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Lexee15
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Well this may be a thread that could be posted in the parenting area, but I put it here since there may be posters who don’t venture into the parenting forum and I need all the help and prayers I can get right now 
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I went in for my ultrasound today and was told that I’m having a little girl
, but there is something wrong with her. Apparently her arms and legs were measuring too small which leads them to the conclusion that she’s got some kind of skeletal dysplasia, how severe is unknown right now. I had a series of ultrasounds done and then was given my “options” I could terminate right now, continue with more tests and then determine termination then or continue with the pregnancy. I was told that IF she survived after birth she would have significant health problems for the rest of her life which is why I was being given the option to terminate. I said NO termination, so no further testing is required, but I am devastated, trying to wonder how this happened. There is no family history of this and we are not related, apparently being related may cause this…when this was ruled out I asked the doctor what went wrong and he said that it just happened there is no explination.
He said there is always hope, but he wasn’t doing his job if I walked out of there thinking things were going to be okay…that reality was that I was facing a very, very ill child if she even survived. I’m putting this in God’s and the Blessed Mother’s hands, He knows what he’s doing and why and there must be a reason, I will accept His will, but it still hurts and I am very sad about the whole situation. I will continue to pray and yes…hope for a miracle…there is nothing that can be done which makes things harder, I feel helpless because I can’t come to the aid of my precious baby. I beg for your prayers for her, I’m not important here anymore, she is, the name I chose for her is Fatima Abigail, after Our Lady of Fatima (I picked this name before today if she was a girl).
I do feel like this may be too much for me, but I know I must stay strong for both my babies and God will not abondon me…I just wonder why? She has done nothing wrong, I feel like she may be paying for mine and my husband’s sins, my cross is so heavy already, I’m on my knees now and just want my child to be okay . Any and all prayers will be greatly appreciated, thank you.
.I went in for my ultrasound today and was told that I’m having a little girl
, but there is something wrong with her. Apparently her arms and legs were measuring too small which leads them to the conclusion that she’s got some kind of skeletal dysplasia, how severe is unknown right now. I had a series of ultrasounds done and then was given my “options” I could terminate right now, continue with more tests and then determine termination then or continue with the pregnancy. I was told that IF she survived after birth she would have significant health problems for the rest of her life which is why I was being given the option to terminate. I said NO termination, so no further testing is required, but I am devastated, trying to wonder how this happened. There is no family history of this and we are not related, apparently being related may cause this…when this was ruled out I asked the doctor what went wrong and he said that it just happened there is no explination.He said there is always hope, but he wasn’t doing his job if I walked out of there thinking things were going to be okay…that reality was that I was facing a very, very ill child if she even survived. I’m putting this in God’s and the Blessed Mother’s hands, He knows what he’s doing and why and there must be a reason, I will accept His will, but it still hurts and I am very sad about the whole situation. I will continue to pray and yes…hope for a miracle…there is nothing that can be done which makes things harder, I feel helpless because I can’t come to the aid of my precious baby. I beg for your prayers for her, I’m not important here anymore, she is, the name I chose for her is Fatima Abigail, after Our Lady of Fatima (I picked this name before today if she was a girl).
I do feel like this may be too much for me, but I know I must stay strong for both my babies and God will not abondon me…I just wonder why? She has done nothing wrong, I feel like she may be paying for mine and my husband’s sins, my cross is so heavy already, I’m on my knees now and just want my child to be okay
. Any and all prayers will be greatly appreciated, thank you.
Beth
))) Lexee, I am so sorry to hear this. I am hoping and praying that your daughter is born sound and healthly and you too have a safe and healthly pregnancy. As the mother of a teenage boy born with autism, non-verbal, and his funcutioning level is so low he is also considered to be mentally retarded, My husband struggles with this guilt somewhat still toay. He was 30 when we married, (I was just 20 and a virgin) he lived with someone, had many girlfriends that he had slept with, even paid for an abortion for one girl, to later find out he was one of 3 men who paid for it. Before he met me he Confessed and repented, returned to the Church and lived a chaste life. He told me everything before we married in 1976. Our last child born in 1988, is the one who was born disabled. I just recently set it up for him to speak with another Priest about this (he’s too embarrassed to speak to Our Pastor about his past sins) What I am trying to say, I seem to be rambling, is let go of the guilt, don’t wait years keeping this inside as he did, God does not “punish” innocent children for our sins. Talk to someone, your Priest. My belief is whatever may happen, its God’s plan for all of us. Having my son has helped me to have a deeper understanding of my Faith and more care and concern for people with disabilities. And as our Pastor said during the Homily for his First Commuion, “Tony already has the Faith and Purity that we all strive for” God Bless you Kay