Hello. I found this thread because I was googling this very same question. I am Orthodox, and I lost my father suddenly, just like you, about 8 years ago. I became very intrigued when MY aunt told me about a second cousin we have that is a medium. She had visited her and had given me a message from my father, just like you. Actually, our stories are eerily similar here. I asked my priest at church about it, and he told me not to listen to any medium because it says in the Bible that the spirits of our loves ones would not leave Heaven to come talk to us, and so anybody who even pretends to be our deceased loved one is a bad energy, spirit, or the Devil. I took his word on this, but then my aunt told me that this cousin of ours is able to channel our Spirit Guides, those spirits that are always with us. I became intrigued by the notion of being able to get guidance about my life. I called her. I just want to say that the whole time I had a very unsteady and nervous feeling about it, and my intuition was telling me it was wrong. I felt very strange when she “channeled” my Spirit Guides…and at the end of that session, sure enough, she told me there was a loved one who wanted to come through …my father. I did speak with him. I didn’t even know what to say. I was shocked. The way I knew it was not fake was by his laugh… I remember his laugh the most of anything and he laughed in the same way he used to while on the phone. I will just say that he reassured me of his journey there and that he is ok. I just didn’t feel right during or after it happened. I felt very weird and detached after it was over. I am afraid that what the “guides” said, though they were all positive messages, might mislead me if I follow the advice. It was really weird, I felt extremely drained after the session (it was on the phone). I immediately just went to rest on my bed and fell into this weird deep sleep. I never do that. When I woke up I just felt something was off and my perception is different. Hopefully I will feel better in the morning… but I am going to say my prayers for God to forgive me if what I did was wrong. We should not trust in anybody except God himself. The Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. I also do not feel satisfied with what my father said to me…Although it is painful to have lost him at such a young age (he was 48 and died suddenly of a heart attack when I was 18), it happened according to God’s will and God’s plan. Who am I to question that? Also, if I wasn’t supposed to communicate with him, I shouldn’t find outside means to do it. All he really told me is that everything is alright. Also…Everyone is right in saying that you can communicate via prayer. Just make sure you also “meditate” or give yourself quiet time to be able to perceive the answer, which will be there. You already KNOW what your father would say in response to your questions. Just look inside yourself. I thought the medium would be just a shortcut in being able to introspect, meditate, and open up enough to intuit the answers to prayers, but I don’t believe it is a good thing. When you meditate, you ready yourself for the answer. If someone does it for you, it just isn’t natural. I feel bad that I spoke to her. I am afraid that I did something wrong, especially based on my feeling now. Because of the anticlimactic nature of my visit with the medium, and the weird/bad feeling I’m having I ADVISE YOU NOT TO DO IT. Just don’t. Life is a journey. It’s about the experience…Everything you are supposed to know will be revealed to you.
I hope this helps you. To reiterate: I did it just now, and I don’t recommend it. Just pray. Your Father is with you.
God bless you.
read Fr. Gabe Amorth’s book “An exorcist tells his story.” That’s all I’ll say
but your ideas are really appreciated
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