OK. So I did a little self-reflecting and realized that I was allowing myself to get too worked up over this issue. I’d like to apologize for my lack of patience and for anything that I’ve said that has been uncharitable. I realize that the OP simply has some legitimate questions that deserve answers.
The issue at hand is a very complex issue that has a long history and highly developed theology as background. That being said, I don’t believe that we will be able to provide the OP with a satisfactory answer in an online forum. There have been volumes upon volumes written on this very issue.
I pulled out a volume of St. Gregory Palamas’ Triads and turned to the section where he explicitly speaks of the essence/energies distinction. I cannot possibly convey this as well as he did, but I will do my best. The whole debate is an attempt to reconcile God’s transcendence with his immanence, or, as Met. Kallistos Ware puts it, his “nearness yet otherness.” God is completely other; in his essence unknowable. But the fact remains that God has revealed himself. Since we cannot know God in his essence, the only way we can know him is through how he has chosen to reveal himself: i.e. his energies, or what Western theologians call God’s “attributes.”
We say that God is love, God is immortal, God is eternal, God is all-holy, God is a Creator, God is a life-giver, etc., etc., etc. God is, in fact, all of these things, but he transcends each of these things. This things are present in God from all eternity, but in themselves they do not fully contain God, nor do they fully describe God. But God reveals himself to us in time according to these and other attributes.
This is probably a really bad summary, but it’s the best that I can do at this time. If you want to know what the Fathers teach, I’d again encourage all to read St. Gregory Palamas. He quotes extensively from St. Gregory of Nyssa, St. John Chrysostom, St. Basil, St. Maximos, and St. Cyril.