Pupil–this man is trying to “pick you up.” Nothing good can come out of this situation.
This guy is simply looking for a one night fling. It isn’t worth getting involved at all with this person–drop him like a hot potato.
If this 28 year-old man wanted to date you, he would have initially asked for a date, like going out somewhere in public when he first approached you to get to know you better. Instead he asked you to come to his house for a dinner and conversation; that’s just modern language talk for: do you want to come over and have sex.
I wouldn’t meet the creep at Starbucks either; his first inital request shows that this person is only interested in sex; he just wants to use you and then will get rid of you.
And the fact that your in high school and he’s a teacher says it all.
Public schools, we’ve all read stories in the newspaper, are filled with teachers who are sexual predators and prey on their students.
I can almost guarantee 100% that asking you to come over to his house after school for “dinner” and discuss whatever, broke the school district’s teacher ethics policy, and would wind this joker into some trouble with the Principal and school district administrator.
This man knows all this already as a teacher from his education classes; and since you say your a serious student and want to go to graduate school, once you sleep with this guy, he’s going to control your life until the class ends. And hope you don’t have to take another class with him. If you don’t do what he says he might give you a bad grade / bad recommendation and harass you in class.
If he did want to invite you and a group of students, male and female, with your parents knowing and approving of you coming over to his home, that **might have **been different. I still wouldn’t have done it.
You say you’re a student of literature; read between the lines.
Given all the info you gave us, from the get go and just by his initial proposal, this is not a serious relationship for this man. No decent 28 year-old man would ask an 18 year old girl that he was interested in dating and marrying on their first social meeting to come to his house for dinner.
This alone speaks volumes, and raises a million zillion red flags.
It is absolutely absurd from this initial request to think that this man is serious about you or even cares for you as a person.
Secondly, analyze your age differences. It is vast. No decent 28 year old man would be interested in socializing with an 18 year-old girl who’s still in high school, especially if that man is your teacher ! Only indecent 28 year old men would be interested in doing so, and for one thing only.
Keep your relationship professional. Teacher / student–no fornication, no nothing. You’re already kind of in a bind because you’ve agreed to meet him at Starbucks. No matter what, you must not go. Don’t do it. Just tell him your relationship needs to remain professional, teacher / student, no socializing. He should get the message and leave you alone.
If he retaliates by dropping your grades in class immediately (and only a real creep would do that), go to the Principal and report the harassment right away. Even if you get one bad grade, it’s better than getting involved with this creep.
Once you’re through taking classes forever or about to graduate, go to the school principal with a parent and tell her / him what happened. This man needs to be reported. He’ll be asking young girls to his home for dinner as long as he is a teacher.
You owe it to him and to prevent future students from becoming victims to have the courage to tell the Principal what this guy asked you to do. Have your mom or dad go with you to talk with the Principal and had make sure you write what happened on a piece of paper signed by you and a parent. The Principal will give him a warning and at least school officials will be put on notice, and there will be a paper trail.
At your age, you should be dating people your own age, not men who are way older than you are. Chances are, you’ll find someone your own age in college.
And just one more thing readers, Ayn Rand’s pop philosophy of Objectivism (better known as Libertarianism) is opposed to religion. It’s essentially incorporates Karl Marx’s ideas about religion but under a Capitalist, not a Marxist, economic philosophy. Objectivism teaches that Capitalist economic theory is the “objective” real truth, and not Catholicism. It is opposed to Catholicism and religion in general.
