***It’s not about not listening; it’s about not hearing anything that hasn’t been said before. I know people mean well, but being told that you don’t seem Catholic, or that you’re not Catholic just because you’re not buying what someone is saying is Church teaching or the Church’s position on a subject isn’t the best way to encourage that person to embrace the faith or want to be a part of that so-called faith.
This quote by Brennan Manning resonates with me. I’m not an atheist but I have struggled with faith, both Catholic teaching and belief in God. I find most believers to be the worst antidote to my struggles for a variety of reasons, some are kind of unique to me but most I think others can identify with.
I’ve been fed enough erroneous information about Catholic teaching, and usually it was a overly strict or harsh interpretation that someone was promoting. If not being able to live up to that standard and/or finding out that it isn’t even true but are still told you are not living a devout life, tell me why I should continue practicing the faith? Tell us, and there are a lot of us, why we should practice any part of the faith since the likelihood of finding out that something isn’t infallible when we were taught that, or that the way one choses to practice their prayer life isn’t authentic Catholicism, or when some Catholics seem to pick certain sins as worse than others when they are unlikely to commit that sin.
You also might want to consider where that person is in their walk because if they are at a crossroads and you decide to make a dig at their faith life or lack of it, you won’t see it but they will take the other road. Lord have mercy on me for the times I’ve been the person that I’ve discouraged others and they took the other road.