The Power of Modesty -- Why Dress Modestly?

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I don’t know. Back when they were in style, we all loved a real Gunnie Sax, Jessica McClintock, or Laura Ashley dress. That neo-Victorian Romantic aesthetic was all the rage and made all the more desirable by how expensive those dresses could be. Styles change, but I still remember when they weren’t considered hideous.

I still have and occasionally still wear a black Carole Little dress with clean lines that I’ve had for at least twenty-five years. The last time I wore it- after a few years of it being in my closet- I got compliments. That dress has survived all of my closet purges over the years- where even my wedding gown didn’t make the cut.
 
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I wish I could find more flowery dresses, but agreed, I love flowery patterns! They do help make me feel more feminine sometimes. 😊
 
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I wouldn’t ever wear that horrible flouncy 1970s dress that is on the pic! Didn’t look at the vid if that’s what he thinks women should be wearing. I do wear skirts to Mass though on Sundays and a bit more in the day now than I used to. This started when I started going to EF Mass on a Saturday and saw what other women were wearing. Today I ended up wearing jeggings and that is a mistake without a long shirt or something. Won’t do again.
 
I love the last one 😍 very flattering and the floral pattern is pastel too!
 
Looks like a bridesmaid’s dress.

Why are most bridesmaids dresses so ugly?
 
Yes, that is factual, as one getting use to or trying to get use to the rules, I guess if one takes the time to listen to the YouTube (it is not too long) then the topic is not about a dress you wore some time ago, etc. Even this guys expression makes me smile, because he shows ,a few times, a sheepish look as he presents his thoughts on modesty. I can almost read his mind saying --"O, I’m in trouble now. She is not going to like this idea. 😶
 
Anyway, modest dress will have folks admiring your clothing instead of your body. For example, you walk past a construction site in New York City. Now, you will hear “Hey baby, nice attire and well accessorized!”

OK, maybe not.
I have pointed out many times on this forum that I’ve gotten harassed in public while in full winter gear.

The idea that clothing is communicative is realistic. That said, there are a lot of things that are more than simply clothing. The basics of a woman’s body shape are going to visible pretty much no matter what she wears. And women are judged much more on this than men are. Not just on overt sexual characteristics - there’s evidence that overweight women are seen as much more inherently lazy and undisciplined than men who are similarly overweight.

There are also other parts of communication. For example, one of the reasons I wear makeup and jewelry and clothing with a certain sort of fit to work is I look older in it. I naturally look like I’m at the oldest college age, if I don’t make much effort, despite being in my early 30’s. I find this detrimental in a professional environment because I want to convey experience and competence that’s in line with my actual age. Part of communicating professional and put-together is clothing that fits in a certain way.

So it’s not a simple case of choosing what to reveal or hide. There are some things that will be visible no matter what. There are others that aren’t simply a matter of showing or hiding - for example, whether one’s clothing is fit to the occasion. That also makes modesty more than about just coverage; there are styles of clothing that are designed for intentional display and styles that are clearly intended for comfort, and one can be more modest than the other while displaying the same amount of skin. Excessive coverage for the situation is also going to send a message.

Also in general, I think historical lines would be more revealing if they didn’t look just at women’s clothes. Many of the different cultural outfits pictured in the end of the video, traditional men’s clothing also consisted in what we’d consider skirts or dresses. The priest’s cassock and monk’s robes are based off of what was standard menswear at the time they were established. Many other garments as well - for example, the sarong in its traditional form and often still now in its homeland is a garment for both men and women. Pants are kind of the historical anomaly in most places in general.
 
Why are most bridesmaids dresses so ugly?
I think because it’s really almost impossible to make one dress look good on a bunch of different women. So designers compromise by making a dress that looks sort of bad on everyone.
 
So you consider both of my posts - as they fall within the ten - to be off topic?
 
This just randomly made me think of a picture we have of an aunt and uncles wedding in the early to mid 60s. The bridesmaids dresses were red and they carried white fur muffs and wore pillbox hats. I wasn’t there, I’ve just seen pictures.
 
I’d love to wear all 3 dresses, but my first pick is the first photo. Though black is a favorite color of mine.
 
My parents wedding the bridesmaids had these little veiled hats. They were very cute.
 
@(name removed by moderator) The brave CajunJoy! Who came back to the topic of modesty. I gag every Sunday when I see our young altar servers step onto the sanctuary and walk into the sacristy with their skin, tight pants on. Why wear pants at all and just go up naked? What a lack of respect for our priests, for God and His sanctuary. Also a lack of respect for these beautiful, young girls who haven’t a clue what they look like or what modesty is.
Who is at fault regarding these young ladies? Parents, grandparents and even all those in Church. We say nothing. I can’t say anything because I am not a full member of this parish. But I pray every Sunday for these girls. And for the young altar boys who see how these girls are dressed. Then the irony of it all as these young ladies come out in full altar server robes. Then they look decent for the holy sacrifice of the mass. God help our youth. Where are the leaders for our teenagers?
 
I know how I dressed as a youth and it was from learning in time about God and how He loves me, and that I am a temple of the Holy Spirit which was an awakening. If only our present Holy Father spent more time putting out the Theology of the Body and maybe our “climate” would be more beautiful for God. Saint John Paul’s or Pope Em. Benedict’s encyclicals, Apostolic letters, etc. shouldn’t be put on the shelf to gather dust.
 
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A few comments. Self-described fashion designers may produce beautiful outfits, including gowns, but some pride themselves on being daring! Shocking! Which always means offensive and to encourage women to wear daring, shocking things because photos of beautiful models wearing them are included in their sales pitch.

Next, clothes in stores are selected by fashion buyers who put them on racks and these are your choices. They don’t have to be. But those clever fashion business types make sure some of their clothes appear on TV and on various attractive but non-fashion model celebrities. So, the winning of hearts and minds continues, usually to the detriment of women.
 
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