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babysister
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I am against my 20yr old son getting a tattoo, Am I wrong?
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yellowbird
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No, I don’t think you are wrong. I don’t want any of my kids getting tattoos either. I don’t care for tattoos, personally.
But if my child were out on his own, paying his own way and living his life, I think I’d have to just accept whatever choices he made. If getting a tattoo was the one thing he did that I didn’t care for, I honestly think I’d THANK GOD because there are many, many things in front of getting a tattoo that I worry about.
But if my child were out on his own, paying his own way and living his life, I think I’d have to just accept whatever choices he made. If getting a tattoo was the one thing he did that I didn’t care for, I honestly think I’d THANK GOD because there are many, many things in front of getting a tattoo that I worry about.
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noodles
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I was exposed to people with tattoo, taking drugs and so on because i am a singer. there is this connotation that once you are a performer/rocker/singer, theres a possibility that you take drugs or have a tattoo. i can proudly say i never tried drugs, never had a single tattoo because i was educated by my parents to respect my body for it is God’s creation. it is my choice not to disrespect my parents and my body for that matter. i suggest that you talk to your son about it and you just take it from there. let him decide for himself because no matter how hard you try to explain if he really wants to have you cannot stop him. if he chooses to have one maybe one day you will be surprised and theres already ink in his body. just pray hard that your son will choose the right path.
we are beautiful the way we are…
noodles
we are beautiful the way we are…
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noclevername
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Tattoos don’t really have the drug using connotation anymore. I know TONS of people who have tattoos and they are very successful and hold very high degrees. I don’t have one because I am scared of putting something that permanent on my body and to be blunt, there just ain’t no way I’m going to let someone stick me with needles over and over and over…
Like I said, I personally don’t want a tattoo but if he does it’s not so bad. However one word of caution. Encourage him to get it somewhere that it will be hidden in the work place. A lot of companies will automatically say no to hiring someone wiht a visible tattoo. Trust me on this one. My company is like that.
Like I said, I personally don’t want a tattoo but if he does it’s not so bad. However one word of caution. Encourage him to get it somewhere that it will be hidden in the work place. A lot of companies will automatically say no to hiring someone wiht a visible tattoo. Trust me on this one. My company is like that.
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kage_ar
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Good heavens, having a tattoo does not mean a person takes drugs! Living in a family with 4 generations of musicians, only one of the lot (one who left the “family business”) has ink.
Tattoos are morally neutral.
As long as your 20 year old is of sound mind and is paying for it from his own funds, it is his decision.
Tattoos are morally neutral.
As long as your 20 year old is of sound mind and is paying for it from his own funds, it is his decision.
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Among_Strangers
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Your view is your view is it not “wrong” to hold it. Your son is an adult however, and may not take your view as his own.
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samcarter14
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I personally think tattoos are tacky. BUT I don’t think somebody with a tattoo is a drug user, neccessarily!
My brother was an attorney, and had a tattoo that he got before he graduated law school. It was a scales of justice, tattooed on his ankle. It was covered when he was on the job, so nobody saw it.
If my son were 20 and wanted a tattoo, he would first of all have to be on his own health insurance, because it’s possible to get infections or complications from a tattoo, even if you go to a professional. And obviously I wouldn’t be paying for it.
My advice to him, if he were paying for it himself and was off our health insurance, would be:
a) do not get a tattoo on your face or hands, or wrists or neck, anywhere that a prospective employer will easily see it. Like it or not, people are turned off by tattoos, especially if you’re being considered for a professional, white collar job. Get the tattoo on a place easily covered by clothing, such as ankle, foot maybe, or arm, chest or leg.
b) Make sure the image you’re getting is not blasphemous, vulgar, or juvenile–i.e. nothing you’ll regret years down the road when you’re out of your rebellious stage.
The reason my brother chose the scales of justice was that law and government was very important to him and he knew by the time he was in his twenties that he wasn’t going to “grow out” of it.
So maybe not get a cartoon character, or some such thing.
Beyond that, I would respect it as his decision.
My brother was an attorney, and had a tattoo that he got before he graduated law school. It was a scales of justice, tattooed on his ankle. It was covered when he was on the job, so nobody saw it.
If my son were 20 and wanted a tattoo, he would first of all have to be on his own health insurance, because it’s possible to get infections or complications from a tattoo, even if you go to a professional. And obviously I wouldn’t be paying for it.
My advice to him, if he were paying for it himself and was off our health insurance, would be:
a) do not get a tattoo on your face or hands, or wrists or neck, anywhere that a prospective employer will easily see it. Like it or not, people are turned off by tattoos, especially if you’re being considered for a professional, white collar job. Get the tattoo on a place easily covered by clothing, such as ankle, foot maybe, or arm, chest or leg.
b) Make sure the image you’re getting is not blasphemous, vulgar, or juvenile–i.e. nothing you’ll regret years down the road when you’re out of your rebellious stage.
The reason my brother chose the scales of justice was that law and government was very important to him and he knew by the time he was in his twenties that he wasn’t going to “grow out” of it.So maybe not get a cartoon character, or some such thing.
Beyond that, I would respect it as his decision.
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puzzleannie
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probably not, but he is an adult, and at the prime age for doing stupid things he will regret later in life, and and the age least amenable to parental interference.
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Lifeisamazing
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No, you are not “wrong” but you are not “right” either. What you have is a feeling, an opinion.
Let him know you don’t like the idea if he asks, but don’t make a fuss. Instead, ask him a few questions that express interest and force him to think a bit. (Sans the judmental tone. Be sincerely wanting an answer!) “What made you want to get a tattoo?” “Have you put thought into what you will get? Where you will put it?” “How do you think getting a tatto will change you?” And just listen, b/c you might learn something.
I would be more concerned with “what” and “where” on the body then “that” he wants to get one.
Might want to print this out and give it to him. By the way, I have a tattoo. So do my brothers, and husband, so I am speaking frankly. Mine is hidden. I did not get it b/c I wanted others to see it.
-What you get may cause people to pre-judge you. Be careful in choosing your graphic and the message it will send about you b/c it is forever. Will that artwork still make sense on you at 60 years old?
-Where you get it may cause people to pre-judge you and your choices. What kind of work are you contemplating and how might that tattoo impact a job interview if it is visible? What do you think other people will think of you when they see it and when they see it? (ie- will your work dress cover it? What about in the summer with short sleeves at church or elsewhere?)
-Have you researched tattoo artists? Checked to find out if they have health code violations? Know that you can contract a disease or be allergic to ink? Have you checked out credentials and references and licenses?
Let him know you don’t like the idea if he asks, but don’t make a fuss. Instead, ask him a few questions that express interest and force him to think a bit. (Sans the judmental tone. Be sincerely wanting an answer!) “What made you want to get a tattoo?” “Have you put thought into what you will get? Where you will put it?” “How do you think getting a tatto will change you?” And just listen, b/c you might learn something.
I would be more concerned with “what” and “where” on the body then “that” he wants to get one.
Might want to print this out and give it to him. By the way, I have a tattoo. So do my brothers, and husband, so I am speaking frankly. Mine is hidden. I did not get it b/c I wanted others to see it.
-What you get may cause people to pre-judge you. Be careful in choosing your graphic and the message it will send about you b/c it is forever. Will that artwork still make sense on you at 60 years old?
-Where you get it may cause people to pre-judge you and your choices. What kind of work are you contemplating and how might that tattoo impact a job interview if it is visible? What do you think other people will think of you when they see it and when they see it? (ie- will your work dress cover it? What about in the summer with short sleeves at church or elsewhere?)
-Have you researched tattoo artists? Checked to find out if they have health code violations? Know that you can contract a disease or be allergic to ink? Have you checked out credentials and references and licenses?
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Truly_Beloved
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Depends on what kind he wants.
If my children, when they get older (they are 3 and 1 now), would like a nice piece of permanent artwork on their bodies, I only hope they choose something meaningful like a Celtic crucifix to reflect their faith/heritage, or a pair of little baby footprints for each child they have, or a military symbol for service to our country, etc.
Of course, if they want “sleeves,” that wouldn’t bother me, either, as long as there wasn’t anything pornographic or Satanic (or other things offensive to good ol’ Catholic sensibilities) included.
Anyway, just my random thoughts. Probably doesn’t mean much since my little ones aren’t even potty trained yet.
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whatevergirl
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If he was paying for it with his own money…and it’s not a huge one, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I wouldn’t like to see tattoos all over my kids, but on his arm or something that can be covered up, if/when he gets out in the working world, would be good. I work in a very conservative company, and tattoos are not permitteed to show…and a memo went out this week about that…it does look tacky to a degree, if you are wearing a business suit, and you have a tattoo sticking out from the sleeve or on your neck or something. I actually like tattoos …if they are classy. If your son gets a reasonable sized one, don’t see the problem.
The stigma attached to tattoos is that a person is going down a bad path, but really …that’s changed now.
I told my kids recently that if they were to ever want a tattoo…to come to my and their dad…as I want to take them for it, not have them do it on their own, and they contract a disease by going to a slummy place to have it done. Neither has expressed interest in this, yet…we’ll see though!
The stigma attached to tattoos is that a person is going down a bad path, but really …that’s changed now.
I told my kids recently that if they were to ever want a tattoo…to come to my and their dad…as I want to take them for it, not have them do it on their own, and they contract a disease by going to a slummy place to have it done. Neither has expressed interest in this, yet…we’ll see though!
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whatevergirl
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I don’t know if I’d accept ‘sleeves,’ I forgot about those! haDepends on what kind he wants.
If my children, when they get older (they are 3 and 1 now), would like a nice piece of permanent artwork on their bodies, I only hope they choose something meaningful like a Celtic crucifix to reflect their faith/heritage, or a pair of little baby footprints for each child they have, or a military symbol for service to our country, etc.
Of course, if they want “sleeves,” that wouldn’t bother me, either, as long as there wasn’t anything pornographic or Satanic (or other things offensive to good ol’ Catholic sensibilities) included.
Anyway, just my random thoughts. Probably doesn’t mean much since my little ones aren’t even potty trained yet.
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Galnextdoor
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I was always taught that God made me the way I am for a reason. My parents always considered tattoos a defacing of a work of God’s
creation. I have felt this way too. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo.
Here is a link from Catholics United for the Faith:
cuf.org/FaithFacts/details_view.asp?ggID=233
creation. I have felt this way too. I just can’t understand why someone would get a tattoo.
Here is a link from Catholics United for the Faith:
cuf.org/FaithFacts/details_view.asp?ggID=233
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Lifeisamazing
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I know that is a Orthodox Jewish belief, and have heard my mom joke that “if you have a tattoo, I can’t bury you in the Jewish cemetary” b/c she heard Jewish moms use that threat on their kids.
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Katie1723
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At 20 it would seem he is old enough to decide for himself. If he’s paying for it, I would call it “picking your battles”
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pumpkinbeast
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If your son really wants to get a tattoo, I would just cation him to pick a good parlor, so he doesn’t get any diseases from the needles. Also, ask him to think about how the tattoo will age (is it in a spot that will become baggy or distorted when he’s older?), and to research ways of removing them, in case he ever changes his mind. Also, perhaps he could try it out using henna, to make sure he likes it, before getting it permanently on his skin.
The permanence is what gets me about tattoos. Otherwise, I think they’re kind of neat, as long as they aren’t offensive in anyway. I am a HUGE fan of henna, I think it’s really cool, and it’s nice that it fades away after a week or two, so you’re not stuck with it forever.
The permanence is what gets me about tattoos. Otherwise, I think they’re kind of neat, as long as they aren’t offensive in anyway. I am a HUGE fan of henna, I think it’s really cool, and it’s nice that it fades away after a week or two, so you’re not stuck with it forever.
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