The Purpose of Marriage

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All the Baptist I know are kind of fundamentalists, women wear a scarf over the head, they do not drink alcohol, do not refrain making kids; even to ask them “are you homosexual” would be considered an offense. So why do you mention a secular argument?
“All the Baptists you know” might be relevant if you know a sufficient number of Baptists to comprise a representative, unbiased sample, which I doubt is the case. That would be like someone saying “all the Catholics I know are Hispanic” and then becoming befuddled upon meeting a Nigerian Catholic.
 
If what you say is true, and I agree with you on some level, then marriage is an organic institution with arbitrary boundaries. At present, it seems the purpose of marriage is to define relationships for estate or tax planning objectives.

This brings me back to my original post, which is that the denial of polyamorous marriages or adult incest marriages is essentially arbitrary. And given that these relationships currently exist, and there is no real reason for rejecting such marriages, then perhaps recognizing these relationships as “marriages” is not too far down the road.

(PS - my apologies for not keeping up with the thread. I had been receiving email notifications, but they suddenly stopped, so I did not think the thread was still active).
If man is the measure of all things why should marriage be an exception?

Financial considerations obviously loom large in a secular society… 😉
 
The issue of motorcycle helmets is a good one to bring up, since it demonstrates the tension that can arise among “universally accepted” principles. In the motorcycle helmet example, the two principles that conflict are (1) preservation of life/preventing harm, and (2) autonomy. We see this tension vis-a-vis regulations related to safety (the Patriot Act comes to mind).
Most people think of it as autonomy when the harm might befall only themselves. But sometimes passengers are carried. Examining the efficacy of helmets is also to be considered. Neck injuries may have increased while head injuries have decreased.

So some axioms to consider are that some people may place higher values on autonomy than life. A possible compromise for this issue might be requiring that head protection be available for all passengers of motorcycles. Another possibility is for the life more important than freedom folks to get the helmet law, but for the freedom more important than risk to life from less to get reduced gun control or something similar.
 
If what you say is true, and I agree with you on some level, then marriage is an organic institution with arbitrary boundaries. At present, it seems the purpose of marriage is to define relationships for estate or tax planning objectives.

This brings me back to my original post, which is that the denial of polyamorous marriages or adult incest marriages is essentially arbitrary. And given that these relationships currently exist, and there is no real reason for rejecting such marriages, then perhaps recognizing these relationships as “marriages” is not too far down the road.

(PS - my apologies for not keeping up with the thread. I had been receiving email notifications, but they suddenly stopped, so I did not think the thread was still active).
Does it look moral to you? Homosexuals ask for marriage for tax planning objectives…as far as i know all the financial concesions made for a family have the purpose to promote and consolidate the family as the institution that ensure a natural/normal generation of children. No family, one big step toward anarchism.
 
Most people think of it as autonomy when the harm might befall only themselves. But sometimes passengers are carried. Examining the efficacy of helmets is also to be considered. Neck injuries may have increased while head injuries have decreased.

So some axioms to consider are that some people may place higher values on autonomy than life. A possible compromise for this issue might be requiring that head protection be available for all passengers of motorcycles. Another possibility is for the life more important than freedom folks to get the helmet law, but for the freedom more important than risk to life from less to get reduced gun control or something similar.
I was following you up until your last sentence, which makes no sense.
 
Does it look moral to you? Homosexuals ask for marriage for tax planning objectives…as far as i know all the financial concesions made for a family have the purpose to promote and consolidate the family as the institution that ensure a natural/normal generation of children. No family, one big step toward anarchism.
I think their argument is that it is immoral to deny them federal benefits.
 
I was following you up until your last sentence, which makes no sense.
It is a case of one group conceding one area in exchange for being awarded in another area. Kind of like the principle behind how the farm bill has traditionally been legislated, one groups gets one thing and the other something else.
 
We discussed this in depth on a previous thread, Secular argument against gay marriage, and as I’ve told you a number of times both there and here, I’ve got nothing to add to what has already been said.
Yea we did, however that thread was “secular” reasons, thus there’s not much I can say because with secularism people can accept and reject what ever they feel like accepting or rejecting, there is no absolutes, there is no truth.

Would you be willing to have a discussion with me on whether the sexual acts of homosexuality are sinful or not?

God Bless

Thank you for reading
Josh
 
Why is it OK for you to judge my metaphor of love / care by the worst of nurses and then insist that I judge Holy Matrimony by the best of couples?
I can judge it because it was a terrible metaphore for one, and secondly I asked for a definition, not a metaphor. If you can’t provide a clear definition that can be agreed on just say so.

For the second part, if you’re going to be logically consistent, then you must agree that since almost every study I’ve seen demonstrates that gay and lesbian couples are as much as ten times less likely to stay in committed marriages than heterosexual couples and therefore that rate of failure dictates that they ought not to marry at all.

Nor can you cite successful “marriages” by homosexual couples as proof to the validity of gay marriage.

You just lost your whole argument…
Regarding personal and political thoughts, do you think someone should be legally punished for taking the Lord’s name in vain in public?
Again, an objectivist can and does take the right to freedom of speech more seriously than a subjectivist or relativist.
I am not raising the bar regarding the unprovable, I just think that we should be well aware of when our policy positions hinge on our unprovable axioms that are not universally shared.
Oh, do you mean that “faith based axiom” that says that all men are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights; such as life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness?

The entire justice system is based on such “faith based axioms” and insists that these axioms are absolute and objective and apply equally to all.

As far as the term “universally shared” that term itself is ambiguous. If by “universally shared” you mean “held by us atheists/materialists” the assertion begs the question.

You have to prove that atheism/materialism is the only possible way to look at and accept reality before you can assume that your “axioms” are universal.

Because as of right now materialism is itself a “faith based axiom”.
 
All the Baptist I know are kind of fundamentalists, women wear a scarf over the head, they do not drink alcohol, do not refrain making kids; even to ask them “are you homosexual” would be considered an offense. So why do you mention a secular argument?
I’ve never known any like that although a founding principle of the faith is freedom of belief, we have no creed apart from accepting Christ so they’re free to do as they choose.

Never known any fundamentalist Catholics in real life either, although I’ve met a few on CAF.

The other thread was trying to find a strong secular argument against equal marriage, but imho opponents of equal marriage never really found any good non-religious arguments and kept returning to the bible. Belief in bible inerrancy is of course a measure of fundamentalism but I don’t think any of them were going that far.
 
If what you say is true, and I agree with you on some level, then marriage is an organic institution with arbitrary boundaries. At present, it seems the purpose of marriage is to define relationships for estate or tax planning objectives.

This brings me back to my original post, which is that the denial of polyamorous marriages or adult incest marriages is essentially arbitrary. And given that these relationships currently exist, and there is no real reason for rejecting such marriages, then perhaps recognizing these relationships as “marriages” is not too far down the road.
Democracy is about the will of the people, so theoretically anything could happen, but polygamous marriage would require a major shift in most Western societies, and there are strong taboos against incest due to the catastrophic genetic effects on offspring of inbreeding.

Not sure about any tax benefits. There aren’t any in Spain, I think that’s also true of the UK but don’t know about the US. I think there may be legal benefits, e.g. where no will is made but generally the argument is that society has no moral right to discriminate if two law abiding tax paying citizens want to have their love for each other recognized by society.
(PS - my apologies for not keeping up with the thread. I had been receiving email notifications, but they suddenly stopped, so I did not think the thread was still active).
Yes, strange how the system sometimes forgets to email, but I think the thread has been quiet anyway.
 
I can judge it because it was a terrible metaphore for one, and secondly I asked for a definition, not a metaphor. If you can’t provide a clear definition that can be agreed on just say so.

For the second part, if you’re going to be logically consistent, then you must agree that since almost every study I’ve seen demonstrates that gay and lesbian couples are as much as ten times less likely to stay in committed marriages than heterosexual couples and therefore that rate of failure dictates that they ought not to marry at all.

Nor can you cite successful “marriages” by homosexual couples as proof to the validity of gay marriage.

You just lost your whole argument…

Again, an objectivist can and does take the right to freedom of speech more seriously than a subjectivist or relativist.

Oh, do you mean that “faith based axiom” that says that all men are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights; such as life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness?

The entire justice system is based on such “faith based axioms” and insists that these axioms are absolute and objective and apply equally to all.

As far as the term “universally shared” that term itself is ambiguous. If by “universally shared” you mean “held by us atheists/materialists” the assertion begs the question.

You have to prove that atheism/materialism is the only possible way to look at and accept reality before you can assume that your “axioms” are universal.

Because as of right now materialism is itself a “faith based axiom”.
I’m bad at putting emotional stuff into words. Is love the same between any two people? How can there be agreement if it expresses differently between people?

The heterosexual relationship failure rate is greater than in times past. If it keeps increasing, you must foresee a time when we’ll get rid of marriage altogether as then no one ought to marry.

Why do you think success is not an indicator that something works?

Are you going to give a plain answer to the freedom of speech question or do you realize thatyou do hold differing personal and political thoughts on this issue?

You are not understanding my point on lack of universal acceptance of axioms. Hopefully the discussion I had about this after the quoted post with PRmerger and others clarifies things.

Lastly, this is the second time you’ve accused me of atheism even after I’ve cautioned you against this. Please support your accusation or I will be forced to consider this a personal attack.
 
Yea we did, however that thread was “secular” reasons, thus there’s not much I can say because with secularism people can accept and reject what ever they feel like accepting or rejecting, there is no absolutes, there is no truth.

Would you be willing to have a discussion with me on whether the sexual acts of homosexuality are sinful or not?
No, the OP isn’t about that and we’ve already gone over it on the other thread. If you want to debate it with others there are threads you could join or you can start your own.
 
No, the OP isn’t about that and we’ve already gone over it on the other thread. If you want to debate it with others there are threads you could join or you can start your own.
When I ask you, you evade the question, if I started another thread about it, you would not join it. The question of whether the sexual acts of homosexuality are sinful or not is relevant to “the purpose of marriage” the fact that God created us male and female as Jesus states in the gospel is very relevant to “the purpose of marriage” wouldn’t you agree?
Matthew 19:4-6 (CEV)
4 Jesus answered, “Don’t you know that in the beginning the Creator made a man and a woman? 5 That’s why a man leaves his father and mother and gets married. He becomes like one person with his wife. 6 Then they are no longer two people, but one. And no one should separate a couple that God has joined together.”
I just don’t understand why you come here to criticize those who are against same sex marriage? There must be something driving it, what is it? what are you thinking? What do you hope to achieve?

God Bless

Thank you for reading
Josh
 
Not sure about any tax benefits. There aren’t any in Spain, I think that’s also true of the UK but don’t know about the US. I think there may be legal benefits, e.g. where no will is made but generally the argument is that society has no moral right to discriminate if two law abiding tax paying citizens want to have their love for each other recognized by society.
In the USA there are tax benefits for having a contract of marriage with some one. There are also legal benefits. For example, under fifth amendment rights one is not obligated to make incriminating testimony against one’s self if charged with something in court. This benefit also extends to one’s spouse (so a husband cannot be forced to testify against his wife). But if two people are not married (or they are married, but end up in court in a state that that does not recognize that marriage) and one refuses to give testimony in court that may be incriminating to ones spouse penalties for obstructing justice could be applied.

Medical benefits through an employer can be used to cover medical expenses for off both offspring (or adopted children) and one’s spouse. When the marriage is not recognize the medical benefits can’t be shared nor can joint adoption occur. For an adopted child to be covered by the health benefits the parent with the health insurance would need to be the one adopting. Understanding the implications of those might require understanding how the evolving American health care system works and fails.

There are some other matters in the real of legal rights and benefits that are only accessible through marriage in the USA. Can’t go into all of them here
 
When I ask you, you evade the question, if I started another thread about it, you would not join it. The question of whether the sexual acts of homosexuality are sinful or not is relevant to “the purpose of marriage” the fact that God created us male and female as Jesus states in the gospel is very relevant to “the purpose of marriage” wouldn’t you agree?

I just don’t understand why you come here to criticize those who are against same sex marriage? There must be something driving it, what is it? what are you thinking? What do you hope to achieve?
We discussed this in depth on a previous thread, Secular argument against gay marriage, and as I’ve told you a number of times both there and here, I’ve got nothing to add to what has already been said.

Please stop stalking me. Try to break your obsession with me. I do not want your attention and will not respond to any more of your posts.
 
In the USA there are tax benefits for having a contract of marriage with some one. There are also legal benefits. For example, under fifth amendment rights one is not obligated to make incriminating testimony against one’s self if charged with something in court. This benefit also extends to one’s spouse (so a husband cannot be forced to testify against his wife). But if two people are not married (or they are married, but end up in court in a state that that does not recognize that marriage) and one refuses to give testimony in court that may be incriminating to ones spouse penalties for obstructing justice could be applied.

Medical benefits through an employer can be used to cover medical expenses for off both offspring (or adopted children) and one’s spouse. When the marriage is not recognize the medical benefits can’t be shared nor can joint adoption occur. For an adopted child to be covered by the health benefits the parent with the health insurance would need to be the one adopting. Understanding the implications of those might require understanding how the evolving American health care system works and fails.

There are some other matters in the real of legal rights and benefits that are only accessible through marriage in the USA. Can’t go into all of them here
That’s interesting, thanks. In Spain equal marriage allowed various legal anomalies to be cleared up. For instance although gays had been allowed to adopt for many decades, the adoption could only be in the name of one partner, and if that partner died the other had no automatic legal right to continue as the parent.

The change to the marriage law was very simple. It just involved adding one line: “Matrimony shall have the same requirements and effects when both prospective spouses are the same or different genders”.
 
I think their argument is that it is immoral to deny them federal benefits.
In that case it is an invalid argument because a civil relationship should suffice to obtain federal benefits.

The purpose of marriage should be to safeguard the family - and especially children.
 
The change to the marriage law was very simple. It just involved adding one line: “Matrimony shall have the same requirements and effects when both prospective spouses are the same or different genders”.
The wording of marriage laws differs in each of the USA’s 50 states + territories but tends to be similar. In general changing the verbiage of the law could be done with one line. But there have been some states that have been amending their state laws and constitutions to contain more lines and further anchor their opposition to same sex marriage.
 
That’s interesting, thanks. In Spain equal marriage allowed various legal anomalies to be cleared up. For instance although gays had been allowed to adopt for many decades, the adoption could only be in the name of one partner, and if that partner died the other had no automatic legal right to continue as the parent.

The change to the marriage law was very simple. It just involved adding one line: “Matrimony shall have the same requirements and effects when both prospective spouses are the same or different genders”.
I don’t know if anyone have attempted a mathematical model of a homosexual society to show how fast is going down. It is clear that if everybody is a homosexual means the extintion of that society in a very short time. Homosexuals anyway don’t care because they do not have the burden of the future generation. “Little change” in the marriage laws have no meaning for them other than they can mock the straight persons. Adoptions are not enough for real families that can’t make their own children, so from where do they “want” to adopt them?
 
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