Three cheers for "cafeteria" Catholics

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Forgive the long post, but you touched on an area that is… the opposite of a pet peeve, maybe? One of those subjects that I have a hard time not talking about at length. In any case, you started an avalanche.
I am not someone who can take everything at face value. If I don’t understand something, I ask questions. Sometimes I understand the answers and sometimes I don’t.
Asking questions and seeking to understand are absolutely good things. However, the point of asking questions is to find answers, and if you end up finding two contradictory answers, then that means that one of them is wrong, and the next logical step is to determine which one.
Faith is different than science, for instance, where things can be proven. Faith is a belief or devotion to someone or something without logical proof. We are all on a faith journey, and we are all imperfect.
Actually, in science no positive theory (about what will always happen) is actually proved, it is just determined to be a reasonably good model to within the parameters of our measurements. Merely finding lots of supporting evidence doesn’t actually prove things.

True proof is the purview of math, philosophy, and, yes, theology. Some facts, such as the existence of God, can straight up be proved from reasoning. Some other facts, like that the revelation upon which Christianity is built is true, are not philosophically proven as far as I know, but can be shown to be reasonable, can be shown to be the best fit to the data we have - much like scientific theories. Faith comes in at this point, and by it we immerse ourselves in the revelation God has given us and experience it more deeply and order our lives to it - but we don’t just do that randomly. We don’t just pick some random collection of creeds we found on the street somewhere to shape our lives; we put our faith in that which we have seen to be reasonable.

And after that, we’re back to absolute proof again, using the Christianity we’ve accepted as a sort of axiom. Not even necessarily all of it need be axiomatic - you don’t have to have accepted every tenet of Catholicism on the level of faith for reason to lead you to Catholicism. What we know about the general goodness of God, and a few historical events such as the Resurrection and a few conversations with the Apostles (or some other things that logically point to those things) are sufficient. And that leads to the statement, absolutely proven from within the framework of basic Christianity that the Church is the Church, and Catholicism is right. (Obviously non-Catholics would disagree with me here, but I am speaking from a Catholic perspective and, of course, I obviously think they’re wrong. A Catholic should clearly think that the evidence points towards Catholicism.)

And here’s the thing - when someone someone says they are Catholic, they are saying that that is what happened. Some basic factual background - maybe starting with one of the five ways, maybe starting merely with the idea that there is actually such thing as good in the world, something - has led them to believe in God and finally in the Church. But once you say that A is true then you are automatically saying that anything that A implies is true.

So to say “I am Catholic, but I think the Church is wrong about X authoritatively defined issue” is to say “I admit that everything starting from the very basics of how reality is constructed points to God, and that the actions of God point to the truth of Catholicism, and that the truth of Catholicism points to the non-existence of gay marriage (or whatever), and so in essence I admit that the non-existence of gay marriage is a direct result of the most fundamental structure of reality, and yet, because I have yet to grasp some of the last couple steps there, I think that it actually exists despite all of this.”

Our own imperfections (which we certainly do all have) play no role here. Neither does the fact that we’re all at different stages of understanding what little humans can understand play any role in determining what can be understood. And the idea of proof, most definitely does apply. Faith is not an excuse to abandon logic, faith gives us a direction to point our logic, a starting place so that we can better determine what is true.
I believe it is wrong to denigrate someone by calling them a hyphenated Catholic simply because they ask questions.
First, even for the person who says they are Catholic and yet rejects Catholic teaching, I only say they are wrong and are explicitly professing a contradiction, not that I think they’re evil scumbags. No denigration implied.

But second, and more importantly, asking questions is a good thing, seeking answers is a good thing, trying to work through any apparent contradictions you find while doing so is a good thing.

No one is attacking asking questions.

What we’re saying is bad is giving up and accepting the contradiction. “A” and “not A” cannot both be true at the same time, you must pick one.
 
I’ve heard that it may be better for the church to lose the lukewarm Catholics even if we have to met in homes for awhile. We will be a stronger church in the long run.

The lukewarm ones may return with firmer views of Christ’s teachings when they see a stronger church.
 
Faith is different than science, for instance, where things can be proven. Faith is a belief or devotion to someone or something without logical proof. We are all on a faith journey, and we are all imperfect.
Perhaps this might also help:
Faith is not a logical conclusion. It is a higher knowledge, which is not contrary to reason, but which admits of an order higher than that of science.
. . . Newman countered the Enlightenment’s understanding of reason, a reduced notion of reason, which sets itself as the judge of all truth and demands scientific evidence, arguing that faith in God is possible without formal evidence. In fact, as Newman points out, many truths are received implicitly. Often people cannot explain what they know to be true and yet this does not diminish the truth of their claims.
An Englishmen may never have traveled to the shore, but he is absolutely certain that England is an island. What’s more, knowledge held implicitly is often held most strongly. Newman did not give weight to “paper arguments” about God’s existence; as he wrote: “Many a man will live and die upon a dogma: no man will be a martyr for a conclusion. . . . No one, I say, will die for his calculations: he dies for realities.”
Blessed Cardinal Newman
 
Dictionary definition of faith: belief or trust: belief in, devotion to, or trust in somebody or something, especially without logical proof
Merely because this is a definition of faith does not mean it is the only definition of faith and neither does it mean that it is the Church’s definition.

This might help:
winteryknight.wordpress.com/?s=Faith

There is a longstanding discussion of what is meant by “faith” and very clearly your definition is not that of Peter, for example, who told the early Church to be ready to give reasons for their faith. Apologetics is all about giving reasons. Aquinas wrote two summas giving logically spelled out deductive proofs for what are considered many of the articles of Catholic faith.

If you consider science as dealing with “proofs” of the logically or mathematically certain kind, which epistemologically is what is required for certainty, then you are mistaken. Premises of science are probative. They require further evidence which must be observationally shown to be likely or highly likely, but never certain because ultimately the premises of science are inductive or generalized from observations or experimental trials.
 
Dictionary definition of faith: belief or trust: belief in, devotion to, or trust in somebody or something, especially without logical proof
What is interesting here is that you share a definition of “faith” that is rampant among atheists, but seen quite differently by theists.

A poll by the Unbelievable? radio program following a discussion concerning the definition of faith by Tim McGrew and Peter Boghossian showed that overwhelmingly (93%) theists do NOT use the word in the manner you depict but a majority of atheists (76%) believe that theists do. (See attachment and this link.) What that shows, if anything, is that atheists are quite a dismissive lot and do not seem to be willing to view the meaning of faith as seen from the perspective of believers, choosing rather to “straw man” what faith is.

The discussion by McGrew and Boghossian also demonstrates that this is the case.

McGrew does an excellent job dismantling Boghossian’s insistence that his (and your) definition is accurate.

Listen to his argument (if your dare) beginning at about 14:25 of the audio…
media.premier.org.uk/unbelievable/4460ed98-78b0-4c94-b9f5-49865a96211f.mp3
 
This will probably rub some the wrong way, but here goes. No, I will not cheer for Cafeteria catholics. That term as I understand it, is far removed from the Catholic, and there are many, who struggle with certain Church teachings but humbly submits to her authority. A cafeteria catholic on the other hand, has full knowledge of what the Church teaches, but whether through their pride, political leanings, or just following and trusting secular trends, they have decided to just say no to the Church. They are in effect saying; No Jesus, I don’t fully trust this Church that You founded. And I don’t accept the Authority that You have handed to Peter and the Vicars who followed. Your Church stands in the way of my pleasures and happiness. And I absolutely refuse to acquiesce, humbly or otherwise!..Just my unpopular :twocents:
“I cannot and refuse to shut off my brain. If I have a moral objection to something in the Church that I have researched thoroughly and prayed about,*** I should not have to shrug and assume the Church is right and I’m wrong.”***
Wow!

Peace, Mark
 
This will probably rub some the wrong way, but here goes. No, I will not cheer for Cafeteria catholics. That term as I understand it, is far removed from the Catholic, and there are many, who struggle with certain Church teachings but humbly submits to her authority. A cafeteria catholic on the other hand, has full knowledge of what the Church teaches, but whether through their pride, political leanings, or just following and trusting secular trends, they have decided to just say no to the Church. They are in effect saying; No Jesus, I don’t fully trust this Church that You founded. And I don’t accept the Authority that You have handed to Peter and the Vicars who followed. Your Church stands in the way of my pleasures and happiness. And I absolutely refuse to acquiesce, humbly or otherwise!..Just my unpopular :twocents:
“I cannot and refuse to shut off my brain. If I have a moral objection to something in the Church that I have researched thoroughly and prayed about, I should not have to shrug and assume the Church is right and I’m wrong.”
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Yes, Mark, and not only are we unwilling to practice virtues such as humility, trust and submission, but we are living through this dreadful scourge of moral relativism that does not bring enlightenment, but only a closed and darkened mind.

My truth is the only one that counts!”

Here are a few intellectual arguments for those truly seeking answers and unable to assent.

Try to refute this honesty from Dr. Peter Kreeft: (emphasis added - mine)
The issue of moral relativism is merely the single most important issue of our age, for no society in all of human history has ever survived without rejecting the philosophy that I am about to refute. There has never been a society of relativists. Therefore, our society will do one of three things: either disprove one of the most universally established laws of all history; or repent of its relativism and survive; or persist in its relativism and perish.
“I gotta be me!” (I see this used quite often in the debate with gays)
“Morality is always dreadfully complicated to a man who has lost all his principles.”
~ G. K. Chesterton ~
Relativism has never produced a saint.
Moral absolutism produces the bad feelings of guilt and unhappiness, while moral relativism produces the good feelings of self-esteem and happiness. Therefore, [say the relativists] moral absolutism is bad, and moral relativism is good.
 
Yes, Mark, and not only are we unwilling to practice virtues such as humility, trust and submission, but we are living through this dreadful scourge of moral relativism that does not bring enlightenment, but only a closed and darkened mind.
Funny. My personal experience traces my previously darkened and closed mind to humility, trust, and submission. Fancy that. 👍
 
Reminds me of an Advertisement that we had on the Television two years ago, if you have a Mercedes Benz car, but if you replace the oil filter, windows, and everything under the hood ( we say bonnet) is full of generic parts, and don’t replace them with Mercedes Benz parts, well then your not driving a Mercedes but a fake because its made up of parts that are not from Mercedes, same as being a Catholic, if you replace all your thinking, dogmas and teachings of the Magisterium with non Catholic ones, then you are not a Catholic, your a fake.
 
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I know a lot of people on CAF complain about so-called “cafeteria” Catholics who disagree with the Church on certain issues. In fact, when I was deciding whether to get baptized or not I was told point-blank by some members here that the church would be better off without me.

But I was thinking about it today, and here’s what I thought:

By a lot of accounts, something like 70% of Catholics disagree with doctrine on at least one of the major “social justice” issues. Now, yes, people are entitled to wishing that those 70% would become come more in-line with traditional views. But what if they went the other way?

Could the Catholic Church as an institution (at least as we know it today) survive if 70% of its members decided to, say, become Episcopalians instead? I can’t be the only “cafeteria” Catholic who’s a regular church-goers who supports their parishes both socially and financially. What would it look like if all of those people walked?

Maybe I’m just in a mood today, but I think we should be applauding people who hang on to this faith by their fingernails instead of complaining about them. There’s a saying that courage isn’t not being afraid, it’s being afraid and going ahead anyway. Something similar could probably be said in this case. It’s easy to do what the church wants if you agree with it. But three cheers for those who try to stay with and support the church despite personal differences that they can’t reconcile.

Just my two cents.
I have no idea about what the Church would be like, but perhaps a Church where everyone was totally committed would be a healthier Church–even if it was a poorer Church.

I don’t advocate “cafeteria” catholics leaving the Church --I’d rather that they stay and continue to study and hopefully grow in their faith–but all too often I am not sure they’re interested in study and growth.

Here is my issue–many “cafeteria” catholics eventually end up leaving the Church because --well they end up not liking the Churches teachings and get tired of hearing about the ones they disagree with. Here is what I think they are thinking–“Whenever I listen to Church teaching I feel like the Church is trying to interfere with my life.” Well yeah–that is kind of the point. What “cafeteria” catholic’s are saying is that–they believe in Jesus. They don’t mind going to Mass on Sunday. They’ll pray before meals. But what they don’t want is Jesus i.e. the Church to interfere with their lives. They want to be “fans” of Jesus but it seem pretty clear from even a superficial reading of the Bible that Jesus is not interested in “fans” but in totally committed followers. The Gospels are filled with those who couldn’t commit and stopped following him.

I don’t mind “cafeteria” catholics who are searching, who are struggling to follow Christ, who are searching for the truth. I do object to those who aren’t searching, who aren’t trying to understand and who instead are trying to get the Church to changes it’s teaching to conform to todays world–when they haven’t tried to really understand Church teaching.

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
I do object to those who aren’t searching, who aren’t trying to understand and who instead are trying to get the Church to changes it’s teaching to conform to todays world–when they haven’t tried to really understand Church teaching.
I thought the Church was a hospital for sinners? Has it ever occurred to you that some of us are staying because we still just have a little bit of hope left that it actually lives up to that instead of just mutilating people’s lives (as it did mine)?

Sadly, that doesn’t mean I’ll hold my breath. The institution has a lot to prove if it wants me to stop looking for the second opinion to my personal problems.
 
As a faith, yes. As an institution, no.

If the church lost 70% of its members there would be fewer Catholics than Buddhists in the world. How many Buddhist temples are you aware of where you live? How many Buddhists do you know personally? Other than the immense popularity of the dalai lama, Buddhists don’t really have much sway in world politics that I’m aware of. What I’m getting at is that – if the 70% statistic is right – the fact that all those cafeteria Catholics still identify themselves as Catholics is what’s keeping the Catholic Church from losing most of the social capital that allows it to do what it does in the world.
Actually from a support standpoint I don’t know how much they’d be missed. why? Because 6.4% of registered parishioners contribute 80% of the volunteer hour in a parish.

6.8% of registered parishioners donate 80% of financial contributions.

There is an 84% overlap between the groups.

So roughly 7% of Catholic parishioners in any give parish are doing almost everything in their faith communities and paying almost entirely for the maintenance and mission of the parish.

So it is unclear to me just how much the parish would actually change.

Those 70% who disagree with Church teaching actually undermine our social capital by advocating and supporting social policies that are in direct opposition to Church teaching.

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
I thought the Church was a hospital for sinners? Has it ever occurred to you that some of us are staying because we still just have a little bit of hope left that it actually lives up to that instead of just mutilating people’s lives (as it did mine)?

Sadly, that doesn’t mean I’ll hold my breath. The institution has a lot to prove if it wants me to stop looking for the second opinion to my personal problems.
It is–did I say differently? When you go to the hospital do you tell the Dr.'s how to treat you illness? Do you tell them the diagnosis? Do you go when you don’t think you’re sick? Yet that is what many do with the Church.-- they come claiming it is the Churches teaching that is sick and in need of healing. I am all for people who seeking healing staying in the Church trying to get it–I thought I said that.

I don’t know you story but is it Church teaching that mutilated you life–or was it people failing to live the Churches teaching?

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
It is–did I say differently? When you go to the hospital do you tell the Dr.'s how to treat you illness? Do you tell them the diagnosis? Do you go when you don’t think you’re sick? Yet that is what many do with the Church.-- they come claiming it is the Churches teaching that is sick and in need of healing. I am all for people who seeking healing staying in the Church trying to get it–I thought I said that.
Well according to this doctor, people shouldn’t hesitate to seek a second medical opinion. So you tell me, does the Church value my well-being or my obedience? Because frankly, I’ve experienced only the latter come at the expense of the former.
I don’t know you story but is it Church teaching that mutilated you life–or was it people failing to live the Churches teaching?
Both.
 
Threads like these make me think maybe I’m not in the right religion.

I want to be Catholic, honestly. Believe me when I say I do. I was raised in this religion and would hopefully raise my own children in it. I have had personal experiences with God that have left me unable to doubt His presence in my life.

But I cannot and refuse to shut off my brain. If I have a moral objection to something in the Church that I have researched thoroughly and prayed about, I should not have to shrug and assume the Church is right and I’m wrong. With no room for debate or understanding, how is any institution supposed to flourish?

God gave us logic and critical thinking for a reason. I think oftentimes Catholics want me to use my logic but only if the end result is Catholicism. If my faculties point me to the slightest deviation from the Catechism, then I simply am not thinking about it hard enough or haven’t read enough (God forbid) Aquinas. And if in spite of all that I still don’t see “The Truth” then I ought to give up my will and assume the Church is right.

Maybe this is pride talking, or my ego desperate not to be given up, but these are genuine frustrations that the Church has to response to.
What does the Bible say about the wisdom of men? We have 2000+ years of great minds–minds much smarter than mine–thinking about and praying about these issues–yet somehow most Catholics today think that we are wiser–even though they are not as well read or skilled in logical thinking–they just have this gut feeling based largely on the culture they have been raised in. I think part of the problem is that we can’t see how we have been influenced by the culture we live in. Why do you assume you are wiser than the collective wisdom of the Church? What other areas of your life do you assert this same authority? With doctors? If you don’t understand something do you take the treatment or role you eyes and say what do you think I just need to read more medical studies–I’m not taking that shot I don’t think I need it.

The peace of Christ,
mark
 
Well according to this doctor, people shouldn’t hesitate to seek a second medical opinion. So you tell me, does the Church value my well-being or my obedience? Because frankly, I’ve experienced only the latter come at the expense of the former.

Both.
I see, so being told to seek the professional opinion of another doctor somehow invalidates the other poster’s analogy of people showing up at the hospital (the Church) and dictating to the hospital and it’s staff (clergy) what is actually wrong with them and what their treatment should be, and what the hospital and the staff are getting wrong because they (the uninformed patient/church member) know better than the staff?

As for well being or obedience, it’s both. The obedience part falls under the well being part. Same way parents expect obedience from their children because the parents are looking after the well being of the child. But, let’s go back to the hospital analogy. The only doctors that really care about their patients are the ones that don’t expect the patients to obey their medical instructions to take their medications, not do certain things, etc. Right?
 
Well according to this doctor, people shouldn’t hesitate to seek a second medical opinion. So you tell me, does the Church value my well-being or my obedience? Because frankly, I’ve experienced only the latter come at the expense of the former.

Both.
That is not enough information for me to comment on but this is a public forum and I am not sure I would want that information. I will acknowledge that I have a hard time understanding how a “teaching” mutilates a persons life. How do you define your well being? In my experience faithfulness to Church teaching doesn’t mutilate my life–it is when I deviate from that teaching–trying to do what I think will make me happy and fulfill me–that I run into problems. I guess I don’t see obedience to Church teaching and my well being as mutually exclusive–I see them as interrelated. Christ has called me to follow him no matter the cost. Ultimately my well being will only be determined by whether or not I followed Christ and did the will of his father so as to get to heaven–really nothing else matters.

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
I see, so being told to seek the professional opinion of another doctor somehow invalidates the other poster’s analogy of people showing up at the hospital (the Church) and dictating to the hospital and it’s staff (clergy) what is actually wrong with them and what their treatment should be, and what the hospital and the staff are getting wrong because they (the uninformed patient/church member) know better than the staff?
You do know that’s often the case of today’s healthcare industry right? At the risk of derailing the thread, I’ve seen more than one article about people gaining more control over their own healthcare.

Then again, maybe it’s not that far off topic. I’m just asking: What is the Church prepared to do when it’s faced with the same situation? (Assuming it’s not digging itself into that hole already.)
As for well being or obedience, it’s both. The obedience part falls under the well being part. Same way parents expect obedience from their children because the parents are looking after the well being of the child. But, let’s go back to the hospital analogy. The only doctors that really care about their patients are the ones that don’t expect the patients to obey their medical instructions to take their medications, not do certain things, etc. Right?
Yet here’s the thing, I’m not a kid. Heck, Church teaching played a major role in keeping my mind thinking like a stupid one. I really don’t find it cute when Catholics shy from the possibility that obedience can harm well-being.

For me, it was more than a possibility. It actually happened.
 
You do know that’s often the case of today’s healthcare industry right? At the risk of derailing the thread, I’ve seen more than one article about people gaining more control over their own healthcare.

Then again, maybe it’s not that far off topic. I’m just asking: What is the Church prepared to do when it’s faced with the same situation? (Assuming it’s not digging itself into that hole already.)

Yet here’s the thing, I’m not a kid. Heck, Church teaching played a major role in keeping my mind thinking like a stupid one. I really don’t find it cute when Catholics shy from the possibility that obedience can harm well-being.

For me, it was more than a possibility. It actually happened.
Two patients go to the hospital to see the same doctor for a serious medical issue. The doctor gives both patients the same instructions. Patient A follows said instructions and gets better. Patient B disagrees with the doctor, demands a second opinion, the second doctor gives Patient B the same instructions. Patient B ignores the instructions, seeks advice from someone with no clue about medicine. Patient B returns to the hospital about his medical issue complaining about how the doctor hasn’t cured him yet. The doctor asks if he followed his instructions. Patient B says no because he didn’t agree with the doctor’s conclusions and knew better. The doctor gives Patient B the same instructions and tells him to follow them this time. Patient B leaves, curses the doctor for not caring about his well being and about being on a power trip wanting the patients to blindly obey the doctor. Patient B doesn’t get better, continues to blame the doctor and the hospital for not caring enough about him to cure him.

So who’s acting like a child? The patient that actually listened to the people who knew more about medicine than himself, or the patient that decided to do his own thing because he “knew” better than the experts?
 
That is not enough information for me to comment on but this is a public forum and I am not sure I would want that information.
Well at least you realize that. It’d be nice if others on these boards would come to terms with it.
I will acknowledge that I have a hard time understanding how a “teaching” mutilates a persons life. How do you define your well being? In my experience faithfulness to Church teaching doesn’t mutilate my life–it is when I deviate from that teaching–trying to do what I think will make me happy and fulfill me–that I run into problems.
What can I say? It’s been the opposite with me. Taking control of my own life and prioritizing my own happiness actually gave me more of it. I don’t know if it’s perfect but is it better? Definitely. 🤷
I guess I don’t see obedience to Church teaching and my well being as mutually exclusive–I see them as interrelated. Christ has called me to follow him no matter the cost. Ultimately my well being will only be determined by whether or not I followed Christ and did the will of his father so as to get to heaven–really nothing else matters.
Maybe you don’t and perhaps it’d be better that you never have to. I’m just saying that I was more prone to sacrificing my well-being when I made the Church a higher priority compared to shutting it off.
So who’s acting like a child? The patient that actually listened to the people who knew more about medicine than himself, or the patient that decided to do his own thing because he “knew” better than the experts?
You’re not answering my question and it’s not helping. Your premise presumes the doctor is somehow infallible and that two doctors reach the same conclusion. Didn’t I just give you links stating that even doctors get second opinions on patients from colleagues? Your situation would be highly challenged if your Patient B actually got better from a different solution posed by a different doctor. (And yes, I will tell you this is me in this case.)

I repeat: What is this Church prepared to do when that happens? What does it ever do when people find healing outside it?
 
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