“Jack Mormon” was a term often used to describe an LDS member who would smoke or drink alcoholic beverages and didn’t attend church. Often it was used to describe ones self such as, “I am a Jack Mormon.” I have not heard this term used for about 40 years and I don’t know of any other meaning for this. Like the rest of the world we have tried to be more sensitive in terms we use. Today, generally speaking, those who were once called Jack Mormons are referred to as “less active members.” Now, am I white washing this? Are only former LDS capable of telling the truth? That comment is very offensive.
I think I understand that term, now, but thanks for your extra (name removed by moderator)ut.
For what it’s worth, I didn’t say that Mormons were incapable of ever telling the truth. The context here is regarding LDS belief, which is a totally different circumstance. I’m sure they’re probably truthful when speaking amongst themselves about what they’re taught to believe, or what they actually believe (they seem to pick & choose). I’ve always found them to be very honest about most other subjects, unrelated to religion. However, my experience on several forums has showed me that they’re not always inclined to speak as truthfully about their actual beliefs and practices, especially amongst ‘outsiders’, as they are within the LDS community. In those instances, they do tend to downplay (aka ‘whitewash’) certain of the more unusual beliefs, or deny that the church teaches, or ever taught, anything of the kind. They even do it when former prophets and LDS teaching manuals are directly quoted, as many threads on this forum indicate. They just say something like, ‘you misunderstood that quote’, ‘that doesn’t mean what you say it means’, or the ever popular, ‘we really don’t believe that, anymore’. What else can you call all of those things, when it’s not the whole truth? There’s really no middle ground when it comes to the truth. It either is, or it isn’t, the truth. Half-truths are really just half-lies, aren’t they?
I consider some of those responses to be examples of the LDS practice of ‘lying for the lord’ (aka being ‘evasive’ about some of what LDS really believe), which has also been discussed on this forum. If that’s offensive to you, then I do apologize. But, my knowing about that particular practice (that seems to be specifically used while teaching LDS ‘converts’, or in defending their church, as it is here) tends to make it very difficult for me to always believe what LDS people say about their own faith. It’s a case of “once burned, twice shy” with me. I can’t really know for sure who to trust to tell me the actual truth. I had never heard of such a thing, before running into it on another forum. The only way that I found out the truth, back then, was because one of my LDS friends confirmed it to me (at least in part) in a PM. But, they wouldn’t do it openly on the forum for fear of backlash from other LDS that were there at the time. That person was mostly just hoping that the whole subject would be dropped, because it was causing a lot of angst between some very good friends on that forum. Lies, even ‘small’ ones, usually have that kind of an effect on people, because they always break down trust, even between good friends. Once that trust is broken down, things usually go downhill, fairly quickly.
Most Catholics tend to share all of their beliefs, very openly, without worrying whether or not non-Catholics would consider those beliefs to be ‘odd’, so that was a totally new concept for me. We don’t usually worry about it, because what we believe is based on what Jesus and the Apostles taught us from the very beginning. If some people find our beliefs ‘odd’, or strange compared to their own beliefs, so be it. Everything we believe is also available to the general public at any time, in various forms, most notably in the Catholic Catechism (available online at the Vatican website). It’s all there in a nutshell. We really don’t keep any secrets about anything we believe. In my experience, that’s not always the case with LDS. So, if we have any questions about what LDS really believe, we have little choice but to ask members, or former members, of the LDS church. I usually tend to shy away from looking on anti-LDS or exMormon websites for answers, because I know there would likely be at least some animosity behind anything I’d find there. But, the official LDS website is less than helpful about certain subjects, unless you have full access by being a member.
Honestly, I don’t think trying to deceive people about what I actually believe, or keeping more ‘difficult subjects of belief’ hidden from them, is a good way for me to try and convert them to my way of thinking, in the long run. If they’re unaware of certain things that they’re expected to believe, before they decide to ‘take the plunge’, then they will most likely have second thoughts about the whole belief system after they finally learn the truth. Their ‘conversion’ would just be a sham, based on ‘half-truths’. I know if it were me, I would probably feel very betrayed that I was kept in the dark about any of it, by those who knew better. I’d probably just want to leave, immediately.
Personally, I think it’s highly unethical for any church to practice that kind of deception, either with the general public at large, or, even more so with its ‘new members in training’. Maybe that’s just because of the way my own Church has always taught new people that want to become members, which is by full disclosure of everything, up front, before they’re allowed to be Baptized. I know the practice of holding back some beliefs from new people, in LDS, is due to JS’s incorrect interpretation of the phrase ‘milk before meat’, but that’s still no excuse for trying to hide the truth from anyone seeking honest answers. God doesn’t have to hide any of His Truth from anyone. The truth is the truth.
