Throwing away pornography

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well, ime going through a bit of a relapse at this stage, and have kind of fallen a bit. have downloaded a few photos from the web, although i would describe them as mild glamour, its still an ongoing battle to draw the fine line between what is acceptable and what is not. am thankful at least that i am winning the battle against the hardcore material, but it will take some time. i really dont want to become too much of a prude with this
 
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Mostolto, may I suggest you move this discussion over to the impurity addiction forum?
 
i have been addicted to pornography since i was at school, over 30yrs ago. a few months ago i threw away my entire collection of over 100 000 x-rated photos and videos, that i had accumulated, over many years. this had a very negative effect on me, i imagine something like one would go through whilst withdrawing from hard drugs. i have subsequently been succoming intermittently to the pull of pornography, by occasionally downloading x photos and video from the internet, but have largely been succesfully in deleteing most of what i have downloaded. a few days ago i saw an entry in the newspaper classifieds, advertising the sale of adult video dvd’s, and regrettablly, i responded, and subsequently purchased some of these. i am really battling now to get rid of them, as i know that i have spent money for them, yet i know that getting rid of them, is the only way that i will ever be able to recover fully from this addiction. my conscience is bothering me, but i want to come clean. is there anyone struggling with a simular problem, and does anyone have any advise on how to throw away pornography?
While I have never looked at pornography, I was addicted to masturbating for many years, starting in very early childhood. I finally was able to quit for good about 5 or 6 years ago. The trick, I find, to conquering any temptation is to nip it in the bud. If we even let it in for a moment… a moment of consideration, thought, even a thought about how bad it is, immediately it can start to get out of hand and grow into a temptation too big to bear, and then we fall.

So, as soon as you see an add for porn, throw the paper away or close the internet window. If a thought pops into your head, calmly ignore it and turn to positive things. Also, regular exercise is a great help, as well as doing something productive. Cleaning helps me tremendously, but even doing a hobby or craft or watching funny animal videos on Youtube can help. But first and foremost, give it to God. Each time the temptation starts, say a quick prayer of abandonment to His will, and then occupy yourself with something else.

Also, some great saints to help with this are:

St. Mary of Egypt (She was a sex addict who later became a mystic)
St. Margaret of Cortona (She was a mistress and lived a luxurious life who later became a mystic)
St. Augustine (He had a wild youth and a child out of wedlock and later went on to be a bishop)
St. Dominic (He was imprisoned by his own family and locked in a tower. Then, they sent him a prostitute, which he chased from the room with a torch. Since he fought to keep his purity, God gave him a special grace to guard his purity. He is a great intercessor for this virtue.
St. Mary Magdalene - She was the prostitute whom Jesus drove 7 demons from (though some people debate this was a different Mary)
 
CHAPTER 13 – On Resisting Temptations [The Imitation of Christ]

So long as we live in this world, we cannot remain without trial and temptation: as Job says, “Man’s life on earth is a warfare.” We must therefore be on guard against temptations, and watchful in prayer, that the Devil find no means of deceiving us; for he never rests, but prowls around seeking whom he may devour. No one is so perfect and holy that he is never tempted, and we can never be secure from temptation.

Although temptations are so troublesome and grievous, yet they are often profitable to us, for by them we are humbled, cleansed, and instructed. All the Saints endured manly trials and temptations, and profited by them; but those who could not resist temptations became reprobate, and fell away. There is no Order so holy, nor place so secluded, where there are no troubles and temptations.

No man can be entirely free from temptation so long as he lives; for the source of temptation lies within our own nature, since we are born with an inclination towards evil. When one temptation or trial draws to a close, another takes its place; and we shall always have something to fight, for man has lost the blessing of original happiness. Many try to escape temptations, only to encounter them more fiercely, for no one can win victory by flight alone; it is only by patience and true humility that we can grow stronger than all our foes.

The man who only avoids the outward occasions of evil, but fails to uproot it in himself, will gain little advantage. Indeed, temptations will return upon him the sooner, and he will find himself in a worse state than before. Little by little and by patient endurance you will overcome them by God’s help, better than by your own violence and importunity. Seek regular advice in temptation, and never deal harshly with those who are tempted, but give them such encouragement as you would value yourself.

The beginning of all evil temptation is an unstable mind and lack of trust in God. Just as a ship without a helm is driven to and fro by the waves, so a careless man, who abandons his proper course, is tempted in countless ways. Fire tempers steel, and temptation the just man. We often do not know what we can bear, but temptation reveals our true nature. We need especially to be on our guard at the very onset of temptation, for then the Enemy may be more easily overcome, if he is not allowed to enter the gates of the mind: he must be repulsed at the threshold, as soon as he knocks. Thus the poet Ovid writes, “Resist at the beginning; the remedy may come too late.” For first there comes into the mind an evil thought: next, a vivid picture: then delight, and urge to evil, and finally consent. In this way the Enemy gradually gains complete mastery, when he is not resisted at first. And the longer a slothful man delays resistance, the weaker he becomes, and the stronger his enemy grows against him.

Some people undergo their heaviest temptations at the beginning of their conversion; some towards the end of their course; others are greatly troubled all their lives; while there are some whose temptations are but light. This is in accordance with the wisdom and justice of God’s ordinance, who weighs the condition and merits of every man, and disposes all things for the salvation of those whom He chooses.

We must not despair, therefore, when we are tempted, but earnestly pray God to grant us his help in every need. For, as Saint Paul says, “With the temptation, God will provide a way to overcome it, that we may be able to bear bear it.” So, let us humble ourselves under the hand of God, in every trial and trouble, for He will save and raise up the humble in Spirit. In all these trials, our progress is tested; in them great merit may be secured, and our virtue become evident. It is no great matter if we are devout and fervent when we have no troubles; but if we show patience in adversity, we can make great progress in virtue. Some are spared severe temptations, but are overcome in the lesser ones of every day, in order that they may be humble, and learn not to trust in themselves, but to recognize their frailty.
thanks for this…heh,heh
 
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