I-I don’t know how to reply to these statements.
I suggest recognizing that things are different depending on where you live in the U.S.
Even in the same city, things can be very different depending on which side of town you live on.
Our city was once a great industrial powerhouse, with plenty of factory jobs for anyone of any color or nationality. But sometime during the early 1980s, many of those big factories were closed down, and the city is still struggling. Our crime rate is very high, possibly because we are close to Chicago and many of the gangs send their members here to “hide out” after a crime. And we have a definite geographic division between the “good side of town” and the “bad side of town.” (Realtors will warn people away from the “bad side.”)
We also have some of the highest property taxes in the nation, so we do not tend to attract “educated” people. They tend to move to places with lower property taxes, better schools, and a lower crime rate.
All of this influences the way people sing in church. Our city has a symphony orchestra, but it definitely doesn’t attract the crowds like a rock concert or R&B concert. Various ethnic music events are also very popular, with Hispanic, African American, and Irish/Celtic attracting large crowds. We have a large Hispanic population. Also a large Laotian population, which mainly attends their own Evangelical Free church which is very active, and features CCM presented by their own P and W group of young people!
And, as I’ve said many times on CAF, we are within driving distance of Willowbrook, and the style of music there influences every church in our city, and every church-goer.
Finally, we DO have a Latin Mass parish with Institute of Christ the King priests, a beautiful (but old) building, a stunning altar, and lots of parking. It has been in the city since the late 1980s. For the last several years, the parish has had a highly-educated music minister who sings like an angel, conducts the schola, and plays the organ. But…the parish has had very little growth. Catholics in this city and this area are NOT leaving their OF parishes to begin attending this parish. The membership has remained around 400, with most of the growth occurring as children grow up and start families of their own. But many of those children end up leaving the traditional parish and attending the OF parishes, or sadly, they stop attending Mass altogether (just like kids in the OF parishes).
These are just some of my ideas why chant (and classical music in general) has simply not caught on here. I think my explanation of “different locations and situations” is a fairly good explanation.
It might comfort you a little to know that our very large diocese has reverent parishes which stick to the rubrics in their OF Masses. Our bishops have historically been conservative and diligent to maintain reverence and correctness in the Masses. No “hippy dippy” stuff, although most of the parishes use the Gather hymnal and other OCP printed materials.