Surrogate motherhood

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I steered clear of this thread once the principal contributor started talking about people as property. Because I didn’t want to break Godwin’s Law.
 
I truly thank all who have contributed to this thread. While the discussion has moved away from my original question on how to best explain the “why” of the Church’s teaching on artificial reproductive methods, the attempt to justify rejection of the Church’s teaching has helped to strengthen my understanding of the “why not” mentality.

Sadly it is often those who through their level of education feel justified in rejecting Christ by rejecting the teachings of His Church. I only pray that those who think this way are able to step away from the rhetoric and consider what is truly at stake here.

The Church agrees wholeheartedly that the generation of new human life is very very good. What StAnastasia apparently does not understand is the use of evil means to achieve this end leads to erosion of our sense of who we are and who God is. Like Adam and Eve, we begin to think that we can be God (or at least more godlike). What really happens is the opposite.
 
My brother has a great love for our Catholic faith. This is probably why he is very much in turmoil in trying to reconcile his (and his wife’s) intense desire to have a biological child, his recognition that the Church teaches that in vitro fertilization and surrogacy are morally wrong, and his very honest inability to believe what the church teaches or to understand WHY it teaches this. Although Donum vitae does provide an explanation, my brother cannot accept the reasoning. His justification for not following the Church’s teaching on this focuses on the good and noble end envisioned while downplaying the means to be used. He cannot see why surrogacy violates the combined unitive and procreative components that are necessary in the generation of new human life. While this seems obvious to me, I am fairly sure that his emotions are clouding his reasoning.

In many ways, I can see the difficulty that he is having from my experience at the other side of this issue (i.e. contraception). I made similar arguments before I first accepted and then warmly embraced the Church’s teaching. There are numerous excellent books, articles, and tapes that clearly and convincingly explain why contraception is wrong in separating the unitive and procreative aspects of the marital union. I was hoping that there were at least some resources available on the other side of the coin (i.e artificial reproductive technologies).

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Paul, again, my sympathy.
God blessed me with six brothers (and a sister) so I can imagine how painful this is.

As for your brother’s faith, does he think he must understand the Blessed Trinity?
Or transubstantiation? Or the concept of infinity as it relates to God?

I’m certain he accepts all such things in Faith.
Our ‘understanding’ is not required - but our obedience is required.
Acceptance of Church teachings is required.
You know that - maybe you could remind your brother of such things.

God bless you.
 
I truly thank all who have contributed to this thread. While the discussion has moved away from my original question on how to best explain the “why” of the Church’s teaching on artificial reproductive methods, the attempt to justify rejection of the Church’s teaching has helped to strengthen my understanding of the “why not” mentality.

Sadly it is often those who through their level of education feel justified in rejecting Christ by rejecting the teachings of His Church. I only pray that those who think this way are able to step away from the rhetoric and consider what is truly at stake here.

The Church agrees wholeheartedly that the generation of new human life is very very good. What StAnastasia apparently does not understand is the use of evil means to achieve this end leads to erosion of our sense of who we are and who God is. Like Adam and Eve, we begin to think that we can be God (or at least more godlike). What really happens is the opposite.
Encouraging such a stance to one’s students is even more disturbing.
To encourage such misunderstanding is to enter another level of profound error.
 
Thankfully for the sisters mentioned in my first case, your opinion is irrelevant to the medical practitioners who made it possible for one sister to bring to term the children of the other. While as a Catholic professor I would never turn away from my Church, sadly I think many people do leave the Church because they perceive it as cold, heartless, inhuman, and rigidly uncompromising.
Once again we are not talking about what society allows or medical practitioners will do. Everyone has free will, that’s why there is evil in the world. We’re talking about WHAT THE CATHOLIC CHURCH ALLOWS! This forum is called CATHOLIC ANSWERS, and this is the MORAL THEOLOGY section. The OP came looking for advice FROM THE CATHOLIC PERSPECTIVE, not secular society’s. I think you’re trying to convince (and the rest of us), that what his brother and sister-in-law are doing is just wonderful. That’s not what he wants to hear! He knows it’s wrong, and wants advice on how to approach it FROM A CATHOLIC PERSPECTIVE! So, in a word, YOU ARE NOT HELPING!

In Christ,

Ellen
 
Once again we are not talking about what society allows or medical practitioners will do. Everyone has free will, that’s why there is evil in the world. We’re talking about WHAT THE CATHOLIC CHURCH ALLOWS! This forum is called CATHOLIC ANSWERS, and this is the MORAL THEOLOGY section. The OP came looking for advice FROM THE CATHOLIC PERSPECTIVE, not secular society’s. I think you’re trying to convince (and the rest of us), that what his brother and sister-in-law are doing is just wonderful. That’s not what he wants to hear! He knows it’s wrong, and wants advice on how to approach it FROM A CATHOLIC PERSPECTIVE! So, in a word, YOU ARE NOT HELPING!
In Christ,

Ellen
Ellen, great assessment!
 
I’m glad that in vitro exists for the same reason that I’m glad triple heart bypasses exist: life is good.
Not for the thousands of babies not “lucky” enough to be “chosen” for implantation and either immediately destroyed, torn apart for research, or left in a frozen limbo for years until their parents decide they don’t want anymore children (or can’t afford anymore procedures) and are then discarded or used for research. Or the one’s unlucky enough to be targeted for “selective reduction” if too many babies have the audacity to implant successfully against the odds.

You can’t have it both ways. Once this “wonderful technology” is allowed, you can’t put Catholic moral parameters on it; i.e., “you may only create the exact amount of embryos you are willing to implant and carry to term”. That’s not how secular society works, as you well know. It’s all or nothing. Do you really believe it’s right to sacrifice countless children (and yes, they are children, with immortal souls, from the moment of their conception in the petri dish, even the “defective” ones) just so a couple can have a biological child? And don’t try to compare this with valid medical procedures like heart bypass or moral fertility like the use of clomid or operations to correct defects so the marital act can work as it’s supposed to. You KNOW it’s not the same thing at all!

In Christ,

Ellen
 
Not for the thousands of babies not “lucky” enough to be “chosen” for implantation and either immediately destroyed, torn apart for research, or left in a frozen limbo for years until their parents decide they don’t want anymore children (or can’t afford anymore procedures) and are then discarded or used for research. Or the one’s unlucky enough to be targeted for “selective reduction” if too many babies have the audacity to implant successfully against the odds.

You can’t have it both ways. **Once this “wonderful technology” is allowed, you can’t put Catholic moral parameters on it; i.e., “you may only create the exact amount of embryos you are willing to implant and carry to term”. **That’s not how secular society works, as you well know. It’s all or nothing. Do you really believe it’s right to sacrifice countless children (and yes, they are children, with immortal souls, from the moment of their conception in the petri dish, even the “defective” ones) just so a couple can have a biological child? And don’t try to compare this with valid medical procedures like heart bypass or moral fertility like the use of clomid or operations to correct defects so the marital act can work as it’s supposed to. You KNOW it’s not the same thing at all!

In Christ,

Ellen
It challenges all reason to accept that any Catholic “celebrates life”
when that ‘life’ comes into being through the commission of multiple sins.

It challenges all reason to think that one can pretend to present the notion
for “acceptance” on a Catholic site that upholds all teachings of the Church.
 
Of course it’s up for debate. In my classes we debate all the time – that’s the essence of philosophy! I’m glad that *in vitro *fertilization is available for couples with intractable fertility problems. We simply have to make sure no more eggs are fertilized than will be implanted.
Very simply stated, this POV is inconsistant with Catholic Theology. I would challenge St.A to produce evidence beyond a personal opinion to the contrary. Philosophy does not equal Theology, although the Catholic Church makes use of philosophy as as aid to her Theology.
I’m glad that in vitro exists for the same reason that I’m glad triple heart bypasses exist: life is good.
Wow, that’s pretty deep thinking. :rolleyes:

Using that philosophy, “life is good”, we could then make a case for sheep-human hybreds. double :rolleyes:

However, the creation of life and the preservation of life are two different things. I would think that such would be a clear distinction for someone who claims to teach ethics and espouse Catholic morality.
 
Of course it’s up for debate. In my classes we debate all the time – that’s the essence of philosophy! I’m glad that *in vitro *fertilization is available for couples with intractable fertility problems. We simply have to make sure no more eggs are fertilized than will be implanted.
What you are supporting as a “Catholic professor”
is the very antithesis of Church teachings.

How can you justify that to yourself?
 
Paul, again, my sympathy.
God blessed me with six brothers (and a sister) so I can imagine how painful this is.

As for your brother’s faith, does he think he must understand the Blessed Trinity?
Or transubstantiation? Or the concept of infinity as it relates to God?

I’m certain he accepts all such things in Faith.
Our ‘understanding’ is not required - but our obedience is required.
Acceptance of Church teachings is required.
You know that - maybe you could remind your brother of such things.

God bless you.
I think it is easier to accept a teaching that one does not fully understand when one does not have another conflicting desire or belief. My brother is a Thomist and he knows that faith does not contradict reason. He is having difficulty is reconciling his reasoning (misguided as it is) with Church teaching. I think at a deeper level, he does see the problem. But once he has been able to accept that IVF and surrogate motherhood are intrinsically evil, he will then need to explain this to his wife and convince her of this truth. It is a very difficult place to be. The easier path seems to be to build the arguments for why the Church must be wrong and proceed with their plans.
 
But once he has been able to accept that IVF and surrogate motherhood are intrinsically evil, he will then need to explain this to his wife and convince her of this truth. It is a very difficult place to be. The easier path seems to be to build the arguments for why the Church must be wrong and proceed with their plans.
That’s the interesting question: explaining why surrogacy and in vitro fertilization are intrinsically evil. I have yet to see a convincing argument in support of that claim. I’m pro-life, so I’m glad that the woman I know whose sister bore her and her husband’s biological children will now have a family to raise in God’s love.
 
That’s the interesting question: explaining why surrogacy and in vitro fertilization are intrinsically evil. I have yet to see a convincing argument in support of that claim. I’m pro-life, so I’m glad that the woman I know whose sister bore her and her husband’s biological children will now have a family to raise in God’s love.
How can you say you are pro-life and be ok with the 1000s of babies that are killed as by-products of this procedure? You can wax theoretical all you want about “ethically” creating only the number of embryos that will be implanted and carried to term, but this is NOT reality, and it will never be reality in a society that ignores Church teaching. We may not kill even one innocent person, much less 1000s, so that others may live.

In Christ,

Ellen
 
How can you say you are pro-life and be ok with the 1000s of babies that are killed as by-products of this procedure?
Do you like deliberatley distorting what other people say? Is this what you think chartable listening involves?

I thought I made it clear that I am opposed to abortion and the death of your “1000s of babies.” I am arguing only for the now possible fertility treatment of direct insemination of one or two eggs, depending on the number of embryos desired. I am absolutely opposed to the creation of hundreds of embryos that will be wasted.

I don’t distort your words. Please return me the favor by not distorting what I have said.

StAnastasia
 
You can wax theoretical all you want about “ethically” creating only the number of embryos that will be implanted and carried to term, but this is NOT reality, and it will never be reality in a society that ignores Church teaching. We may not kill even one innocent person, much less 1000s, so that others may live.
In my brother’s case, he does see and recognize the problem with destruction of embryos. His plans are to fertilize and implant only two embryos. He recognizes that this is a very costly approach that reduces the chances of success. He believes that if this is successful it will be an affirmation that he has done God’s will. You are correct that in practice, IVF usually involves the creation and destruction (or indefinite storage) of embryos. But this does not necessarily need to happen.

IFV is intrinsically evil EVEN IF only embryos to be implanted are generated. The reason the Church gives is that it is evil because it separates the unitive and procreative aspects that need to be present in generation of every new human life. My brother needs help in understanding why IVF violates this principle and why this is an absolute requirement. My attempts to explain this to him have been unsuccessful.
 
Do you like deliberatley distorting what other people say? Is this what you think chartable listening involves?

I thought I made it clear that I am opposed to abortion and the death of your “1000s of babies.” I am arguing only for the now possible fertility treatment of direct insemination of one or two eggs, depending on the number of embryos desired. I am absolutely opposed to the creation of hundreds of embryos that will be wasted.
I don’t distort your words. Please return me the favor by not distorting what I have said.

StAnastasia
Then you need to support a moratorium on the procedure until such rules are in place(which will never happen so long as unborn children are not considered human beings with rights), not continue to support a make-believe version that doesn’t currently exist, which only contributes to more babies dying.

In Christ,

Ellen
 
In my brother’s case, he does see and recognize the problem with destruction of embryos. His plans are to fertilize and implant only two embryos. He recognizes that this is a very costly approach that reduces the chances of success. He believes that if this is successful it will be an affirmation that he has done God’s will. You are correct that in practice, IVF usually involves the creation and destruction (or indefinite storage) of embryos. But this does not necessarily need to happen.

IFV is intrinsically evil EVEN IF only embryos to be implanted are generated. The reason the Church gives is that it is evil because it separates the unitive and procreative aspects that need to be present in generation of every new human life. My brother needs help in understanding why IVF violates this principle and why this is an absolute requirement. My attempts to explain this to him have been unsuccessful.
At this point there’s probably nothing more you can do than pray. “There is none so blind than those who won’t see.” I used to be the same way: completely pro-choice feminist. Someone must have been praying for me, so miracles can happen 🙂

In Christ,

Ellen
 
In my brother’s case, he does see and recognize the problem with destruction of embryos. His plans are to fertilize and implant only two embryos. He recognizes that this is a very costly approach that reduces the chances of success. He believes that if this is successful it will be an affirmation that he has done God’s will. You are correct that in practice, IVF usually involves the creation and destruction (or indefinite storage) of embryos. But this does not necessarily need to happen.

IFV is intrinsically evil EVEN IF only embryos to be implanted are generated. The reason the Church gives is that it is evil because it separates the unitive and procreative aspects that need to be present in generation of every new human life. My brother needs help in understanding why IVF violates this principle and why this is an absolute requirement. My attempts to explain this to him have been unsuccessful.
I sympathize with you and your brother. I have to admit that I still struggle with some of the Church’s teaching on reproduction and the insistence on not bypassing normal intercourse ( but tell me, how ‘normal’ are penile implants?) under any circumstances. For instance, how natural are organ transplants? It certainly seems to go against the plan God had for our biological nature to be walking around with other people’s organs inside us, yet this is OK. 🤷

All I can do is obey and hope to come to some understanding.
 
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