but what else can I do…God has deserted me, my husband hates me and my step daughter hates me, for what I don;t know as she offered me the most amount of support in October when things were really going bad.

I want to escape from all of this. I seriosuly can’t take it anymore. Life is so not fair. If God really cared, he would intervene and end the suffering. If my son was distraught and I had the power to make him happy I would do it. Enough suffering. There comes a time where we need to be compassionate and God is just letting this go bad. We are married and God “hates” divorce. I feel like a used up dishrag ready to be thrown out. The disposable marriage, disposable children, disposable pets, everything in this damn world is disposable.

I even went to marriage counselling and she totally let me down. SHe was a “Christian marriage counsellor” and we met a couple of times, she went on maternity leave, never responded to my emails and after I told her about Steve’s female friend from work, she emailed me asking to make another appointment THREE months later.:crying::crying:

Not that I am thinking irrationally, (suicide - I’m not) but I can understand why people do it. and they end up going to Hell for it. Where is the justice. We are just guinipigs on this earth.
 
Dear Lord, please bless this couple. In the name of The Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

Amen
 
renatas said:
Honestly, does God have his favourites??? I imagine he does…parents have their favourite child, bosses have their favourite employees and the favourites go on. Thank God, I have only one child who I adore, because I would have been one of them. Why are there some people on this planet that have “everything”, looks, money, best jobs, faithful spouses and of the ones I know personally, don’t have any connection with God. Everything falls into place for them…Found out over CHristmas step-son’s GF was pregnant and was planning to abort the pregnancy. Even though I tried to talk to him and presuaded him to talk to her, she went ahead. They are still together, in love, and she is beautiful physically and mentally.

I have never been “a favourite”, I joined the group misfits because I feel like one. I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself but what else can I do…God has deserted me, my husband hates me and my step daughter hates me, for what I don;t know as she offered me the most amount of support in October when things were really going bad.

I want to escape from all of this. I seriosuly can’t take it anymore. Life is so not fair. If God really cared, he would intervene and end the suffering. If my son was distraught and I had the power to make him happy I would do it. Enough suffering. There comes a time where we need to be compassionate and God is just letting this go bad. We are married and God “hates” divorce. I feel like a used up dishrag ready to be thrown out. The disposable marriage, disposable children, disposable pets, everything in this damn world is disposable.

I even went to marriage counselling and she totally let me down. SHe was a “Christian marriage counsellor” and we met a couple of times, she went on maternity leave, never responded to my emails and after I told her about Steve’s female friend from work, she emailed me asking to make another appointment THREE months later.:crying::crying:

Not that I am thinking irrationally, (suicide - I’m not) but I can understand why people do it. and they end up going to Hell for it. Where is the justice. We are just guinipigs on this earth.
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O Silent God
Our God, we pray to You for others and ourselves, and sometimes it seems, if only for a time, a time of awful pain and loneliness, that no one is listening, that You are not there
Many have turned away, disappointed and bitter, that You have not answered their urgent prayer, their painful need for self and for others. There is no satisfactory human answer to their challenge, whatever one might say of Your ways, Your time, because their anguish or their anger is the reality they experience.

Dear God, You need no reminder, but my humanness leads me to remind You that we are human in our minds and hearts and bodies. We have little or no actual sense or knowledge of ourselves as spirit. If You do not touch us as human beings living in a physical world that we acutely experience, some people may lose faith and hope in You. I pray for them with all my heart and life.

O silent God let us hear Your voice in the words of others, and let us be Your love spoken to them. Yet may I ask that You also speak directly to their hearts and minds with unmistakeable Love even where we cannot detect the action of Your Spirit in ourselves or in others. Speak to them in their last moments, if not before.

Please be mindful of our needs, and nurture us as we pray and seek Your healing and care. Embrace all who have lost their hope in God and prayer.
 
The grieving heart
Dear Mother Mary, please comfort each grieving heart in the waves of pain that frequently engulf it. Sustain it when dark mourning closes out all light of comfort and hope, and when prayer seems no longer possible. Obtain the gentle understanding and warm companionship of others to nurture the stricken heart and lead it towards hope and new life. Sustain it with faith and bring it to true generosity of spirit even in its sorrow.

You deeply experienced the laceration of suffering and bereavement, Mother. It entered and filled your Son’s life, piercing your soul, echoing through all your years. You watched your beloved Child follow a path that led to His earthly annihilation. Grieving, you were powerless to murmur or to prevent Him who must be about His divine Father’s affairs. You suffered, prayed, and loved in silent faith, as so many parents must.

Like innumerable mothers throughout the ages, you watched with anguish the struggling progress of your Son’s destiny, amid rising danger of circumstance and others’ opposition. Finally, you beheld as others’ selfishness, unbelief, ambition, fear and pride, destroyed Him who only loved them and sought their salvation.

He hung there, your boy, cruelly nailed, struggling for breath and faith. You helplessly watched life drain from His pure, loved body as His struggle deepened in pain, fever and weakness. You would have protected Him whom you loved in excruciating intensity, but you could never choose to betray the divine intention that entrusted Him to you. “Your will be done!” your being replied endlessly with His to the divine Father.

Mother, please help us to do likewise, however deep our grief.

Our God, please pray that Renata can bear her grief, and know what must be done in her life. I don’t know all the dynamics of Renata’s marriage, Lord. And I don’t know how many marriages are actually well-matched and happy. I used to make myself terribly unhappy because my husband really quite honestly could take or leave me in general. He used to be vitrolic about it. He isn’t now, partly I think because I no longer look for more which is a relief to him as he isn’t at all needy himself. It is as it is. He’s mostly courteous and generally tolerant and I know I can’t ask for more of a man of his nature. No infidelity, because that isn’t in his nature. I’m really sorry you had to deal with infidelity and still have to deal with it. If someone doesn’t love you the way you wish, no amount of emotion or upset or pleading will gain love, but only make you lose even more and only will make him respect you even less. That’s how it works. God grant that you can see that it’s “walk away” or choose to be peaceful and calm and find happiness between you and God and in kindness to others. God grant that you can do that, as otherwise you drive yourself crazy and nothing is gained.
 
renatas said:
**** Life is so not fair.Where is the justice.****Yes Renata … who can say other than that? There is no Justice on this earth. Justice is out, in a place promised to us by God, and where we look forward.
***Honestly, does God have his favourites??? ***
Yes indeed, everyone who believe in Him and do His Father’s will. I quote Jesus say to Jairus:" Don’t be afraid Just believe".
You are and will be always in my prayers… Warmly
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For Renata and Steve

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase Your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments we might not despair, nor become despondent,
but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will,
which is love and mercy itself.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou amongst women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God pray for us sinners, now
and at the hour of our death. Amen

Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; and do you, O Prince of the heavenly host,
by the power of God cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits
who wander through the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen
 
Trishie said:
For Renata and Steve

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase Your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments we might not despair, nor become despondent,
but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will,
which is love and mercy itself.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou amongst women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God pray for us sinners, now
and at the hour of our death. Amen

Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray; and do you, O Prince of the heavenly host,
by the power of God cast into hell satan and all the evil spirits
who wander through the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen
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Amen
 
Father in Heaven, we lift Steve and Renata up to You, seeking that Your will be done in their marriage. Grant them patience with themselves and with each other, as Your perfect plan unfolds before them. In Your mercy, strengthen them for the times that lie ahead, allowing them to ponder their lives and the promises they made before You. We beseech You to incline Your ear to hear our continuing pleas for peace within their hearts. Grant this, O Heavenly Father, through our risen Lord Jesus Christ, Your Son, Who lives and reigns with You, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God for ever and ever. Amen! Alleluia!
 
Renata, I am still praying for both of you.

PRAYER FOR PEACE
OF MIND AND HEART.

Eternal, Holy God,
I come to you burdened with worries,
fears, doubts, and troubles.
Calm and quiet me with peace of mind.
Empty me of the anxiety that disturbs me,
of the concerns that weary my spirit,
and weigh heavy on my heart.
Loosen my grip on the disappointments and grievances
I hold on to so tightly.
Release me from the pain of past hurts,
of present anger and tension, of future fears.

Sometimes it’s too much for me Lord,
too many demands and problems,
too much sadness, suffering, and stress.
Renew me spiritually and emotionally.
Give me new strength, hope, and confidence.
Prepare me to meet the constant struggles of daily life
with a deeper faith and trust in You.
Let your love set me free, for peace,
for joy, for grace, for life, for others, forever.

Amen

catholicdoors.com/prayers/english5/p03008.htm

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PRAYER FOR HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
Lord, inspire those men and women who bear the titles “Husband” and “Wife”.
Help them to look to You, to themselves, to one another to rediscover the fullness
and mystery they once felt in their union. Let them be honest enough to ask:
"Where have we been together and where are we going? Let them be brave enough
to question: “How have we failed?” Let each be foolhardy enough to say:
“For me, we come first”. Help them together to reexamine their commitment in the
light of Your love, willingly, openly, compassionately.

One Hail Mary…

Hail, O Virgin of Guadalupe. We place under your powerful patronage the purity and
integrity of the Holy Faith in Mexico and in all the American Continent, for we are
certain that while you are recognized as Queen and Mother, America and Mexico and
our Matrimony will be saved. Amen.
 
allhers said:
PRAYER FOR HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
Lord, inspire those men and women who bear the titles “Husband” and “Wife”.
Help them to look to You, to themselves, to one another to rediscover the fullness
and mystery they once felt in their union. Let them be honest enough to ask:
"Where have we been together and where are we going? Let them be brave enough
to question: “How have we failed?” Let each be foolhardy enough to say:
“For me, we come first”. Help them together to reexamine their commitment in the
light of Your love, willingly, openly, compassionately.

One Hail Mary…

Hail, O Virgin of Guadalupe. We place under your powerful patronage the purity and
integrity of the Holy Faith in Mexico and in all the American Continent, for we are
certain that while you are recognized as Queen and Mother, America and Mexico and
our Matrimony will be saved. Amen.
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Amen! Amen!

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Your marriage is in my prayer intentions. I pray for your patience and inner peace while the Lord’s plan unfolds.
 
allhers said:
PRAYER FOR HUSBANDS AND WIVES.
Lord, inspire those men and women who bear the titles “Husband” and “Wife”.
Help them to look to You, to themselves, to one another to rediscover the fullness
and mystery they once felt in their union. Let them be honest enough to ask:
"Where have we been together and where are we going? Let them be brave enough
to question: “How have we failed?” Let each be foolhardy enough to say:
“For me, we come first”. Help them together to reexamine their commitment in the
light of Your love, willingly, openly, compassionately.

One Hail Mary…

Hail, O Virgin of Guadalupe. We place under your powerful patronage the purity and
integrity of the Holy Faith in Mexico and in all the American Continent, for we are
certain that while you are recognized as Queen and Mother, America and Mexico and
our Matrimony will be saved. Amen.
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Amen.
 
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