Back when all this liturgical nonsense FIRST started to get out of hand, we attended Mass in a little church where the custom was to hold hands during the Our Father.
Knowing this wasn’t supposed to be going on (according to the GIRM–then AND now), my husband and I kept our hands folded and prayed with heads bowed. Well, the woman next to me apparently decided I missed the cue. She nudged me with her outstretched hand a couple of times. I pretended not to notice.
Then she actually WHACKED me on the upper arm with the back of her hand! I restrained my natural impulse to backhand her myself (though not on the arm) and turned toward her, smiled as sweetly as I could and shook my head. I then turned back to prayer.
She then reached out and tucked her hand up under my upper arm. Well, by this time I was REALLY ready to whack her a good one, but I pretended not to notice and we concluded the Lord’s prayer, although she nearly dislocated my shoulder when she tried to raise her hand up during the Doxology (haven’t figured that gesture out, either.)
Here’s the kicker: When it was time for the sign of peace, I turned to her, held out my hand, and SHE TURNED HER BACK ON ME!!! I mean, she actually made eye contact and “flounced” her shoulders as she turned away! I could not believe this! And at the sign of peace!
Apparently the gesture meant more to her than the actual prayer… especially the part about “…forgive us… as we forgive those who trespass against us…” (although I was the one who had the “no trespassing” sign up in the correct spot!) And it must have been a *meaningless *gesture to her when I held out my hand during the sign of peace.
Can’t we just celebrate Mass the way it’s SUPPOSED to be done, so as to avoid all these little irritations???
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