Superiority of personality types

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I wanted to add too, that if you are ruminating about such things and it is causing you sadness, or if you are acting on feelings in a negative way, you can pray for God to lead you to professionals that can help you.

It seems that you have posted about this before and are stuck in a bad place.
 
I have difficulty with ruminating. I perceive my family doesn’t accept me. I don’t know how true that is. It could be my own personal insecurity because I think I’m different. I’m blessed to have a close-knit loving family. We’re definitely not perfect but I’m infinitely blessed.
 
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I have difficulty with ruminating. I perceive my family doesn’t accept me. I don’t know how true that is. It could be my own personal insecurity because I think I’m different. I’m blessed to have a close-knit loving family. We’re definitely not perfect but I’m infinitely blessed.
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Your family is blessed to have you too, but perhaps they are not good at expressing thier postive feelings to you and about you. For some it’s a hard thing to do. ☺️
 
I think it’s important to have emotional intelligence and logical intelligence. To lack in either of those is not exactly a good thing. You can be very logical and yet not be very inteligent when it comes to reading people or dealing with people on an emotional level.
 
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Why don;'t you just ask them? The only way to change their opinion is to show them you have changed.
Frank discussion is a beginning.
 
Whatever it is that makes them think you are behaving badly, or defiant or whatever. Honestly you have posted so may times and only HINTED at the problem, although we know they don’t like your choice of boyfriends, they believe you made a terrible mistake when younger, you don’t get along with your siblings, you feel judged…any number of things.

What is it that you really want?
Love?
Acceptance or forgiveness from family?
You keep talking about finding a good looking man. To escape from the family?
Are you working toward getting your own place?
Are you going to church with them? You say you live in a Catholic household? Do they perceive you are truly practicing the faith?

These are the things you need to ask yourself and deal with.
People here have given you advice for years.
And then it’s just a repeat of the same.

You family likely doesn’t hate you.
They are likely frustrated.
Fix THAT.
 
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We never seem to understand each other. I’ve mentioned it always comes across like you dismiss the possibility of me being correct in the way I see the world. It’s like your automatic view if I complain I must be the problem. In some cases it is 100% true in others not so much. I’m trying to express how I don’t feel accepted by my family instead you turn this into all the ways I may violated my family’s trust. It is good you try to see things from their perspective.

My opinion is valid too. I come from a family that is less emotional than I am. It is hard to determine who is right. Am I too sensitive or are they too insensitive? Am I too emotional or is my family too unemotional?

There is no clear cut answer for that.

Am I rebellious because my family is too strict? Or is my family strict because I’m rebellious?

Maybe my family shows their appreciation in ways I don’t consider.

These are difficult questions. Am I less than my family because they are more successful than me? Is the issue my envious or is my family rubbing their success in my face and putting me down?
 
Thank you for your attempts at answering my question but I think most of my issues need to be dealt with either a priest or a professional counselor. Thank you for referall. I apologise for any rudeness or attitude in my posts.
 
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There is no clear cut answer for that.
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AT its root, I think your statement answers your questions. Outside of strictly empirical matters, there really never is a clear cut answer. And even with empirical matters, external factors can affect outcomes.
This world needs both kinds of minds, logical and intuitive. Logic and reason give us facts, intuition gives us imagination. Rightly ordered, we need both.
I think you are beating yourself up over, one, your interpretation of yourself when you make it dependent on the feelings and beliefs of others, and two your own perceived deficiencies. We all have them, deficiencies that is; you are no exception. Define yourself by the good your do and the positive that you accomplish, not by the evaluation of others. That is a mortgage on your life than no one should ever take out.
And define your own life in your own relation to the following idea: “it isn’t the number of moments in life that is important, it’s the moments that take your breath away.” And Bishop Fulton Sheen offered a wonderful statement that all should take to heart; “you cannot be unhappy and grateful at the same time.”
shalom
 
I think at certain times in your life it is better to be a thinker than a feeler for sure. But equally there are always times where feeling is better than thinking. I doubt there are hard and fast rules for this. In Myer Briggs lingo, I am moving from an E (extrovert) to an I (introvert) and a T (thinker) to an F (feeler) more and more these days. I attribute that to where I am at in my life at this time; F is serving me better than T. I look at it as balancing out the T years. It’s all good. It is also where I started out - kind of a full circle thing going on; I was originally quite I and F - unless I have another T period coming up. Who knows. Best of all is to filter the T through the F and vice versa. Counterpoint, think Bach.
 
I don’t like having particular visible weakness. Sensitive people are more vulnerable and life is rough.
 
Very true. Then again, a well done steak is often too tough.

Life is rough for people who don’t have firm values and fundamental moral ideals. I find those ideal and values in the teaching of Christ; in fact in the person of Christ himself. Christ was the most assertive man who ever lived, he knew who he was, what he valued, what he wanted to accomplish, and how he would live his life based on his principles. And he didn’t deviate from them. Christ was quiet, strong, and vulnerable was one adjective I wouldn’t apply to him. Sensitive people are most often those who look to others for their sanction in what they think, do, or believe. Empathetic people has compassion for others, sympathy for those that are unfortunate, but they are not sensitive. There is a difference.
 
Do those who look for their value in others deserve to be hurt? It is vanity to want man’s approval.
 
No one deserves to be hurt. It is just that those who seek their own sense of self worth in another’s acceptance of them, take out a terrible mortgage on their own sense of self esteem, and more often than not end up getting hurt.
Is it vanity to want a man’s approval? I’ll answer that this way. I would want the approval of a woman whom I admire for her sense of dignity, self worth, and honor. I would want her approval because she sees in me an image of the values by which she lives her life, honesty, independence, truth, industriousness, productivity, moral strength, respect, joy, and love. I want that woman’s approval. It definitely isn’t vanity.
 
I cannot wait to age so I care less for what other’s say about me.
 
I’m old enough to be your grandpa. I care what everyone says about me. But I take the apostle Paul’s exhortation to heart. “Examine all things, keep that which is good.” I’ve been thought a fool because I have done something kind or generous to another. Those who demean me are those who won’t give anyone else a helping hand because of their suspicion that all others are simply trying to manipulate or use me. In some instances, they were probably right. But I will still be kind to those less fortunate because a man who ended up on a cross said I should.
And please, lose that attitude. I’ll tell you a secret. There are two things you and I have that God does not. They are a past and a future. God has neither, he is an eternal being, he lives in only one dimension of time, the eternal present moment. And it is the only place we can live with him. Right now, this minute. You can’t be right with god, happy with yourself, two weeks ago or a month from now. You must live right now, this minute, this day. If you want to be happy, start looking outward. Be kind to others, see the good in others and the beauty in the world. Take stock of yourself, improve what you believe is a fault or weakness, celebrate that which you like about yourself. Stop worrying about what others think. The secret is, even the most miserable person, somewhere deep down inside, admires those who do good to others. I know the Lord does. And really, he is the man whose passion and love you need to seek first.
 
Apples, oranges, bananas, watermelons…which one looks best in sunglasses?

I guess that’s an analogy of how I think of personality types. However, we all seem to want a person to be brilliant, sensitive, attractive, outgoing yet humble.

Beauty fades, intelligence can be wiped out in a moment…everything we have is God’s gift to us. Scares me the effect it has when we take credit for what God has given us.

Just some random thoughts…
 
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