E
elizabeth4truth
Guest
Dear Deen, Straightpath and Maryam V,
Peace to you all and thank you for your responses. I feel I have three new Muslim friends, where I had none before. May Allah continue to bless you, in this life and in the next.
Your explanation of the hijab is very helpful and beautiful. It is like our Catholic religious wearing their habits but all Muslim women are invited, by The Creator, to dress like religious. What a blessing!
Straightpath, you wrote: “A man in order to save his marriage is only allowed to hit his wife with a toothstick.” Did this permission come from Allah or somewhere else? Marital harmony is sometimes tricky, when pride begins to rule. There have been moments in my marriage when I did something stupid that angered my husband. If he is angry with me I am devastated because I love him so and want us always to be in harmony. The thought has crossed my mind that it would be better for him to beat me then to distance himself from me, which is what he does. However, I’m pretty sure my attitude would change if he ever hit me.
Regarding Mohamad’s (may he rest in peace) prophecy there are more women in hell then men. I can see that women have the challenge to respect their husbands but, believe it a greater challenge for men to respect their wives (excepting my husband’s case, of course). By God’s grace and mercy, my desire is to be pleasing to my husband, in all things and obey him as it is prescribed in Ephesians 5:21-34, because it pleases God. But, that came about, I believe, because The Almighty led me to a man who loves me as much as he loves himself. In other words, he is not selfish and does not take advantage of me first, and that makes me want to please him first. What about the husbands who do not respect their wives and take advantage of them? Are there fewer of these then there are women who disrespect their husbands? I do not think so. I think husbands and wives both suffer when they do not appreciate the goodness that dwells in the other, or when either attempts to dominate the other, for selfish desires.
Wishing you peace and wellness,
Elizabeth
Peace to you all and thank you for your responses. I feel I have three new Muslim friends, where I had none before. May Allah continue to bless you, in this life and in the next.
Your explanation of the hijab is very helpful and beautiful. It is like our Catholic religious wearing their habits but all Muslim women are invited, by The Creator, to dress like religious. What a blessing!
Straightpath, you wrote: “A man in order to save his marriage is only allowed to hit his wife with a toothstick.” Did this permission come from Allah or somewhere else? Marital harmony is sometimes tricky, when pride begins to rule. There have been moments in my marriage when I did something stupid that angered my husband. If he is angry with me I am devastated because I love him so and want us always to be in harmony. The thought has crossed my mind that it would be better for him to beat me then to distance himself from me, which is what he does. However, I’m pretty sure my attitude would change if he ever hit me.
Regarding Mohamad’s (may he rest in peace) prophecy there are more women in hell then men. I can see that women have the challenge to respect their husbands but, believe it a greater challenge for men to respect their wives (excepting my husband’s case, of course). By God’s grace and mercy, my desire is to be pleasing to my husband, in all things and obey him as it is prescribed in Ephesians 5:21-34, because it pleases God. But, that came about, I believe, because The Almighty led me to a man who loves me as much as he loves himself. In other words, he is not selfish and does not take advantage of me first, and that makes me want to please him first. What about the husbands who do not respect their wives and take advantage of them? Are there fewer of these then there are women who disrespect their husbands? I do not think so. I think husbands and wives both suffer when they do not appreciate the goodness that dwells in the other, or when either attempts to dominate the other, for selfish desires.
Wishing you peace and wellness,
Elizabeth