T
TruthSkr
Guest
The story I am about to tell is the absolute truth. I am not making this up.
About two years ago I went to confession and told the priest that my wife and I had sex without intercourse due to certain physical disabilities. The priest suggested I call his office and schedule a private meeting to discuss this in detail. A few weeks later I scheduled the meeting. We met in his office and talked for about 45 minutes. At the end of the discussion he asked me where I had heard that it was a mortal sin for a married couple to have sex without intercourse. I told him I had read it here on this website. He said “but the people on the website are anonymous”. He told me that it was not a mortal sin and he was so sure about it that he was putting his soul on the line by telling me this. I left the meeting feeling elated, that my problem had finally been resolved. This priest has been my pastor for many years. He is a highly respected and trusted man who has never acted in any way that would question his honesty or integrity. So for the next year and a half my wife and I had sex without intercourse.
After some time had passed I came across something that caused to to question what the priest told me so I brought it up again with another priest in the confessional. This priest told me that having sex without intercourse was a mortal sin because it was not procreative. So we stopped having sex again.
Some months later I told yet a third priest that my wife was very upset about being forbidden to have sex as a married couple. This priest said that my wife absolutely had to right to have sex with her husband and that to deny her would be very harmful to our marriage.
And now fast forward to last month. My parish was having its annual Easter confession. Numerous priests from around the area were invited to come and hear confessions. The priest I got was an older gentleman from a parish a few miles across the county. He had obviously been around long enough to know the rules. Because there were not enough confessionals for so many priests my confession was face to face. I told this priest that I had been told by other priests that having sex with my wife without intercourse was not a mortal sin. He said that it certainly was not a sin. He said it was a sin under “the old Catholic Church”. He said it is not a sin under the new Church. I sat there incredulous! I then said “what about sex having to be unitive and procreative?” He said “it is unitive; it can’t be procreative.” He told me that what my wife and I do in our bedroom is our business and not to worry about all this.
I have been raised in the Catholic faith to believe that what a priest tells you in the confessional is what you are to believe. Three out of four priests told me it’s not a mortal sin. Am I to believer there is some kind of “deep state” trying to alter the Church? Is this just a coincidence that 3 of 4 priests told me the same thing? Or have the rules really changed? And if they did, how would I even know? Where can anyone go to confirm the current truth? This whole issue has challenged my faith in an enormous way. I really don’t know who or what to believe anymore.
About two years ago I went to confession and told the priest that my wife and I had sex without intercourse due to certain physical disabilities. The priest suggested I call his office and schedule a private meeting to discuss this in detail. A few weeks later I scheduled the meeting. We met in his office and talked for about 45 minutes. At the end of the discussion he asked me where I had heard that it was a mortal sin for a married couple to have sex without intercourse. I told him I had read it here on this website. He said “but the people on the website are anonymous”. He told me that it was not a mortal sin and he was so sure about it that he was putting his soul on the line by telling me this. I left the meeting feeling elated, that my problem had finally been resolved. This priest has been my pastor for many years. He is a highly respected and trusted man who has never acted in any way that would question his honesty or integrity. So for the next year and a half my wife and I had sex without intercourse.
After some time had passed I came across something that caused to to question what the priest told me so I brought it up again with another priest in the confessional. This priest told me that having sex without intercourse was a mortal sin because it was not procreative. So we stopped having sex again.
Some months later I told yet a third priest that my wife was very upset about being forbidden to have sex as a married couple. This priest said that my wife absolutely had to right to have sex with her husband and that to deny her would be very harmful to our marriage.
And now fast forward to last month. My parish was having its annual Easter confession. Numerous priests from around the area were invited to come and hear confessions. The priest I got was an older gentleman from a parish a few miles across the county. He had obviously been around long enough to know the rules. Because there were not enough confessionals for so many priests my confession was face to face. I told this priest that I had been told by other priests that having sex with my wife without intercourse was not a mortal sin. He said that it certainly was not a sin. He said it was a sin under “the old Catholic Church”. He said it is not a sin under the new Church. I sat there incredulous! I then said “what about sex having to be unitive and procreative?” He said “it is unitive; it can’t be procreative.” He told me that what my wife and I do in our bedroom is our business and not to worry about all this.
I have been raised in the Catholic faith to believe that what a priest tells you in the confessional is what you are to believe. Three out of four priests told me it’s not a mortal sin. Am I to believer there is some kind of “deep state” trying to alter the Church? Is this just a coincidence that 3 of 4 priests told me the same thing? Or have the rules really changed? And if they did, how would I even know? Where can anyone go to confirm the current truth? This whole issue has challenged my faith in an enormous way. I really don’t know who or what to believe anymore.