Yes, it is amazing that he suffered willingly. But even this did not set him apart from some. Take what is written about Andrew the apostle. He hung on a cross for days. The crowed petitioned the governor to release him but Andrew refused. He said, “Let no one release me, for there has been allotted me this destiny - to depart out of the body and live with the Lord, with whom I am even being crucified.” He must have been an amazing man. But we do not worship him.
No, what is marvelous is that his willing sacrifice had a greater purpose. Through it I can be lifted up to him. Through his sacrifice I can be healed. This mortality can put on immortality and this flesh will not be doomed to rot in the grave. None of that would have been possible without his Gethsemane experience and his resurrection. So I thank him for his death on the cross but I praise him that it has and will draw me to him. And so I sing a different song:
And our eyes at last shall see Him,
Through His own redeeming love;
For that child so dear and gentle,
Is our Lord in heaven above,
And He leads His children on,
To the place where He is gone.
What demon ever spoke those words? I do not worry, he knows my heart.
I don’t see that we are in disagreement. Our difference is, that we don’t separate the Cross from Jesus and don’t separate suffering as the means to our Salvation.
We view Jesus as the one who sanctifies us. In that vein, all he did was for a purpose. When he was baptized, he sanctified the waters of baptism for us. When he broke break and offered a cup of wine, he sanctified them for us. But all ultimately led to the Cross, where we see Jesus suffered, and so our suffering is sanctified by him. When he rose from the dead, we see our own deaths as a doorway. The Way to eternal life is sanctified for us by Him.
We don’t have a tendency to separate out the actions or words of Jesus, we see them all as the Word of God. Nothing accidental. All purposeful. All meaningful. As Jerusha said, the meaning for us is not just the facts, but have supernatural meanings as well (aka mystical).
I think what is more difficult in the LDS mindset is how the Cross is tied to Fall. Jesus was nailed to a tree, and became for us, the Tree of Life. The fruit of the Tree, is, Himself.
Andrew suffered, you and I suffer (probably not to that extent), millions of people have suffered and will suffer. It is not our own suffering that saves us. Jesus, who is God, united His suffering to ours, and so our suffering has meaning. (That mystical sense again.)
Have you never asked the question, why did Jesus have to suffer and die? Surely, being God, He could have saved us in an manner imaginable. He Himself said, he could call down the armies of heaven. But He did not. So His suffering and death has a meaning that is beyond the mere facts.